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To not want an August baby?

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DodgyApostrophe · 19/11/2008 20:49

I'm not ttc this month.

I don't want a baby in August as I feel they are definitely at a disadvantage throughout school.

I do want a baby, desperately. Have been ttc for 2 years and have had 2 mc since ds1.

Is it really that bad to be born in August?

OP posts:
Wezzle · 19/11/2008 22:37

My birthday's September...was always the oldest in the class...never the cleverest....

Wezzle · 19/11/2008 22:38

DisasterArea...your teenage years sound much like mine

used2bthin · 19/11/2008 22:41

I was born in August, was the youngest of all my friends to turn 13, 16, 18 but now am loving it because everyone is having 30th birthdays and I've only just turned 29! I think I did very well at school till I discovered boys really, which could have appened if I was a year older. My mum said I seemed young to send to school but she is a worrier. My dd is september born so will have the opposite.

surprisenumber3 · 19/11/2008 23:35

DS1 was due end of September but was born mid August. So not only was he the youngest in his year, he also was prem so should be a year below.

He struggled in reception but then he seriously flew. He has been in the top 5 in his class since.

DSS was born in the first few days of September and he was held back when he was ready to be at school learning.

I think there are pro's and cons of both months really.

notreallycopingwelltoday · 19/11/2008 23:38

dd was born an august babe, very much wanted pregnancy after 2 miscarriages and years of trying. She is finding it hard at school as she's tired but if I had put off trying to conceive that month she wouldn't be here now. Do what you feel is right, your life, etc etc.

unknownrebelbang · 19/11/2008 23:49

I'm August born, as is DH, and we have two August-born boys, both doing very well, it's the October-born child who struggles.

Purely anecdotal, of course.

BTW DS1 was due in September.

Peridot30 · 19/11/2008 23:56

MOve to Scotland and you will be fine

My ds is born in Dec and in Scotland our school age year runs from March - Feb. MAking him one of the youngest and tbh its not disadvantaged him at all. THAnkfully he id very bright but apart from being alot smaller than his class mates then being one ofthe youngest in class has not caused any concern.

NoseyHelen · 20/11/2008 00:01

I have an August Boy and a September Girl - I do worry that the boy could prove to be the class thicko and the girl could be bored out of her skull but I'd rather have them just as they are than have risked not conceiving them.

DH is an August baby - he has a BA, MA and MBA and is a good sportsman and swimmer (literally miles). I don't think he's suffered.

echt · 20/11/2008 06:48

I don't know if anyone's said this already, dodgy, but get a grip. I tried to fit conception around academic years to max my leave potential. And wasted years of time I might have got pregnant. I have 1 DC for whom I'm eternally grateful.

Don't waste your time; go for it now.

needmorecoffee · 20/11/2008 08:32

dd1 is aug 27. At 15 he is at the top of his class and year in a posh school. And he didn't start school till 13.
(he was actually due 21 september but came early)

needmorecoffee · 20/11/2008 08:33

but I would say get a grip. If the baby is healthy then what is the problem. My March baby is brain damaged.

TheGoat · 20/11/2008 08:37

tbh if you have been trying for 2 years there is no harm in having a wee break. good luck!

HeadFairy · 20/11/2008 08:38

If your baby is born in the first half of August, he/she'll be a Leo, the best star sign of all

CrushWithEyeliner · 20/11/2008 08:39

There are worse things.

I am baffled that people think this way.

Dottoressa · 20/11/2008 08:41

I am an end-of-August b'day and was among the cleverest in the class at my academically selective private school. I have a PhD, despite the handicap of an August b'day. The cleverest girl I ever met was also an August baby.

Genes make far more difference than birth month!

Personally, I'm so grateful to have two DCs that birth month (May and June, as it happens) was never going to be an issue...

CrushWithEyeliner · 20/11/2008 08:43

My SD is an August baby and top of her year, scholarship the works....

lulabellarama · 20/11/2008 08:43

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TheGoat · 20/11/2008 08:43

i understand the thinking, i used to think if i had a baby it would definitely hav eto be a spring or summer baby cos i hate having a dark feb. birthday. dd was due feb 4th! she came in january. right now i would be quite happy to have a baby any fecking time. but i think the op is allowed an opinion.

Libra1975 · 20/11/2008 08:50

Well I am consigning all my children to the bottom of the class as I deliberatly aim for summer babies. It's too cold in december to get up at 3am to breastfeed.

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 20/11/2008 08:51

actually- and I knw certain people will slate me- but I can understand. Wouldnt stop trying though.
A Baby regardless of birth date is a joy and academia is neither oprevented by birth date nor the be all and end all.

ds3 has Sn and is a 27th july baby and it has made things harder for him- a 2 year delay extemded to 3 by some born in September. posters say hold them back a year but many LEA's won't allow it- they still have to enter their chronological birth year. I fought that battle and lost, a non SN child would lose faster I suspect.

I wouldn't top trying becuase for me the need for a baby was a drive but I can empathise I think.

HeadFairy · 20/11/2008 08:55

Oh and I'm a late July baby, and I'm a genius

FourArms · 20/11/2008 08:57

I am nearly an August baby - like Peachy's DS3 I was born on the 27th July (all great people ). I'm not sure how it affected me going through school, but I was an early and avid reader, and did v.well in my GCSE's and degree (perhaps it's all evened out by then?)

HeadFairy · 20/11/2008 08:57

Oh and another reason for having a baby earlier in the summer than later... it sucks doing mat leave in mid winter. I have a September boy and once you're through the first bleery 8 weeks or so and emerge to rejoin the world a bit it's bloody cold and dark and miserable for all those lovely walks in the park you envisaged. Actually, my ideal is to have a baby in May, then after said hellish first 8 weeks you emerge butterfly like in to full summer

Libra1975 · 20/11/2008 09:01

lol headfairy another good reason for a summer baby, it also means you don't miss any Pimms seasons.

firstontheway · 20/11/2008 09:03

fwiw I was born on August 31st!

My mum was actually given the choice of having me (induction) then or on Sept 1st and they chose 31st in case I was a little... ahem... dim and I could repeat a year and then go to college/ get a job etc and not be any older than anyone else. Worked out wonderfully for me, but it of course helps that I'm so clever anyway

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