To be FUMING by precious bloody snotty parents

[jesusofutopia]

This morning I took my children to school and was approached by 4 parents who had obviously 'planned' to speak to me together. They basically asked if I would re-consider my son's chosen secondary school for next September as their children are also going there and "don't want to be bothered by him for the next 6 years"

I asked what they were talking about and one of them got really snotty with me and said "He's managed to disrupt their education for the past 5 years, we're not going to put up with it all through secondary too".

My son has ADHD and yes he can be a handful but to say this to someone??!

morris please read my thread linked to

now I cant account for other people but these things do happen

Peachy - you sound so calm and full of wisdom. I'd be crap! You have such a clear vision of what's important. It's sad and wrong parents of SN children are made to feel it's then against the world and have to fight for what their children need.

Anyone of our dc's could be in an accident/ill and become SN overnight. Any one of our future dc's could have SN out of the blue. Would I be ganged up on like JOU or have to fight for everything like Peachy. Scary.

I would love to think that the OP is exagerrating - nicer thought than that this might actually have happened to some poor woman. However, I also know how unbelievably nasty and horrible other parents can be from personal experience. Different circumstances entirely, but I can believe that other parents would say these awful things.
Also, I don?t think it is fair to presume that she is a troll just because she has given limited details and "wandered off". Not everyone can sit glues to their thread all morning and constantly post.
Not sure why I am defending the OP lol, but just think that IF she had this happen then she deserves our support. If it is some extremely strange made up thing, then she deserves our pity I guess. Prefer to believe the first rather than judge on flimsy stuff though.
This quick to call a troll thing is happening a lot on mumsnet. Not sure I like it.

Light dawns! i thought Quattrocentro meant I was one who jumped out at people, the post came directly after mine.

Hence my thought for the day in response.
Am such a newbie!

Why hasn't she explained the situation? There must be a backstory here but we have been given none of it.

Surely these parents would be aware that asking/threatening another parent to send their kid to a particular school would be absolutely pointless anyway - and that no matter which school their own DCs go to, there will be disruptive pupils there.

Morriszapp, she is probably, you know, parenting, not just wandered off don't you sometimes have to go and do something with your kids whilst mning.

I dont like the quickness that people are called trolls either, I think MN has become a suspicious place and it isn't nearly as welcoming as when I joined.

I also think she gave a fair bit of background, her child has ADHD and disrupts the class, these parents are pissed off as it affecting their children's education and they don't want it to continue into secondary school so they had a word with her.
What else do you want to know?? maybe if you make a list she will comply

at treedelivery

So, erm, you leap out of the bushes to surprise people as well, eh? Or do you leap out of trees? You might as well tell us all about it now.

There probably are loads of background details to this, and we weren't there - but taken on face value which is all that can really happen if you are not a witness, 4 parents on 1 seems harsh. Added to that the references to expulsion and streaming and there is no way around it.

Put it this way, if I said or took part in what 'the 4' did I'd be disgusted with myself and want to crawl under a rock. If my DH did it I'd go crazy with him. If friends did it I wouldn't approve.

The 4 may have many valid points - and OP may not have given us them all. She may be too damn angry to give them any air time!

Quattrocento - I know!!

If you here of rampaging hedge jumper on Yorkshire Coast it's all finally got too much for me.

Been at the calpol again....tut.

hear.

been at Calpol and piriton clearly.

The backstory I was wondering about was surely that if this issue has been ongoing for years then there will have been interaction with the school re: the lad's disruptive behaviour already, or has it never been mentioned then a group of them approach the mum and have a go?

I think it is silly and unreasonable to approach the mother of a disruptive pupil (especially with a ludicrous request like don't send him to x school), and that any complaints about this should be made directly to the school. Taking the poster at face value I can see why she is upset, but if her DS really is causing problems for other people's DC's then this is an issue too.

OMG; that is dreadful. How rude of them. I don't know how you mamaged to remain near them - I would have been fuming.

First of all I would be writing down everything they said to me, when they said it and their names. I would then request a meeting with the Head. They are clearly btces and you need to get this sorted out now.

I would also imagine that something must already have gone through the school system about it. I'm sure she'll be back at some point. I must admit, I often wonder off and come back days later to answer questions or comment again. I am terrible at making sure I stay up to date with MN.

It is very upsetting for op to have this happen to her, however am slightly more shocked by Thenewsmongrel's response "I hope their children are all hooked on crack by third year" Nice.

Flynnie, I don't know Thenewsmongrel's but you sound like your s**t stirring? IMO, It was a powerful response from her to an awful unbelievable situation and aimed at supporting the op in some way.

if this is for real then it is
OMG! Outrageous!
Disgusting behaviour

I agree with cheeset about Thenewsmongrels rsponse being powerfull. I think it was a tounge in cheek response to a heavy thread. Don't suppose poster really wants the kids into crack.
I'd have found the camoradorie [Dear Lordy how do you spell that??] cheering if I were the OP.

Grrr!

No. Yanbu. They are. Make a big fuss right now with head teachers, new school etc etc, and ignore these awful women completely from now on. Totally blank them. And smile and laugh and look happy.

And it goes back to one of my posts - none of us know when any of our dc's might be SN. Accidents/illness/drug use - who knows if or when any of us will be posting for support for some unthinkable or other.

Can only hope if it comes to me I don't run into the 4 -witches- parents at that school!

jesusofutopia - wherever you are, let us know what happens.

oops witches

Yes do please.