To be FUMING by precious bloody snotty parents

[jesusofutopia]

This morning I took my children to school and was approached by 4 parents who had obviously 'planned' to speak to me together. They basically asked if I would re-consider my son's chosen secondary school for next September as their children are also going there and "don't want to be bothered by him for the next 6 years"

I asked what they were talking about and one of them got really snotty with me and said "He's managed to disrupt their education for the past 5 years, we're not going to put up with it all through secondary too".

My son has ADHD and yes he can be a handful but to say this to someone??!

That is SO horible! what a bunch of stuck up bastards. I hope you managed not to smack them, which certainly would have been my first port of call! what a lovely example they are setting for their children of how to care for their fellow human beings. I would reconsider his secondary school if you have any other options though - don't want him hanging round with such a bunch of snotty fcukers do you?! seriously though, you are well within your rights to be FURIOUS about that, they are bang out of order and have demonstrated that they are either extremely exceptionally insensitv, or really stupid without any understanding of the challenges of raising a child, and in fact being a child, with ADHD. What complete and utter fuckers.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=am_i_being_unreasonable&threadid=646867-To-want-to-blow-snot-all-over-t he-head-mistress#13164953

Just reposting this link to another of the op's threads. Shows a similar looking situation from a different side.

I'm surprised she isn't more considerate of the alleged 'bully' when her own child is also causing others to want to leave the school.

In the earlier thread she uses this as evidence of how bad the bully is, and gets support for that pov.

Well - I can understand that they feel sick to death of your son disrupting their children's learning. I feel the same way about several children in my dd's class - some with ADHD, some who've just been poorly parented, and some who are unlucky to have both.

But to approach you and say this to you?

No - YANBU

But she's never been back...

Don't feed the troll..

must be a troll, I remember some of her other threads being decidedly wierd too

That's appalling

OK, am new to all of this MN stuff but do people seriously make stuff up on posts? Would people do that? Am obviously being very naive, I know... but why would you do that?!

yep twinmam, people DO seriously make things up on MN !!

as to why.....boredom,loneliness,attention seeking, wanting to start a fight,liking to "con" people, for a dare, odd sense of humour....who knows !!!

Blimey. What weirdos!

You should be ashamed OP of all the negative emotions you have stirred up you big dirty wooden spoon

omg...only read op, sorry....but that is unbelievably sad!

oh no...it's a troll...sorry to feed it....

What!!!!How the hell can you tell that the op is a troll????

possibly because of another post, which is quite extreme...posted on this page

Righhhttttt....not quite sure what that exactly means, but I am sure you experienced mn's know a trolls when you smell one. If you see what I mean.

here

By MorrisZapp on Tue 25-Nov-08 18:28:56
www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=am_i_being_unreasonable&threadid=646867-To-want-to-blow-snot-all-over -t he-head-mistress#13164953

Just reposting this link to another of the op's threads. Shows a similar looking situation from a different side.

I'm surprised she isn't more considerate of the alleged 'bully' when her own child is also causing others to want to leave the school.

In the earlier thread she uses this as evidence of how bad the bully is, and gets support for that pov.

You know what shits me? Not the fact that the OP was obviously only part of the story (real life is not a soap opera with goodies and baddies) but that the OP said that the people who approached her were 'parents'.

This was variously interpreted to be 'bitches', 'witches' and 'awful women'. Where did the OP say they were just women? In fact, if they had been, she probably would have said 'mothers' or 'women'.

FFS ladies. What hope do we have?

Fair point Tinto. And I am at fault. Lazy deduction from the fact that at all the schools I have taken dc's to c. 90% of the parents you see in the playground are either Mums, female childminders or grandmothers; men in this setting are so relatively unusual that one would probably mention that specially. Still, lazy thinking, I do agree- but not negative of women as such in my case.

OMG what is going on - I am very cross about this thread the OP is terrible and made me mad I felt sympathy for the OP

But.. then I throught it was a troll which annoyed me - I dont know what to think

I guess this has prompted a discussion about this area. But why did OP never come back and say what they were doing or thank you for certain bits of advice like poster normally do - or is this unreasonsble?

So, I'm a troll simply because I'm not tied to the PC 24/7??

I am very sorry I couldn't come back to this sooner but I have been busy! jeez, not everyone spends their lives at their computers.

I went in to see the head of primary this morning and she basically sided with them (yes, they were all women) and said she could understand why they felt concern about the secondary situation when they have been in to complain about my DS many times during primary. So if this is the case, why was I never told??

You want a background? well basically DS has never really gotten along with school, is noisy, shouts out, messes around, cheeky but is NOT a bully and would never have 'picked on' these kids individually or purposfully. Unlike the brat that verbally and physically attacked him everyday for 2 weeks a few weeks ago.

I'm leaving this thread now as I don't have the time to dedicate to it like is obviously expected. Thanks to those who have helped.

oh

oh, this is so sad and im sorry to say, a pretty poor indictment of your son's current school. He clearly has some behavioural issues that you yourself are concerned about. The school should have recognised this and flagged up the situation to you as soon as people made complaints. What a bunch of bitches, it does seem the motherhood really brings out the best in us .

I can understand that parents would be worried about a child disrupting the class, but that gives them no right to do what they did . This to me just shows that the school have handled this really badly for all concerned, and mostly your son - i would be angry beyond description.

On the one hand, I agree that both the school and the parents are handling this one badly.

On the other hand, may I refer the OP back to another of her posts:

jesusofutopia on Thu 13-Nov-08 11:48:00
"that's what she told me. She said "I'm not trying to paint him as an angel because he isn't, but he's NOT a bully. If someone pushes him, he WILL push back without a second thought, he can certainly handle himself, but he's not a bully".

Yet two other boys wants to change school because of him."

In other words, if two boys wanted to change schools because of another child, this was then taken by the OP as proof that the other child was a bully (not just somebody suffering from ADHD or similar).

But now we have 4 children who do not want to go to secondary with her own ds- and this is not proof of anything?

This does seem to me like double standards.

To me it would be pretty obvious that the school is not on the ball, that all the parents involved (including the OP in the earlier thread) are showing a blinkered interest in their own viewpoint only and that this way nothing will be improved for anyone.

My ds was very intimidated by a (mildly SN)and much bigger boy who kept knocking him down and telling him he was no good at anything, the school took action, parents kept communicating in a civilised manner and the matter was resolved; they are now good friends and everyone is the better off.

My nephew has had his education disrupted for over a year by three kids who are not intimidating but who shout and disrupt every lesson; noone is able to learn in class, the teacher has left after a breakdown, school is unable to resolve the matter, the parents are not communicating, everybody loses out.

I can tell you which class I'd rather be in.

It is clearly not just about the severity of the problem, but about how it is dealt with.

jesusofutopia - I like you! I really do! Esp that stuff you said about liking the Cliff Richard MN name.

BUT, come on now! In the past 2 weeks you've posted about your dh getting you the same presents for your birthday each year, you have a friend who gives her 8 and 9 year old dcs a whole bottle of lager each at Christmas, you made your shy neighbour cry by jumping out and screaming at her, you want to blow snot all over the headmistress at your dc's school and you're getting a black Christmas tree!

Admittedly, you may actually have a life that's like that, in which case you really should be on Wife Swap! And some of your contributions do seem genuine enough. But you can't blame us, who have seen you on other threads, for getting slightly suspicious can you?

If you are genuine, then many apologies. But you do seem to have a very strange and eventful life - did you sort out your problem of the overflowing bin btw?