to be fuming that my daughter was not 'allowed' a pudding at her friends house because she didn't eat her meal

[conniedescending]

Still cross about this now whenever I think about it. Collected dd this evening and she was quiet on the way home. Asked her what the matter was and she finally told me she was upset because she wasn't allowed any of the cake that her friend and rest of the family had in front of her.

she said the mum siad it was because she hadnt eaten her meal so she couldnt have any. Was quite suprised because dd is a good eater and not fussy so asked what she had had - omlette, chips and salad.....she said she had eaten her chips and salad. If this wasn't bad enough the friends mum had asked me yesterday what dd would eat for tea and I said 'oh anything...except she won't eat anything eggy'

i need some perspective on this because I really want to address this with the woman tomorrow.

Whoever has said 'her house, her rules'.

The poor child didn't like the food. I would be pissed off too not only because you warned the woman that she didn't like anything eggy but because she made your daughter feel shite for not liking her eggy food and left her sat there while the whole family had cake.

It's cruel I think.

"I think people confuse 'rules' of the house with 'systems fo dealing with MY children'."

Totally agree Blu! That's what I was trying ot get at in my earlier post too. I wonder how many people with this rule would think it was OK for an adult to leave food?

"I frequently tell my dcs that it is my job to bring them up, not to bring up their little friends."

Another good one! Will you all stop writing my posts better than I did

I was thinking about the room for desert thing whilst I was eating today and it was getting rather too much for me. Maybe the reason we still have room for desert is that it's all part of a balanced diet? We get our fill of whatever we need from the main part but we still need whatever it is that's in the desert (can you tell I'm not big on diets? I have no idea what's in food, but you get the point, I hope!)

yes I don't get this thing that if you've got room for dessert, then you must have more room for your main course.

If you eat the rest of your main course, then you won't have room for your dessert will you? But if you really want your dessert because it's sweet and a treat, you will be overeating, because you hvae already filled up with your main course.

I don't want my kids to overeat.

I'm giving DS (age 11.5mo) some shocking messages at the mo - the only way I can get him to eat the savoury part of his dinner is to intersperse it with his milk-and-biscuit! I hope to resolve this before he gets much bigger.