To not want an August baby?

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I'm not ttc this month.

I don't want a baby in August as I feel they are definitely at a disadvantage throughout school.

I do want a baby, desperately. Have been ttc for 2 years and have had 2 mc since ds1.

Is it really that bad to be born in August?

dd1 was born on 29th August & started school the day after her 4th birhday.She has just flown since then & is very bright,articulate and popular.Due to changes in the summer erm dates,she started year1 the day before her 5th birthday.

Mind you,after being told I'd never have children,then an ectopic,I couldn't have given a toss what month she was born.I'm lucky to have her & dd2.

Well, statistically it IS as disadvantage. August-borns do less well academically, less likely to go to university. DD1 really struggled and it was only in the private sector she could go down a year and her confidence absolutely exploded. Ds IS autistic actually (Aspergers) and Sept born, and it has been the huge saving grace. He is very immature and I dread to think how awful it would have been for him had he really been the youngest in the class and seeming at least two years younger than the oldest, instead of being able to make friends with some of the youngest boys and having a connection. I think it is very unfair to imply the OP is trivial or stupid for having this worry.

DH was born in August. No problems. I would forget it and carry on TTC.

It's a worry if you let it be one, though

As some of these posts describe, there are a lot of August children who thrive at school... and a lot who struggle

In the same way that I'm sure lots of Sept/Oct children thrive or struggle

By all means stress over it once you've got one, but don't let it affect your plans ttc!

BTW I have a late-August baby. She's not school age yet so will have to wait and see how she fares. BUt it's not worrying me. SOmeone has to be the youngest... not sure it's much of an advantage being the oldest, really

awww Tiggiwinkle so sweet!

awww Tiggiwinkle so sweet!

I was born in late august (28th)and always quite liked being the youngest in the class in an odd sort of way.I dont ever remember struggling, and did ok - going on to university. One of my ds's friends born even later in August and has always been one of the brightest, most popular and well balanced in his year group.

There are no hard and fast rules, and I think trying to "risk manage" in this way will be pointless and just make you really stressed.

Oh, also I did like having my birhtday in school hols

This is one of the reasons we are waiting to TTC. But another reason is that I want to be able to drink at all my christmas parties etc !

dd is born in Aug and I think it will be a disadvantage for her re schooling. So we're waiting till jan

ha i'm the 27th Aug and don't feel i was disadvantaged, i got to leave school at 15 wheras everyone else was 16
don't worry about it

My DD's father was an August baby - he is a certified accountant.
My ex-bf was an August baby - he is an electrical estimator.
My cousin was an August baby - she is a physiotherapist.
I was a March baby. I'm an administrator in a hospital and earn at least 1/2 if not 1/3 of what they ^ do.

Nothing wrong with August babies. I agree that the system seems to be tougher than it was in the 70s/80s but there has to be a cut off date somewhere!

Gosh I left a help message earlier.... not had one response... see you are being bombarded. Just thought I'd join in... I tried for nearly 5 years for a baby....didn't even think when it may or may not come....however due date turned out to be 28th August.... so excited...still didn't think about it.... then around due date my headteacher (I'm a teacher...not still at school) kept telling me to keep my legs closed and hold on til Sept.... well no conscious decisions made and despite the endless curries, pineapples and baths (far too big for sex) the little monkey stayed put through 5 inductions before a dose of syntoxin and an eventual section got HIM out on 13th September! So not the notorious August boy that now having taken on Special needs co-ordination in a primary school I now know lots about! HOWEVER...... I have a September baby that is going to be gagging for school next year so it doesn't always follow.... Let em come when they come.... schools age appropriate EVERYTHING.... your September babes are scored age appropriately to your August babes... There are very different expectations to a child who is 5 and one who is only just 4! Went on to have a second September babe. Have decided to move out every year around Xmas!!!!! Gud luck hunX

YABU.

A baby is a blessing.

Life is/can be tough.

S/he will have worse hurdles to overcome than the month s/he was born in.

I know you have a DS1.

Are you sure you're up to being a mother again?

BTW, I was always "young" in my class, finished school when I was 16, graduated with a university degree when I was 19.

It's not always "bad" for a "young" child (even if it did mean I was "late" getting legally into pubs and clubs (not that that would stop many teenagers these days...))

mm22bys - a bit harsh imo

I'm 22nd August. I did just fine at school. And university.

I wouldn't worry. As long you encourage, inspire and lavish positivity on your child and his / her education, then I don't honestly believe it will make much difference.

Meanwhile, trying to have a birthday party when everyone else was on holiday did piss me off!

how young for year children are disadvantaged

disadvantaged when it comes to university too

I think it's low to imply the OP is not a good mother for considering this. There will always be exceptions, but I know from my bright and gorgeous dd1 that August-borns can lose confidence. It is reasonable to think about this IMO.

ds was 16 day before gcse results - slight dampner on the day!

Both DH and my sister are 23rd August and it didn't do them any harm. There are disavantages to September babies.
DS, DD and I are all September babies .
DD was more than ready to start school the January before, which she would have done if she had been born a few weeks earlier.
DS is 13 and very mature for his age and although starting when he was 5 was probably right for him, now he is 13 he said to me last week that he wishes he was in Year 9 where he seems to have more friends than in his own year.

God its almost double high GCSE grades for September boys than August boys...blinking education system...every day i see more reasons why i should hold him down a year

Dd is August, as am I, neither of us are remotely disadvantaged - I've got 3As,a B and a C at A Level and a uni degree, dd is in the top group for everything in her class.

The trouble is mabanana, that you really cannot go into pregnancy with the idea that a baby must come at a certain time. I have five DSs. Two were premature-one by 6 weeks, the other by 8. They were not born anywhere near the times they "should" have been.

I have 2 August babies

the second was supposed to be October

but he decided to make an appearance 5 weeks early!

Tiggiwinkle - thats it

As i said - i planned to have a September baby and i did but he has severe SN and is at special school so who knows eh?

She did post in AIBU.

There are greater considerations in life than what month your baby is born in, and there are no guarantees either way.

She should be aware that even if her baby is a wonder-September baby, life may not necessarily be rosy.

If she wants 100% support she shouldn't have posted in AIBU - I am just giving my HO.

I am august and i am fabulous and was a child genius.
reallly i was (till i fried my braincells with drugs as a teenager)
and Leos make the best sorts of friends/wives/mothers/etc.