to specify "no violent toys please" on party invite

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Ds will be 4 soon

he went to a party at the weekend where another boy was whacking everyone with a plastic sword. His parents were not there, so the bad behaviour went unchecked, largely. Tho people told him not to, I guess noone felt they had the right to take it from him/cause a scene.since Ds started nursery he has been coming home shooting his finger at us "You're a nasty person and i'm shooting you dead" etc

this horrifies me, I will not accept that is just how boys are. Nursery are very good, they do not own any violent toys and tell them not to play those sorts of games, but it is hard because there are some boys who will pick up a stick, train or lego brick and pretend it is a gun, and the boys are young and only doing what they do at home (I assume). I think it is so sad.

any way, we really do not want ds to ever have any weapon type toys, Is it BU or OK to put on party invite something like "X would like Y to come to his party. Please do not feel obliged to buy a gift, but if you would like to , please respect our wishes and do not buy anything of a violent nature, thanks"

anyone any experience?

AIBU?

otherwise I dread him getting stuff we really don't like and having to hide it from him/send to charity shop

No lightsabres NAO???
But being Yoda is the great !

I thought of another one - no Gelli Baff. That stuff is the work of the devil. I'd rather an Uzi, two Sten guns and a missile launcher than a box of Gelli Baff.

Whats Gelli Baff?

I work with violent men - men who have done real arm with real eapons.

Toy guns and swords in childhood is the least of their problems TBH.

I personally wouldn't buy DD toy weapons, nor a DS if I had one. I don't like the idea of them but I know that many children, girls and boys, will make pretend weapons out of anything to play like this at times.

DD does however have a plastic cutlass from Disney she was bought. It had not been banned. She rarely plays with it, not her thing TBH.

DH and his brother both has replica type toy gins as children, as mnay children did in those day. They sed their soft toys as barricades at the top and bottom of the stairs to fight one another. Neither DH or his brother are in any way voilent, infact quite the opposite.

Now, I wouldn;t want DD to have these toys and wouldn;t encourage it. But in no way would I put such a comment on her invites. I would be vey if I recieved such an invite!

But seriously the gang culture violence - which is what most of the percieved increase in street voilence is from - in our country is not because children were allowed to play with plastic guns and swords imo. The gang culture runs far deeper.

The work of the devil

My DD will also do fencing at school in a couple of years time. I don't expect that experience of dueling wil turn her into some iolent thugs int he future.

LOL!
never seen that.. will have to hide from ds's but am secretly tempted.

never hear of gelli bath!

gelli bath.... i start to twitch when the ad comes on, my hubbie saw it and said " yesss where do you get it from?" he changed his mind when i poked him in the eye!!!

yes hula
to imagine gun culture arises from playing with plastic guns is utterly utterly utterly ridiculous.

gang/gun culture is not a result of playing with guns as kids. if you are naive enough to imagine so, then you are lucky enough not to have ever lived in such an atmosphere.

and if gang/gun culture is suddenly on the increase... then theres no correlation between toy guns as these have been around for a v long time.

there is just NO sense to the theory whatsoever.

and yes, gelli baff IS the work of the devil... never ever use it if you have a septic tank. it doesnt like it. and the sachet which 'magically transforms it back into water'? is LIES.

ratface

no one is arguing that

do i want my child to pretend play guns and knives 'no'

Who would not want a light sabre??????

Seriously?

Jedis are so cool (and moral)yuor lightsabre and powers only work to defend.

But best of all......it changes colour!!!!

God, and the whooshy, noise, don't forget that.

IMO no one should buy them and really they shouldnt be sold.

there have been far too many incidents in my area of kids taking them outside and people thinking theyre real, weve had sevearal armed squads in the highstreets locally where they have thought to be real

do i want to deprive my child of developmental play involving replica toys.no

dont like toys that make noise either

What,... a lightsabre?

We don't have a septic tank - but it's still the most hellish invention ever. Turns your bath into wallpaper paste, birthday boy and recipient of said gift (ds2) does much dancing round naked, shrieking, and refuses to get in, ds1 does get in and declares it "disgusting", the "magical transforming sachet" as Ratface says IS lies, you put it in and still have a bath full of wallpaper paste, your dh has a hissy fit and says "do you know we will have to break the bath panel to get at the plumbing if it blocks the pipes", you spend an hour draining the water out through a tea strainer and discarding the lumps while your eldest child slowly dries, encrusted with blue slime, then eldest child needs a shower, and youngest still needs a bath. Turns a quick pre-bedtime bath into a full blown family drama complete with blue slime and shouting.

Sorry, were we taling about something else ?

We have about 17 light sabers.

ugggh HATE gellibaff. ds's screamed when they got in and hated it. it doesnt turn back to water and it is NOT gelli/jelly-its basically wallpaper paste-but coloured! yuk!

SorenLorensen exactly!

If my son got a party invite which politely requested no violent toys etc I wouldnt take offense tbh I would probably respect the parent more for being open. I wouldnt like to buy a pressie that wouldn't be played with.

However I would never stop my children playing with toy gun etc cos I always fear thatit may cause some weird fascination in them when they're older.

Each parent is entitled to their opinion and if the bday childs parent doesnt want violent toys then I would respect that decision.

i'd buy him grand theft auto

If my children want to play guns etc, im quite happy letting them use sticks, toast,lego... whatever..but Im certainly not going to go and buy them plastic replicas!

whats Gelli Baff ?