to think my SIL is a "chav" for wanting to buy her wedding dress from BHS?

[Mamazon]

of course it's none of my business and im sure i should just mind my own but, really? BHS?

I think you're not very nice mamazon, what with this and that other 'hilarious' thread.

I think you are being snobby more than she is being chavvy. My wedding dress cost £100 (not from BHS but would have been happy if it were). And my bridesmaids dresses were reduced to £17 in BHS.

what other hilarious thread? [nosy]

YABU - end of!

I wonder if this is another attempt at debate [hmmm]

they are reffering to a thread where i posted a copy of an email i was sent to gage opinoon. i wanted to know if i was being oversensetive.

a lot of people failed to actually read what i had posted and assumed i was the author.

your right spicemonster im awful. a terrible terrible person and my sil should be gutted that she is marrying into a family with someon who would rather take her shopping for hours on end whilst she tries on a million dresses till she finds one she loves instead of just picking the first one she see's cos its easy.

i am very sorry for wanting her to at least not regret the dress she wore simply for lack of effort.

It's not unusual for adult bridesmaids to be asked to buy their own dresses, Mamazon. It's not what I would do but it isn't unacceptable.

Perhaps you should be honest and tell her that you don't want to be her BM because you dislike her. Is she your brother's wife or your partner's sister?

Good luck with that either way.

Reality, take a look at the topic. This is in "Am I being unreasonable?" not "Fluffy Bunny Huggy Corner".

We should have a "Fluffy Bunny Huggy Corner" for the sensitive types.

I wore dress from a stall in Camden Market.
I can't bear all that big flouncy bouncy bullshit

OH!! That one about the men and the sex?

I remember that.

your op never even mentioned your opinion. It just asked what people thought.

I don't get it.

mamazon - you think they'll regret not putting in more effort? that they'll regret not spending more time shopping? regret having the confidence to say "I like that one and I'm having it (and I'm above worrying about the label in the back or the price being too low)" and your're calling her a chav?

hoorah for Reality

like i've said. if she was choosing it because she really loved the dress i'd be happy for her. but she seems to have chosen it because she saw it in the one and only place she looked and can't be arsed looking anywhere else.

I am being judgmentle. and your right, she isn't someone i would choose to be within my own circle of friends, but thankfully im not the one marrying her and my brother is just as much a PITA. in fact i think she could probably do better than HIM.

but i honestly believe she will regret it in time to come and i wouldn't want her to, simply because she hadn't looked around.

but as Reality said, we all make judgments. you will see photo's pf people and think "what on earth is she wearing" you will, you know you will. you know its none of your business and you know that if they are happy what does it matter but you will still make a judgment. its human nature.

if yousay you dont your a liar

FFS why does it always get so bitchy and personal on here, it does my head in

Mamazon doesn't think BHS dresses are "all that", some of us feel that they are OK, some people have bought their dresses from BHS.

Great, we are all different with different views, why all the nastiness and bile? We don't have to be fluffy bunnies, but likewise, we don't have to be baying harridans.

Mamazon asked a question, she wanted opinions, why can some people not give an opinion without attacking/judging/dredging up other threads and being bloody rude.

Well said hatwoman. Very well said indeed.
But watch out for Buda the censor who will tell us, not only NOT to attack the OP, but exactly what to write .
Yeah right.
Such a pathetic AIBU question is not worthy of anything but derision IMO.

I tried on loads of dresses and was prepared to spend £££ on one. But even after having tried on Catherine Walker etc the dress I fell in love with and felt the most special in was in Berkertex for a fraction of the price.

Buty you haven't seen the dress yet mamazon!

Oh, we have another censor in our midst.

some people don't like all the traipsing round shops and trying on of dresses
I know I don't!

Maybe you could go with her to choose a dress that you like better and if it is over her budget you could just buy it for her as a wedding present! Everybody would be happy and you would not have to with shame on the wedding pictures.

YABVVU!

I am of the view that it is really rather wasteful to spend a huge amount on a dress that you will only wear once. Instead of spending a grand or so on a dress i would much rather spend it on (or put it towards) a new kitchen or another house improvement! At least it would be an investment.

Plus with the current economic climate i think sil is actually pretty financially astute as opposed to being a chav! Who knows whether her and dp will even have jobs in 12 months time.

Finally, SIL may be short of money and why on earth should she delay marrying the man she loves purely to please those who think that an expensive dress is more important than the vows themselves?

You're right Mamazon, I make judgments all the time, about people I do and don't know. Everyone does. It's fun.

What I don't do is post bitchy comments on a public internet forum about my sister-in-law's wedding dress which I haven't even seen.

Gateau if the thread is so worthy of derision, why post on it?

I am not a censor, just getting sick of threads going tits up and nasty, tbh.