to think my SIL is a "chav" for wanting to buy her wedding dress from BHS?

[Mamazon]

of course it's none of my business and im sure i should just mind my own but, really? BHS?

We looked at BHS and Debenhams dresses last year when my SIL was searching for wedding dresses.

I have to say that there is a huge difference between a department store dress and an dress from a specialist store, especially when you are buying boned, strapless dresses. Having a large bust, I felt much more supported in the bridesmaids dresses from the specialist stores than in the BHS dresses. They felt a lot flimsier and just not so well made.

Saying that, they are only a fraction of the price and if you have a good dressmaker to make the adjustments then they could be made to fit well.

My SIL ended up with a dress from BHS sale but will probably not wear it as she has been offered a 2nd hand dress from a friend. It is from Monsoon, so not a designer dress either.

Mamazon,
YABU (in case the first 200 posters have not convinced you)

Ah, just read your post about her settling for a BHS dress and perhaps regretting it.

The best advice I got when looking for a wedding dress was go into several shops and try on all styles of dresses, even ones that you don't really think that you would like.

The dress that I bought was one that at first I had flat out rejected, too plain, too wide skirt. My cousin persuaded me to try it on and I just loved it.

Could you suggest a day out in town looking at dresses, having lunch, drinking wine at lunchtime? Would she do that?

I'm wishing HQ would include the name of the OP in the Active Cons listing, rather than just the latest post; then I could avoid cluttering up my brain with drivel posted by wind-up merchants.

Oh don't be such a snob.
I applaud anyone who does not buy into the vulagrity of over the top weddings.

you are being completely unreasonable. and a vile snob to boot.

Oh for heavens sake, it's just a dress!

Why do people care so much about their friggin wedding days?! There was me thinking that it was supposed to be about your commitment to another person, instead of a costly wedding day, which in my opinion just seems to be turning more and more circus like. I think it's ridiculous.

Well done to her for going to BHS and being sensible! Having said that I still think that forking out £250 for a dress that gets worn once is madness.

I think the whole wedding thing makes some people loose sight of why they're getting married in the first place. Surely 2 people commiting to each other is special enough for the day, instead of spending stupid ammounts of money on it?

yabu - if you realised how cheap it actually , is to make most of the dresses that people pay extravagent sums for, you would be calling her shrewd.

I made the same dress that I was quoted a £1000 for for £120. Chiffon column with a boned bodice.

People stay rich because they dont spend stupid money on uneccesary things.

Kudos to your friend for realizing that the point of the wedding is the marriage and not the wedding.

I bet you would not be able to even tell it is from BHS, how many of us have looked at a wedding dress and thought bet that was cheap. Most of the time as mentioned before they all look very similar. The only regretable thing about this whole thing is that your SIL told you where she got it from. Bet if she hadn't you would not even know. Poor thing I feel sorry for having a SIL like you. Are you a wedding dress expert then?

I know a girl who wants the most expensive wedding dress possible, spending loads overall on the wedding (well - she expects daddy to pay for it all obvious). But, get this. She doesn't even want the marriage. Just the wedding. Just so everyone can "look at me look at me".

But it won't look anymore expensive than a £200.00 one.

When I got married to DH,hundreds of years ago, I bought my dress from the first store I looked in. Actually, it was the first and only dress I eve tried on. And guess what? even now, 30 years later, I still know it was the right dress for me and absolutely nothing else would have been right. However long I might have spent searching. Maybe your SIL has, like me, struck lucky and found her perfect dress first time out?
Anyway, its for her to worry about, not you. So yes, YABU.

Hmmm... I can kind of see where you're coming from with the 'regret' thing, Mamazon, but that's because I LURVE wedding shopping and am distinctly miffed that everyone in my immediate family is now happily hitched and my next opportunity to sit in the bridal room at Harrods/Dickins & Jones when it was still going drinking champagne and being waited on hand and foot looking at gorgeous frocks will be when/if DD ties the knot... given she's not 4 yet, I have a long wait in store (hopefully!).

So I can appreciate that you feel your SIL to be might later regret not taking her time on what is hopefully a once in a lifetime opportunity to do the Princess thing... but if that's the case, that's her loss and not a lot you can do about it.

Btw, whoever made the post about trying on everything, even stuff you don't think you'd like was spot on - my sister ended up with the most beautiful, ethereal dress that she adored instead of the strapless bodicey thing that she set out to get.

YABU, the wedding ranges in BHS at the moment are gorgous! wish some of their current line was available when I was getting married.

Dress shopping is not THAT much fun really, I went to all the "nice" shops where I live and the apointments were often rushed. In the best shops, they were so busy that I was trying dresses on alongside up to 2 other brides.

One of the nices dresses I have seen on a bride in a while was from monsoon. If I didnt know where it was from I'd have assumed it was a Jenny Peckham(?SP)

i wore a dress worth thruppence fashioned out of two bin bags and a thwittled twig.

on my head i fashioned a tiara out of a Greggs sandwich.

The BHS dresses are lovely.

It is quite hard to find simplicity on a budget actually so maybe thats why she chose it? I had a reasonably large budget but struggled to find a plain dress.

I didn't go down the high street route because I am fat and short so needed structure and alterations. My dress was £450 which wasn't too bad.

lol blinks

YABU

IMO chav is overused mainly by people who are up their own arses (srory if I've offended anyone).

And who cares where her dress came from if she looks good in it. It's her wedding day not yours.

Extreme mirth at Blinks. I heart MN competetive cheap wedding threads.

I think you should all leave Mamazon alone now

I snorted with mirth at OP as BHS is a bit old lady although their dresses ARE nice

I like Mamazon
Leave her be

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Have to admit that BHS isnt a shop that would jump out at me but in a panic the other day trying to find grey school trousers for my daughter, my mum told me to have a look there and it was a godsend.

Looking on the earlier link to the bridal wear, i'd have to say that they do look lovely and i would definately begrudge paying hundreds of pounds for a dress i would wear once!

I have laughed at lot at this thread tho, and i wonder if it had been a newbie who had started it, would so many people have rushed to their defence.

Excellent Blinks!! I bet you you looked super!

xx

I can't believe you have all managed to tell Mamazon she is BU 275 times

I read the start of the thread because I figured it must be interesting to have got so mnay replies, read the first page, skipped through a few more then to the end trying to find the bit where it all changed, only to find that it didn't

I wonder if she has got the idea yet?