to expect my friends 2y 10mth old dd not to scream every time she doesn't get what she wants?

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Have just had my friend with 2 dcs over this am for lunch and have had to put up with her dd who is the same age as mine screaming blue murder when she had to share/take turns/eat lunch/ been told no toys on the table Am I expecting too much in that I at least expect her to apply consequences when her dd does this i.e. time out etc. She just kept repeating 'no darling, don't do that' 'no darling, you have to share don't you' in a baby voice. This approach certainly isn't working for her.

I am because toward the end of the morning my dd who doesn't scream was trying to copy her, for which she got sent to time out.

nighty night.hope this resolves well

I think it is your friend's behaviour, and not the child's that is at the crux of this, tbh. And in that I know where you are coming from. I have no problem with children this age behaving badly- that's what they do, they are learning. What winds me up is when their mums make excuses for them, or do the wheedly-voice thing. I don't expect them to do timeout or raise their voice, but I feel more empathy towards mum if I can at least hear some disapproval of the behaviour! OTOH, it does sound like your friend might have some issues, and I guess it depends on how close you are to her whether you are in a position to help her or not.

After reading your other posts, i think you are more annoyed that your friend does not seem to try your methods of disiplining her dd (or maybe she does but found they dont work for her dd) i think secretly you want to be able to say 'see i told you so' because you are so smug.

You do undermine your friend and i agree you have no empathy and little understanding, but at the end of the day, how she deals with her dd is none of your business, even if it is in your own home, you dont suddenly get to take over parenting of someone elses child just because they are in your house, if you dont like the way she deals with it, dont have them in your house, if you are worrying about your dd copying other childrens behaviour then you better lock her away for the next 10 yrs.

If you had come here and posted 'my friend is at the end of her tether, how can i help her control her dd tanturms' you would have got lots of advice, but no, it seems you already know how she should be parenting her, your just not happy becuase she doesnt listen to your preaching (and who can blame her, when your so smug)you havent said that your friend has even asked for your help or advice? maybe she feels she is coping with it in her own way.

But 'to expect my friends 2y 10mth old dd not to scream every time she doesn't get what she wants?' YABU. Your just pieed that you cant control your friend, like you do your dd.

Oh and my ds has his toys next to him in his highchair when he is eating, as long as he is eating i couldnt give a feck if he wants have 'bob the builder' dancing in his beans, they all go in the sink with the dishes when he has finished. Seriously, you sound like the 'hitler' of all mothers