to think my SIL is a "chav" for wanting to buy her wedding dress from BHS?

[Mamazon]

of course it's none of my business and im sure i should just mind my own but, really? BHS?

Actually, if I am honest, I did love it too, so I didn't "settle" for it.
Maybe I was just lucky to spot it!

You foolish woman. Of course she is not being a "chav" by choosing a dress from BHS. I hope she doesn't read this cos if she does she will get her kappa-slappa mates to deck you in the toilets at her reception.

I wish I had had the sense to buy my dress from BHS. I have been to a few weddings where the brides have worn dresses from BHS/Debenhams and unless you are a wedding dress designer you wouldn't even know.

Forget it Mamazon. Until you get into spending hundreds and thousands for designer, all wedding dresses are pretty much of a muchness.

I got my dress from Monsoon, well i was 39 weeks pg!!! I have my 'real' dress in the attic designed by me and made by a nice Chinese lady, in China!!

i didn't sayi i didn't like her georgiamum. i said that she isn't someone i would choose to have as part of my circle of friends. we have very little in common.

but she is the mother of my nephews and will essentially be part of my life forever more.
I may be a bit judgy but a wedding day is a big day for most people, i would hate for anyone to have to regret any part of it.

As long as she likes it doesn't matter where it is from IMO.

And, honestly, I think it is more 'chavvy' to not consider a dress just because it is from BHS. Labels are what chavs are about innit

wow, mamazon, betcha never expected this one to kick off this much! .
Just one last thing - remembering that she is not a person you would choose as a friend, she has different ideas and tastes from you - she is probably very happy with her choice and won't have any regrets. I think your mistake is imposing your own values on the situation.

An e.g. - my sis adores party balloons - had them for her wedding and tries to give them for every available occasions. My Dad and I hate them. She tried to impose her likes on us until I had to, very forcibly, explain that she was NOT going to make us like them just cos SHE did, and it was actually unkind of her to give us something SHE liked in the full knowledge that WE didn't. Got there in the end.

My wedding dress came from BHS. It was exactly the style I wanted for a fraction of the price the bridal shops were charging. It certainly wasn't a question of thinking 'that'll do'. We had a strict budget and I'm sure our guests appreciated the fact that we spent most of our money on food and wine for them rather than buying an expensive dress and asking them to pay for their own drinks.

Are pg brides who fear mortality in emminent cb okay? If they have a small wedding with just dcs and sister???

YABVU. I think she has sense not to spend thousands on a dress.

mamazon, I can see where you're coming from, and you do seem to have kindly intent, but, as someone else has pointed out, you're in danger of imposing your values on her. not values as in BHS cf designer - but values as in how important a wedding dress is. you refer to what people might want "deep down", you refer to adoring a dress, to it making them gasp, and being something they could only dream of - underlying all these references is the assumption that a wedding dress will make them gasp, that they do dream about such things, that they do have "deep down" desires re wedding dresses. not everyone is like that. honest. and they're not all subjugating their true feelings. not everyone feels like you about wedding dresses.

now it may well be the case that she is denying herself, and maybe she would like to shop with you, and maybe deep down she is like you - but you need to ask yourself whether you are basing this judgment on sound evidence or whether you're imposing your values - about how one "should" feel about wedding dresses - on her, because you can't believe that people think differently to you.

Mamazon, maybe she just told you she was getting her dress from there to wind you up

I am guessing you are not great friends

(havent read the thread, cant be arsed, to long)

YABU It's her choice and BHS do some really lovely wedding dresses - it is the sad losers who think they have to spend vast amounts on a dress for one day that we should be concerned about. A wedding is about comitting yourself to one person for life, not about spending silly amounts of money on a frock you will wear once. (1984, £75 Laura Ashley sale)

yabu

its her day and her dress and tbh if she hadnt said where it was from, would you still judge it?

my friend got her dress from bhs and i even tried some on in there, they were nice but not that much cheaper than my dress (but mine was 1/2proce) tho didnt know that at that time

a friend is getting married soon and has spent over £3000 on her dress ( well daddy has) and to me its a waste of money for one day

least i wore mine twice

mamazon - sorry to keep on - I found my wedding dress in the sale; it wasn't cheap as chips but it was on the low side of wedding dress costs. It was the first one I tried on, I loved it, it fit perfectly, I wanted it. My mum was with me, made me try on several more and still wouldn't let me buy it until I had been up to London and round the bridal shops and checked that there wasn't another one I preferred.

Well, we had a nice day (if tiring) in London, and I found a similar dress that wasn't as nice and was 6x the cost. So, in the end, it was back to the first dress I had seen (which I had put aside) and it was just right.

You might find, even if you did take her around and see lots of others, that she still prefers her original choice. And that might actually be more frustrating for you!

I think chavs are more likely to spend a fortune on a awful heap of white merangue from the most expensive shop they can find rather than a more enconimical perhaps more understated dress from BHS.

Well done her and you mind your own business you snob.

F* me, did you see the BRIDESMAIDS in that shot? Never mind the chavtastic bride!

I thought the most chavtastic wedding was Jordan and Peter Andre rather than the Beckhams - am I wrong then? [innocent]

Why don't wedding dresses have sleeves anymore

I think people have boleros now if they want sleeves. I suppose it saves on having winter/summer wedding dresses.

Royal brides always have sleeves though!

I already stated above that applaud SIL's common sense for not wasting a heap of money on a dress. High street can defo look as elegant. Check out the the lovely selection at the link below as selected by Marie Clare for being gorgeous (debenhams, coast, bhs, wallis etc!)!!

i booked my wedding this very morning! For August 2010! I will defo be going for a sensibly priced high street look. I like to think that i am lovely enough to make a £100-£200 dress look absolutely fabulous and stunning!!

www.marieclaire.co.uk/fashion/best/5060/1/0/high-street-wedding-dresses.html

xx

Yes, YABvU. Maybe she likes the frock, maybe money is tight or maybe she has other priorities. I don't see what the heck it matters to you where she gets her frock from as long as she's happy with it. Get a life.

Am loving number 3 and number 9 on the link from debs and bhs!

Congratulations tinseltot.

I think MN has crashed that link, it is very slow! Like them so far!

Thank you! I will not be able to have either dress tho as am nearly 37 weeks preg at mo so will have to wait quite a long time until -fat from all the choc i am eating has been dieted off-- body has settled down after baby. Am really looking forward to looking for dresses tho when the time comes.....