to think people should not say no black at a funeral.

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cos finding smart non balck clothes is a bloody nightmare.
I don't do smart, or wear skirts. dd has cp so what is the point when i will be covered in food and have to crawl arround the floor.

all of the younger people's funerals I have been to have specified no black - it has never meant really smart though. Just normal brighter clothes.

YABU. As if it's what family really want... But I wouldn't buy smart stuff.

YABU.

i have specified no black at my memorial services, all Scotsmen must come dressed as such (mmm, men in kilts), no teetotallers and no hateful anti-smokers (although i don't smoke).

my DS has severe ASD but i have still dressed him in the manner that I think the family would regard as respectful.
the point surely is the wishes of the family.

I went to a funeral recently where that was the 'prefered' dress code, but it wasn't set in stone. Everyone has their own ideas or feeling on it. If you want to wear black, wear black.

Personally, when its my turn I shall insist that my friends don't wear black, just to hack them off one more time!

I AM THE BLOODY FAMILY

so of course I will do what my dad wishes.
But I can moan privately on here.....

YABVVVVVVVVU

for all the reasons pointed out

dress in a respectful manner and you ;ll be fine

if the funeral is for a child who had SN, i am sure their family will understand the limitations on clothes

hmm, I tend to think that no black might mean the funeral isn't meant to be formal, and so casual (as long at it is clean and in fairly good nick - otherwise seems disrespectful) would be ok.

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do you think black trousers and a white top will be ok?

x post! and that is why we need all the info in the OP!!

you are still BU reasonable thhough!±

well sorry
but most people don't go to funerals of complete strangers.

(childrens are the worst as black seems wrong then, no idea why)

Do you not have a colourful top of any description? If so wear that with your black trousers.

Or wear a black suit with bright shoes, bag and scarf.

Or buy a bright purple hair dye!

no black is to make it more of a celebration of life..

lol my dad would have a heart attack if i died my hair purple.....bless him.
good idea I will wear the trousers with a bright top.

i think if no black is specified then provided you feel comfortable and are not going to offend anyone with an inappropriate slogan on a slinky t shirt then it doesnt have to be smart/dressy

and i think children just wear a tidy looking outfit

A friend had a funeral where e requested carnivalites attendng (many) wore costume

some objected and refused

bloody rude!

(your answer is embedded in that tale LOL)

YABU, sorry to hear you've a funeral to attend though.

The black trousers with a lighter/brighter top will be fine.

black is respectful at funerals

though I did go to a little girls one a few years ago who died of cancer she wanted everyone to be happy at her funeral and not be sad or mope and mum asked us to wear pink (girls fav colour) and we all let off pink balloons as her spirit - was very sad but it was what mum and her dd wanted

A funeral to me is all about the person who has passed away. The funeral should be tailoured to what it is believed that person would want.