Ewwww! Somebody at toddlers offered me her breast milk!!!!!!

[thisismynewname]

So my sister bought me tickets to see a dance show and I was telling someone at toddlers that I didn't think I could go as I can't express and DS is b/f.

She only went and offered me some of her expressed milk from the freezer, I'm not joking!!! I didn't know where to put myself, lol!

Muttered something about giving the expressing another go, freak!! I knew she was a bit weird, I'm 99 per cent suire she still feeds her 4 yr old DS, but this is beyoned the pale isn't it?

erm the OP seems to have a new little dig in every post
definitely inflammatory behaviour

YANBU! Your wording was set to rile some people on here, but you have every right to feel a bit grossed out, however pro-breastfeeding you are. Its someone else's tit and your baby!

It's a kind offer if you were a close friend or relative, but she's someone random from the toddler group.

Milk kindly donated to prem units etc is tested, or at least the donaters are from what I've seen?

However, when I saw that recent documentary on crossfeeding by Kate Garraway (I thought the bond between the sisters was nice and helped me understand a biiit), what struck me about these crossfeeding groups is that however well intentioned the mums are, any of their partners could be off having casual sex giving them nasty little infections. Would you seriously take that chance?

If you'd said "eeewwwww!" in her face I'd think you were f'in rude, but coming on here to let off steam about it shouldn't get you so jumped on, it's oversensitive and silly.

If I offered any of you lot a lick of my half salivated ice cream I wouldn't expect you to want some, why on earth should you want your baby to drink my bodily fluids??

I couldn't bf at all. I would have loved someone else to feed DD rather than give her formula. Don't knock it.

Freak? Really

Oh well.

I think that's really really kind of her. What a nice woman.

What an unpleasant and ignorant OP. So glad you are not my sister.

I'm still hoping it is some pathetic wind up,
I would have been grateful if someone had offered me their EBM!

Hey BT I'm chucking out a load of mine if you want it?
(Wouldn't feed it to D but maybe you could make some soap...)

" By thisismynewname on Fri 24-Oct-08 20:34:40
I don't have a sister?
By ohIdoliketobebesidethe on Fri 24-Oct-08 20:34:01
Would you have felt differently if it was your sister offering?"

"By thisismynewname on Fri 24-Oct-08 20:13:45
So my sister bought me tickets to see a dance show and I was telling someone at toddlers that I didn't think I could go as I can't express and DS is b/f."

Just as well you don't go to my toddler group then - my friend offered to bf my ds for me when I found I couldn't because my milk had dried up (due to pg).

Lotster - obviously I wouldn't let just anyone give my baby their milk (whether directly cross nursing him or giving him their EBM)

Why oh why oh why would you want your baby to consume a near strangers milk. Kind offer, maybe but unrealistic and presumptious to think your wouldn't find it weird. The 'norm' in this country is not to 'share' our milk and to wade in thinking that you can offer without grossing someone out is quite remarklably stupid.

The power of advertising, eh?

It's "the norm" to use powdered farmyard milk (cow, goat, sheep, soya) to feed human babies.

And we let this continue - for fear of upsetting anyone who has no choice but to feed their baby formula. But by not saying anything, more women will feel rotten about it.

Fucked up, eh?

Twelve - so because someone "might" feel offended people should never offer?

It would have been presumptuous for her to shove her breast in the OP's child's mouth without asking first, or to force a bottle of her EBM down her ds' neck, but she didn't - she offered some frozen EBM which the OP could use instead of either using formula or missing out on a night out which her sister (who may or may not exist) may or not have invited her to.

oooh well spotted hunker

Why when bf a four year old or sharing milk is mentioned we have to talk about ff??? That is not the point at all.
I am very pro bf but do get rather fucked off by the amount of shit given to women who ff, not the automatic too young and stupid to bf but the tried and failed bfers. Some women I know feel like such failures for ff.
It is not normal or necessary to bf a four year old, it is even less so to feed another person's child (except when donating to a prem unit). The average age to cease bf is not anywhere near four.

Well spotted Hunker.

I genuinely don't see what is offensive about offering to share some EBM.

Yes, some people might find it odd, unusual, a little weird - but offensive? Nah, can't see it!

hhmm

What if the OP had been hinting that she wanted some ebm from this woman? And then came on here saying, "AIBU to think this woman should've given me some of her bm stash when I so desperately need to go and see a dance show with tickets paid for by my imaginary sister?"?

sorry, not a linkm too many [s
I meant of course

LOL - well spotted hunker

And when you are talking about bf it is a personal subject and I wouldn't dream that too many people shared my view and therefore would feel around before making it known. IE I wouldn't, in RL, discuss what age I think enough is enough or that I find it odd to stik a bottle in a newborn's mouth.....

So is the OP a name changer?

stick

Oh ffs.

No-one is having a go at ff-ers! Hunker was merely pointing out that the norm of giving powdered farmyard animal's milk to infants is just as strange (when you think about it) as giving another human's milk!

Who is too young and stupid to bf? Wasn't aware there was an age limit?