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To not want an August baby?

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DodgyApostrophe · 19/11/2008 20:49

I'm not ttc this month.

I don't want a baby in August as I feel they are definitely at a disadvantage throughout school.

I do want a baby, desperately. Have been ttc for 2 years and have had 2 mc since ds1.

Is it really that bad to be born in August?

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OracleInaCoracle · 19/11/2008 21:09

tbh, i would love an august baby.
or september, or november, or december, or january, or february, or march, or april, or may, or june, or july. it really doesnt matter what month your child is born, there are more imt things to worry about. sorry if i sound harsh, but thats how i feel about it.

DunderMifflin · 19/11/2008 21:14

My DS was due on 7th Sept this year and was born on 26th August - let Mother Nature do her thing and don't stress too much about it!

I'm sorry to be pessimistic but you'll kick yourself if it takes a while to conceive as you'll wonder whether this would have been the time you'd have got pg. Well, I would probably feel like that!

I think you can get too worried about all this sort of stuff and, as other people have mentioned, it all comes down to the child's personality (and also whether they're lead to believe they're at a disadvantage from day one...)

Good luck with whatever you decide!

hanaflower · 19/11/2008 21:16

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crabby · 19/11/2008 21:19

My DD was due in mid September this year. I became slightly fixated on the august - septmeber baby issue. So of course she was born in mid August . After a stint in NICU all fine now and really I am just pleased that she is alive and well.

Worse things happen at sea...

BitOfFun · 19/11/2008 21:20

I am August too, and i'm well brainy, innit? It does have the major advantages of a) never having your birthday on a schoolday, and b) from mum's point of view, never needing to host a big class party.

lljkk · 19/11/2008 21:23

But with a premmie born in August you could successfully argue with the LEA about letting child start later.
Madonna's birthday is irrelevant, In the American system she's in the middle of the year group, November birthdays are the youngest.
I personally would delay TTC by an extra month to avoid an August baby. It's only one month in a 2 year spell of trying, that's not much of a delay. You could decide to take a break from the pressure of TTC anyway, this just happens to doubly convenient.

megcleary · 19/11/2008 21:26

right bear with my ignorance dd was born aug 2007 and it was only when i got back to work after mat leave a few comments of shame she was born in august!!!!!!!!!!!!!

now i am irish not schooled in UK am now living here with DH and i do not for the life of me see what the problem is PLEASE EXPLAIN in simple terms what i have done to harm my child by not keeping my legs crossed for 11 more days

Libra1975 · 19/11/2008 21:26

but what happens if you have a stupid child? wouldn't it be less embaressing at the school gates to be able to say well he is young for the year. You need to think of these things.

twentypence · 19/11/2008 21:31

Move to NZ and then your child will start on his/her 5th birthday and get an extra 6 months of school (as they all finish up high school at the same time).

I had ds in Feb, which I though (wrongly) would make him one of the oldest in his class (didn't specifically plan it that way though) he is actually the youngest.

A friend of a friend started out saying she didn't want to be pregnant in summer (she was the first time and she was huge). Then as time passed and she didn't get pg that started to matter less to her. She was pg all through the summer again and never moaned.

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Shuggybee · 19/11/2008 21:31

Hi,
I have to say I totally agree with the OP I would prefer not to have a DC born in the summer. My younger brother and my BIL are July born and both took well into late teens to catch up with their peers, academically and emotionally, my friends DS is repeating yrR as he struggled and my mother who is a teacher reckoned summers born boys struggled but girls less so. So, my preference is based on a load of anecdotal tosh! I still had my boys in the spring as I was paranoid and am lucky enough to fall pg with a wink. That said maybe if I was really desperate for a baby I'd chuck it all out the window...

Rindercella · 19/11/2008 21:31

After seeing my DSS struggle at school (his b'day is 27th August), I was determined that my DD, with a due date of 6th Sept would be born on or after 1st Sept. It didn't matter how much I tried to cross my legs, she was born on 30th August! I really don't care now. When the time comes, we will work with her school to do what is best for her.

shag like crazy TTC now! Good luck!

Juliette75 · 19/11/2008 21:33

I am speechless.
Don't worry about it.
My September baby was stillborn in May. Get a grip and appreciate that things you cannot control are not worth worrying about. Contrary to your incredible self-belief, you can't control you due date as you imagine. It might be early, late, or not come at all.

myredcardigan · 19/11/2008 21:43

It's not ideal, I'd avoid it if possible (and did)and Aug babies are at a disadvantage when they first start school. But, this does even itself out by the time they reach the juniors. And of course it does not mean that all summer born children are doomed.
If it happens and it bothers you that much just move to Scotland. Intake goes March through to Feb so August bang in the middle.

notnowbernard · 19/11/2008 21:44

WHY do people stress about this?

etchasketch · 19/11/2008 21:45

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OracleInaCoracle · 19/11/2008 21:46

but, and im sorry tokeep harping on about it, there are much, much worse things than being born in august. i hope none of you reach a point where you are desperate for a baby at any time of the year.

asdmumandteacher · 19/11/2008 21:48

My DS1 has always suffered academically for being a late August birthday...we got pregnant with next son in December (for Sept) perfect timing - only.....2nd DS has severe autism so....

asdmumandteacher · 19/11/2008 21:50

to quote that lovely autist - life is like a box of chocolates....

NotanOtterOHappyDay · 19/11/2008 21:52

i differ from a lot of you

i WANT young babies and have found it to be beneficial

ds is late august and got top grades in gcses

dd and ds2 are october babies and are much lazier individuals and coasted academically right from the start

i thoroughly recommend august birthday and would do it again

magnolia74 · 19/11/2008 21:54

Dd1 is an August baby, now 13 and she is doing better than her older classmates in scholl. Top classses in all subjects and this has always been the way since primary. Definately not a disadvantage
I am a July baby and it never affected me badly in any way at all.

asdmumandteacher · 19/11/2008 21:55

It all depends on child..obv mine is struggling but i am certainly considering moving him down a year into an indie school so he will be in year 5 next academic year too

Tiggiwinkle · 19/11/2008 21:56

I have had two August babies (and one was born 6 weeks early-he was not even due till October!)

Both have been right at the top of their years in school. So it really is not always a problem at all.

fymandbean · 19/11/2008 21:56

If I was starting to ttc I'd probably avoid a baby due in August as anecdotally it disadvantages some youngsters and go for late September BUT i certainly wouldn't stop trying if it was one year later or two!!!

FairLadyRantALot · 19/11/2008 21:57

I do understand what you mean...saying that, was all worried that my youngest son would find it all hard in school, as his Birthday is August the 12th and no problems whatsoever....so far...so, I suppose it depends on the child....

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