AIBU to think that teenage mums should be given a break.

[Daisy15]

People are forever ranting on at me for having dd too young as if i don't already know it. Just wish i could shut them up ... any suggestions on how to do that?

Thanks

Butterfly - it is against the law for 2 people under 16 to have sex. The old offence used to be USI (Unlawful Sexual Intercourse) Since the Sexual Offences Act 2003 came in the charge would be Sexual Activity With a Child.

However it is highly unlikely that CPS would prosecute if both parties were willing participants (although in law they cannot consent IYSWIM).

Does the Babies fatehr come into any of this?

I'm quite angered, although i completely understand why, that you still don't believe that i am 16. I'm no longer looking for answers on this thread nor am i going to log onto mumsnet anymore because many of you seem to think just because i'm educated and use the appropriate language i cannot possibly be who i say i am. I'm insulted that you think because i write/type fluently it means i'm fake.

Do you seriously think we're all stupid or something? That we have no minds of our own? And you know what? The next someone has a go at me for having a kid i'm just going to say SHUT UP because nothing else gets through to people anymore.

To think some of you call yourself mothers, i do not believe that if one of your children turned out to be just like me and supporting a child that you would appreciate a bunch of vultures just being plain rude and unpleasant towards them.

To those of you who have been nice, i'd like to say thanks because you've made me realise although the law sees me as a child, i clearly am not any longer because i'm needed by my little girl and she is who i've got to look out for, not myself. It's you people that make me proud to say i'm a mum and not feel like scum.

That was what I feel....mothers...no matter what age they are really, if they are single mums tend to get it in the neck...fathers tend to get off rather lightly....which always makes me ...
my mum raised us mostly as a single mum and she really did her best....but she had to listen to a fair few rude comments over the years....all the while, the men that fathered her children (only me and my sis btw...) could just carry on with thier lifes, and had never look anyone down on them

OH, if any of my 3 boys (don't have girls) get a girl pg, I would at least try and make sure they take respnsibility....

I'm listening TBE and glad that there are thoughtful and open people still out there

"iconic yummy mummy" - one of Daisy15's phrases.

Doesn't sound very 15-16ish to me....
Who/what are you really?

sorry just read some more of thread, what I've just picked up on had already been picked up!

I feel sad if this is a real teenager as she has come on her for support. If it's a Troll why do you lot care so much? I don't get it?
P.S I have a son and I'm going to bore him to death about contraception and Durex. AND have good manners towards girls. Then I'm going to cross my fingers.

Just one thing we all seem to be forgetting here, society aside, we are designed to have babies in our teens, not in our 30's. OP is physically designed to have a child far more than I am. that is why those hard to control hormones are there in the first place. I am utterly gib smacked at some of the opinions expressed on here.
Also OP dosnt workl, i dont work, why does nobody have a problem with me not working but OP must support herself, the attitudes are shocking and there is no wonder that teenage mums struggle to ask for the help that they need.

Why is it shocking to expect fully-functioning members of society to support themselves?

Like say, i do not support myself, I am a SAHM my dh supports me. whyt is it OK for me but not for OP, surely a lot of teenage mums still recieve support from their parents anyway, there are also much older mums who become single who are supported by the state. Either judge everyone or dont bother.

Daisy15 I would have typed pretty much like you at your age too, someone said swallowed a dictionary, that was me! I remember everything so tended to talk quite grown up. Don't worry about it! Not all teenagers are so polluted with txtspk that they can't type properly. Please don't leave MN over all this, everyone who posts here has something useful to add you included.

"i don't see why teenage parents don't get thier children taken away from them!"

Does that include all teenage parents? What about the married ones? Mum was 19 and Dad was 27 when I was born, should I have been removed?

ra, you put too many m's in, that's why your emoticon didn't work.

Yes socially it is unacceptable to have a child so early as strenuously pointed out on this post by a number of posters (Goodness I am glad I am not the young daughter of some of you!) but physically a young adolescent girl is mature and ready to have a child at the age and it is very, very hard to ignore the call of nature.

Sorry I just can't bring myself to be critical of young girls getting pregnant. Though I do think that good education and parenting can help reduce he numbers. It is a natural thing and they need as much assistance as we can give them not censure.

"Why is it shocking to expect fully-functioning members of society to support themselves?"

Daisy has stated that she only recieves EMA and the standard child benefits, so she's hardly a burden on society!

I don't think she writes too maturely to be 15/16. the reason some people still don't believe you are 15/16 is because you originally said you were younger and then asked why you lied you said it was because you wanted to seem older than you were when you had your baby. can you see how that doesn't exactly make sense and why people are now suspicious?