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AIBU to think that teenage mums should be given a break.

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Daisy15 · 12/12/2008 22:40

People are forever ranting on at me for having dd too young as if i don't already know it. Just wish i could shut them up ... any suggestions on how to do that?

Thanks

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Daisy15 · 12/12/2008 23:13

i still do

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elkiedee · 12/12/2008 23:13

Well, Daisy, you're carrying on with your studies, that must take some determination. You have plenty of time yet to work and pay taxes and all that stuff. I graduated from full time education at a point of very high graduate unemployment with no idea what I wanted to do, and it took me a few years to be gainfully employed, and it's still taken me until my late 30s to get round to having babies.

I think we should give teenage mums a break, not just tut at them. As a tax payer, I'd prefer my taxes to be going to keep young people including young parents in education to lots of the things they are spent on.

nappyaddict · 12/12/2008 23:14

what's the for

moondog · 12/12/2008 23:14

Who or what is EC?

Quattrocento · 12/12/2008 23:14

To the best of my knowledge "going to uni" does not equate to supporting a child. It might lead to it, I suppose.

nappyaddict · 12/12/2008 23:14

i think that is the general idea quattro

ra29 · 12/12/2008 23:15

oh good god- the weird and wonderful world of the internet!
Whether or not the op is real -moondog's opinion (although sadly representative of many) sucks. It's far easier to take the moral highground (I wouldn't expect others to pay for my mistakes) than to realise if you don't make those kinds of 'mistakes' you are lucky not better. Calling the mothers 'feckless' is not only incredibly shallow but also incredibly nasty.

Idrankthechristmasspirits · 12/12/2008 23:15

Quattro - if she is not a troll she has already said she is in receipt of ema, so must be studying and has a saturday job.
I would suggest that shows an attempt to support yourself to some degree and allow you to work towards a productive future.

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Daisy15 · 12/12/2008 23:15

i didn't really understand your point you've already branded me an idiotic liar.

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Quattrocento · 12/12/2008 23:16

Right, Just another five years of supporting the OP then. Or more potentially. I'd better get back to work. Taxes to pay, y'know.

nappyaddict · 12/12/2008 23:16

so you are at college/6th form like i said originally?

erm you were the one who admitted to being a liar. no one actually called you one.

moondog · 12/12/2008 23:17

Lucky because I didn't have a baby at 13/14/15???
Don't be fucking ridiculous!
Putting good (or bad)events down to luck perpetuates the myth that we are victimes of circumstance with no personal responsibility.

Idrankthechristmasspirits · 12/12/2008 23:18

Yes sweetie, clearly you alone are supporting the entire tax burden

I am a tax payer too, i have no issue with someone working towards creating a future, mistakes are easily made, it's what you do about it after the fact that really counts.

juneybean · 12/12/2008 23:18

How's it lucky to not break the law (i.e. having sex before 16?!!?)

I thought children learnt right from wrong at age 5...

ra29 · 12/12/2008 23:18

Oh poor you quattro

suwoodolf · 12/12/2008 23:19

Moondog is actually very nice and I am another one who immediately thought EC.

kormaisforlifenotjustchristmas · 12/12/2008 23:19

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Daisy15 · 12/12/2008 23:20

Yes at 6 form at the moment.

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nappyaddict · 12/12/2008 23:20

and are you in year 11 or college/6th form?

nappyaddict · 12/12/2008 23:20

x posts.

ra29 · 12/12/2008 23:21

And the ones who don't are just bad right?
Evil little sods- not like us nice taxpaying model citizens.
Obviously nothing to do with trauma, abuse, illness or poverty- they're just bad. Well I guess that makes things easier- we can just look down on them and not feel at all uncomfortable that way.

Original poster
Daisy15 · 12/12/2008 23:22

juneybean i didn't ask for your freaking approval... i didn't rob a bank or murder anyone.

15 when preg, 6 months and 16.

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tiredsville · 12/12/2008 23:22

Don't worry Daisy, when you are younger I guess you feel a bit vunerable and less confident.
You sound like your doing your best, which can't be said for some mother's twice your age.
Don't worry what other people think of you, just concentrate on setting a great future up for both you and DC. (Two finger's up to the others who judge you)

nappyaddict · 12/12/2008 23:22

korma basically until this thread today

she was 14 when she got pregnant, she had her baby in august when she was 15 and her dd was 4 months. she was still 15 and in year 11.

now she says she was 15 when she got pregnant, she had her baby in june when she was 15, turned 16 in august and is now in 6th form.

and she said the first stuff cos she didn't want to seem as young.

makes perfect sense doesn't it!

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Daisy15 · 12/12/2008 23:22

year 12 nappy.

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