Ewwww! Somebody at toddlers offered me her breast milk!!!!!!

[thisismynewname]

So my sister bought me tickets to see a dance show and I was telling someone at toddlers that I didn't think I could go as I can't express and DS is b/f.

She only went and offered me some of her expressed milk from the freezer, I'm not joking!!! I didn't know where to put myself, lol!

Muttered something about giving the expressing another go, freak!! I knew she was a bit weird, I'm 99 per cent suire she still feeds her 4 yr old DS, but this is beyoned the pale isn't it?

Not offensive but a little presumptuous to think that you could offer some of yours when you barely know someone.

Is the OP a troll?

"Some women I know feel like such failures for ff.
It is not normal or necessary to bf a four year old,"

Some women I know feel pretty shit when their parenting is called into question by those who assume that bf isn't normal or necessary, Twelvelegs. Maybe not for your child, but unless you're mother to all the children in the world, you can't know what's normal or necessary for the ones who arent yours. Since bf doesn't harm and has a lot of benefits for an older child, it is rude to be so disparaging about it.

And my comment re ff was utterly pertinent to the discussion, thank you.

Has this thing kicked off yet.......

Has SuzyWong been on?

SMB - that's very kind, sadly ds will only drink milk from the source nowadays!

TSD, Ah well (backtrack, backtrack) yes it is.
Oh I'm in a pissy mood, I am going to retire!!!

"Why oh why oh why would you want your baby to consume a near strangers milk."

Twelvelegs so do you know the cow your milk comes from then? Not having a go, just find it wierd that people are more grossed out by their baby having another mothers milk but having another species milk is completely acceptable.

suzy who?

Normal, BTW, is usual practice not not normal=weird. Most children of the world do not bf at four!

Oh dear, we're a soya family.

I still don't see what's presumptuous about offering!

"Would you like some of my EBM? I've got loads in the freezer!"
"Umm...no thanks. It's ok."

What's presumptuous or offensive about that!?!

I am a failed bfeeder. I would have jumped at the chance for dc to get some breast milk. Noone ever offered though.... I read an article in the guardian recently about breast feeding which was damning on our acceptance of animal substitutes. The journalist ended by saying that if she had had problems she would have bought human milk. I think any of the wonderful mums who donate would be pretty miffed to find it being sold on...

Okay okay, I'm off..... knackered, 38 wks pg, house covered in plaster dust and a DH at an Oasis concert. Moody is not the word..... I may start a thread on social housing, SAHMs/WOHMs or something in a minute......

Must reach for shut down.

Aw, poor you Twelvelegs - and having 12 legs and all. Must be hellish finding enough socks that match and bending down to put them all on over a 38 week bump can't be much fun either

The closer it all gets, the nastier I become.... my poor children. I can't remember the last day I didn't shout at someone!!
I have two legs only, but they look like 12 put together as with the water retention I look like I wear socks all night long!!

Forgive me for being a bitch.

Utterly forgiven. I've been there! Hope you have a straightforward birth after a full night's sleep.

I initially thought she was offering for you to drink!

Either way, I think it was kind of her but don't think that you are being unreasonable for not accepting.

Nice to see hunker is talking sense as usual

ohidoliketobebesidetheseaside. (what a mouthful!) Please don't think of yourself as a "failed bfer". I like to think that if you care enough to think that then you did succeed - you just physically (or whatever) could not do it. Personally I have never and would never want to judge any parents feeding choice (unless we are talking weaning at 9 weeks ). However I do hate people making nasty comments about others choices. I speak from experience. An ex-friend once commented in front of alot of other friends that she would "shoot" me if I was still BFing DD when she started school. I think DD was about 14m at the time. I would never have even considered commenting on the fact that she ff her DD or that she weaned at 4m. Her choice, her DC.

I am annoyed at the OP because she was being judgemental, not because of any feeding choice issues.

No, I am not a name changer - the tickets were bought by my sister in law.

I still think it's yuck -glad there are some people who see my point.

And as has already been said - what has it got to do with fomula? Durrr! I'm a breastfeeder who doesn't use formula!!! So why are you having a dig about formula? Just another opportunity to make ff feel bad, yes?

read the OP, why would human milk bring a 'yuck' response but milk out of cows udders doesn't?

not interested at all in this one and the OP sounds trollish anyway. despite I expect, protestations of it, i am sure.

this topic is being overdone already in AIBU.

I have no problem with extended bf I feed my children till they self wean and I have no problem with donor milk infact I would happily feed another child under the right circumstances. I think she is mad for thinking anyone would accept her bm without it being screened for disease (I for one would worry about hiv and hepititis) however her intentions were obviously kind and I think she is probably a very nice lady.
I think anyone who has negative views about extended breast feeding / breast feeding in public etc are repressed and the modern world has crushed some of their natural humanity - I find this very sad

Not sure if this has been mentioned but when people donate breast milk for the hospitals, it is tested for it's suitability and viruses. Cow's don't carry HIV and other nasties which can be transmitted in breastmilk and formula is prepared in controlled environments and quality control tested regularly.

I would never ever give my ds a drink of anything that someone I didn't know well had offered him, never mind her own breast milk. You have no idea about her medical history and there is just no way I would put my ds at risk like that. I think her heart was in the right place though, very nice of her to offer but I'm afraid I would have politely refused!

x posted with cuntdracula (luv the name!!!) lol

"Not sure if this has been mentioned but when people donate breast milk for the hospitals, it is tested for it's suitability and viruses.

Cow's don't carry HIV and other nasties which can be transmitted in breastmilk and formula is prepared in controlled environments and quality control tested regularly. "

Lol... I'm afraid I think you are being naive if you believe that cow's milk is 100% safe. Yes, the chances are tiny, but you can get TB or listeria from cow's milk. The safetly of formula is dependent on preparation by the mother as much as the factory. Sad to say, even in the UK babies do die or get very ill if you are sloppy about sterilisation.

I'm sure all those babies in China thought formula was prepared in a safe, controlled environment too!

And - for the last feckin time - NO-ONE is having a go at mothers who ff! I don't really know how else to put it!