to specify "no violent toys please" on party invite

[loobeylou]

Ds will be 4 soon

he went to a party at the weekend where another boy was whacking everyone with a plastic sword. His parents were not there, so the bad behaviour went unchecked, largely. Tho people told him not to, I guess noone felt they had the right to take it from him/cause a scene.since Ds started nursery he has been coming home shooting his finger at us "You're a nasty person and i'm shooting you dead" etc

this horrifies me, I will not accept that is just how boys are. Nursery are very good, they do not own any violent toys and tell them not to play those sorts of games, but it is hard because there are some boys who will pick up a stick, train or lego brick and pretend it is a gun, and the boys are young and only doing what they do at home (I assume). I think it is so sad.

any way, we really do not want ds to ever have any weapon type toys, Is it BU or OK to put on party invite something like "X would like Y to come to his party. Please do not feel obliged to buy a gift, but if you would like to , please respect our wishes and do not buy anything of a violent nature, thanks"

anyone any experience?

AIBU?

otherwise I dread him getting stuff we really don't like and having to hide it from him/send to charity shop

Szyslak could happen.

I cant wait to dump and run, midway through singing happy birthday.

I shall go and drink gin at the local public house...tra la la!

pmsl szyslak

no but it may add a sense of perspective some things matter.replica toys dont

economic meltdown could affect your mortgage rate,access to credit,employment status potentially having a knock-on effect on your children

I admit it, it was me. The child at the party.
I couldn't bear to discuss your excellent parenting by the finger food buffet with you for one second so I sneaked out.

Both my brothers had action men toys (which I played with), cap guns and I remember a couple of metal cowboy six-shooters or whatever they're called. They were generally used as a prop when getting into, for example, policeman, soldier, cowboy character.

We were pretending to have a gun. At no point was there any belief that we were actually shooting each other, and at no time have any of us felt the desire to have a real gun.

I truly believe that the potential for finding a random abandoned gun in a dark alley is pretty limited. And you know, my children don't often wander down dark alleys without me.

What about archery. What about fencing say. What about karate?

I think that the leap from plastic or foam sword ownership (or one fashioned out of a balloon at a party) to future knife crime is ludicrously huge. Ditto the leap from having a captain jack sparrow pistol or a lightsabre to wanting to own and use a real gun.

oh ffs some of you are really taking this too far now, I WAS TAKING THE PISS OUT OF MYSELF - SOME OF YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND STOP BEING SO RUDE, I asked a simple q, you give an opinion, then come back to slag off anyone who disagrees. very grown up

I honestly think some of you deliberately read more into things than there ever is because you like to get all worked up and rude! I accept your right to think differently. you say I am a nutter, how is that reasonable. some of you have, and I thank you, come close to explaining why you think play in that context is Ok , as you monitor and explain why its not real etc.this is probably the way to go.

and for those who asked, we certainly never asked for money at our wedding that is dreadful, in fact, we said we did not mind no presents as we lived miles from both families and knew everyone would have the expense of travelling and staying overnight.them bothering to come was enough.ditto sons party.all we want is him to have a nice time.and pref not to have presents that will be taken off him.

good night, end.

and guns dont?

mn is terrible for that isnt it

notanotter, that link you provided showed a news report demonstrating a slight rise in gun crime. However as I pointed out, based on BCS data over 14-15 years, violent crime overall is going down. Moreover, the cases of gun and knife related crime and deaths are limited to very small enclaves of large inner cities and particular estates (on the whole)

There are big problems with the British Crime Survey (and I will accept there is some underreporting of knife crime particularly in young adults ) but steady decreases in reporting when the police are trying very hard to report crimes accurately under enormous pressure from the home office, press and public, does indicate a general trend.

As in most cases of crime awareness, the public perceive the problem to be much larger than it actually is, largely because of the reporting of crime in papers like, er, the Telegraph.

PMSL Szyslak.

Where do you stand on light sabers?

I think you should also add:

No tat
Nothing from the Pound Shop
No Mega Bloks, real Lego only

sorenlorensen

And anything noisy.
And anything you have to blow up.

op so you not likey the respnses?if only you had made it clear only reply in a sychopantic supportive mannner

you have chosen to be humphy and deride everyone for not sycophantically enthusing about your opinion

righty ho

And anything from my present drawer (recycled shite from parties gone by)

sorenloren, thats the best post I've seen all night LOL LOL LOL

oh fgs

my younger brother was absolutely obsessed with guns and war etc as a kid. i hated it, we were all concerned, my parents never bought him a single gun and they never bought be barbie or dolls either for that matter. they tried, but he was obsessed anyway. he is absolutely categorially a pacifist and always has been.
one does not lead to the other. seems like it might, but it doesnt.

and no battery operated toys unless you supply a lifetime's worth of bloody batteries

I don't think you need to worry about other children bringing your ds inappropriate gifts at his party Loobeylou. Just show their parents this thread and i think you will avoid this problem from hereon in.

i would not want light sabers

nor any tat
nor fake lego!

No alien slime
Nor fairy wands (I mean, no one wants to be turned into a frog lightly, do they?)

Or anyhing Very Large

or made of plastic

'educational toys made from sustainable wood' should sum up your requirments I imagine.

defeinitely put that on the invite.

I have 3 boys and I don't think anyone ever gave them a weapon as present.I think it would look a bit rude and precious to put it on an invitation. My DSs are now teenagers, they are very peace loving, despite playing cops and robbers etc. Boys like rough games!

and please wipe the snot off your kid's face before sending them in