Ewwww! Somebody at toddlers offered me her breast milk!!!!!!

[thisismynewname]

So my sister bought me tickets to see a dance show and I was telling someone at toddlers that I didn't think I could go as I can't express and DS is b/f.

She only went and offered me some of her expressed milk from the freezer, I'm not joking!!! I didn't know where to put myself, lol!

Muttered something about giving the expressing another go, freak!! I knew she was a bit weird, I'm 99 per cent suire she still feeds her 4 yr old DS, but this is beyoned the pale isn't it?

I don't have a sister?

defintiely winding you all up, don't take the bait !

why must this automatically be a troll?

Tbh I think there are probably more people than would want to mention on here that are not comfortable with the notion of breastfeeding a 4 year old. And similarly I don't think there are many who would accept someone else's breastmilk - esp from someone they probably don't know all that well.

Each to their own I suppose but just because one does it doesn't mean everyone else has to be ok with it, although perhaps calling her a freak on a public website is going a bit far.

oh god, stop now thisismynewname.

Pretty crap wind-up, if so. I mean, if your argument is always just "eeewww" with nothing else to back it up, was there really a point to starting a discussion?

Let's see. "I hate the Liberal Democrats/apples/sandstone/hobnobs" "Why?" "Oh, just eewww". FFS.

WannaBe, I think that is the reason why people are getting het up! Because of her calling the woman a freak.

she offered breast milk not a crack pipe.get over yourself

It's a pretty big jump to assume she'd just latch him on if she were babysitting too.

You're not coming out of this well, newname.

"calling her a freak on a public website" - that's the thing, wannabe. If she'd simply posted "this happened - what do you think, what would you have done?" it could have been a really quite interestind discussion. But instead all we get is eewww.

yanbu for not wanting the breastmilk, your choice.
yabvu to call this woman a freak.

I too used to donate milk to NICU at my hospital and had regular blood tests for HIV and hepatitis. The milk is pasteurised anyway before being given to the babies.

I also gave a good friend a couple of feeds' worth of EBM for a night out. She was BF her baby (4 weeks older than mine) and didn't want to give formula. She had also recently lost her mum and it was her first night out in weeks. I was happy to be able to help and she was glad to accept - does that make us freaks too?

interesting, I meant

Ok, sorry if I offended anyone about the four year old thing. I mean, I guess if that's your thing then, well, that's your thing.

DD shared a bottle of bm with another baby the other day at toddler group. It wasn't my milk. She grabbed it before I'd noticed, but I wasn't particularly bothered. I think you're overreacting a lot and being quite mean when she was just trying to be nice. I would've jumped at the chance tbh as I'm going to have to miss 2 nights out that Dp's going on as DD is bf. And nothing wrong with bfing a 4 year old either. I think you posted in a deliberately inflammatory way to get attention tbh.

op called her sister a freak.nice

I think its a lovely offer.

Personally, i wouldn't have taken her up on it the offer and yes, I would have been shocked but then again, its not the sort of everyday offer i'm used to hearing.

Am at how you describe her ...how incredibly narrow minded. IMHO the offer certainly doesn't make her a freak nor does it make her weird!

Oh and if she is still feeding her nearly 4 yo, so what?!

Sorry, but I just don't understand your apparent sense of revulsion.

Being able to breastfeed your child is obviously something that you place a high value on (I would imagine that a lot of mums in your position might be willing to compromise with a bottle of formula as a one-off, in order to get a much-needed night out).

So why couldn't you understand the generosity of her offer? And even if you couldn't quite bring yourself to accept it, you should have at least responded graciously.

She could be a mumsnetter reading this very thread!

You are just offending full stop!

She probably spent ages wondering whether to offer thinking you'd think she was a freak but otoh thought it might be the answer to your prayers

No, she offered immiediately molarbear, when it came up in convo.

Perhaps she does it regularly

but can you answer me why it is worse than getting milk from a cow?

So fucking what if she does?

I think you're mental to say ewwww - there is NO LOGIC to that. It's just (wrong) social conditioning. She was trying to help.

She's weird?????

"Tbh I think there are probably more people than would want to mention on here that are not comfortable with the notion of breastfeeding a 4 year old."

Oh, I dunno, Wannabe - any time there's an natural term bf thread, there's rather a lot of people who are totally happy to mention it. Elbows out, chins a-jutting, they don't stop mentioning it, in fact.

OP, it's a shame you feel so revulsed by the kind offer of this woman. And it's a shame you felt it was OK to call her a freak. I'm glad you've realised that now, but I wonder whether you have changed your mind or are simply doing some cyber back-tracking?

So an acquaintance made a very kind offer to help you out, and your reaction is to slag her off behind her back? Think you are very much in the wrong here. Poor woman.

I think I would have declined, politely. There's no need to be insulting.