to specify "no violent toys please" on party invite

[loobeylou]

Ds will be 4 soon

he went to a party at the weekend where another boy was whacking everyone with a plastic sword. His parents were not there, so the bad behaviour went unchecked, largely. Tho people told him not to, I guess noone felt they had the right to take it from him/cause a scene.since Ds started nursery he has been coming home shooting his finger at us "You're a nasty person and i'm shooting you dead" etc

this horrifies me, I will not accept that is just how boys are. Nursery are very good, they do not own any violent toys and tell them not to play those sorts of games, but it is hard because there are some boys who will pick up a stick, train or lego brick and pretend it is a gun, and the boys are young and only doing what they do at home (I assume). I think it is so sad.

any way, we really do not want ds to ever have any weapon type toys, Is it BU or OK to put on party invite something like "X would like Y to come to his party. Please do not feel obliged to buy a gift, but if you would like to , please respect our wishes and do not buy anything of a violent nature, thanks"

anyone any experience?

AIBU?

otherwise I dread him getting stuff we really don't like and having to hide it from him/send to charity shop

soon2be3 I think you would have found that people wouldn't have bought weapons even if you hadn't mentioned it! I have 3DSs and have never dictated which presents to give or not give(very rude apart from anything else) and no one has ever given them a weapon. It would cause a lot of rolling of eyes and general mirth!

I've have come into the fray rather late as usual but have found this rather interesting.

The 'tude seems to be about 50/50 about letting boys play with 'violent toys'

100% think your invite is quote 'wanky'

I think you come across as thouroughly unpleasant and your son will grow up being a pant wetting jessie. Not because he wasn't allowed to play with guns but because his mummy smothered him.

Loobey, I don't think you can write it but would be surprised if you got any and sure that you could hide, pretend to be broken or use these toys as a starter for a good talk with your DS.
At the end of the party I would imagine this will be secondary to a large glass of red anyway!! good luck.

You most definitely need wine for the entire duration of the party or you will want to hold a spud-gun to your head.