To think dh should not have spent £50 on some flowers for my IL'd 50th Anniversary?

[GordonTheGopher]

Money is tight.

Flowers die.

He went behind my back because he knew I'd be cross.

I am.

I would never dream of spending that much on my parents' anniversary.

AIBU?

If I am I will accept it and not put him in the doghouse tonight!

some people like flowers. they are a luxury treat.

Did you not spend any money on flowers on your wedding day?

Touche.

Yes of course! And yes I realise IABU but was annoyed that people had brought my wedding into it!

Surely flowers, for many men, are the generic nice gift?
YABU and a little controlling imho

Flowers are a lovely gift..especialy £50 worth....his parents his choice....I take it you didn't have anything that you'd already organised?

well gopher its mn and people do look up your posta dn messages and they remember stuff lol

when you dont want them to quite often

God, you sound like a complete harridan. If your dh had taken his courage in both hands and asked you what he should get, instead of flowers, what would have you suggested?

£50 on flowers only gets a decent bunch from interflora and no doubt raised your IL's hearts.

I agree that he should have consulted you first, but I am not sure he would have been brave enough to.

Many many people would be pleased to have parents to send flowers to, let alone ones that have had 50 years of marriage together.

YABVU

The wedding just gave it perspective Gordon.

Not sure what fanjolina said to you on another thread....

ooh "harridan" - I like that word!

are you going to come back and tell us then mnhq2

I would have bought a bulbs/plant/rose bush as they are forever giving personally and if money is tight it is wasteful, i send helium balloons as a lovely keepsack that floats for many weeks before slowly wilting.

GordonTheGopher on Fri 18-Jul-08 18:01:27 thread re "WWYD with regards to this dilemma of dh's?" about Gordon wanting her DH to fly business class not economy so that they could get some of the money his company would save

Shocking reply from fanjolina :

By fanjolina on Fri 18-Jul-08 19:50:38
Definitely Business Class. You can't do a long flight and 2 days work and survive the jetlag unless you have flown at least Business Class. It's not just the flight itself, it is the relaxing in the lounge first too, away from the stress and rabble in Heathrow.

fanjolina - if you do have it in for Gordon, you missed a trick there. No accusations of controlling behaviour, etc

Try looking for fanjolinajolie...

I can't think of a nicer present for £50 than flowers. Probably for a special occasion people don't want a sensible present. The wedding flowers must have cost way above £50.

DB and I ended up spending about £150 each for my parents 50th. So I don't think it's that much. Even if you are skint - which we are usually. And once the £50 is spent does it really matters what it's spent on.

Probably the way you have to look at is -wouldn't you a bit disappointed if you get to your 50th Anniversary and your children don't do anything special and get the cheapest, sensible present possible?

And once you've reached that sort of age there probably aren't that many 'things' that you want or need.

i am guessing that they did pay for you to have a lovely holiday then

which suggests they are lovely generous folk whom your dh is wanting to show his love and appreciation for

what would you have given them if you had known beforehand it was their 50th wedding anniversary and it hadnt been something yopu only discovered was happening after the event

tho if you turned down the idea of celebrating with them then presumably you did know it was coming up sometime ahead?

Maybe he thought a pound for every year.

I am being unreasonable!!!

Now shut up all of you.

£50 on flowers that were delivered is not much, quite different from ones which you buy yourself and take round. And I wouldn't ask DH what to spend on my parents for their birthdays or anniversary - my parents, my choice.

They are different posters Gordon....

By FanjolinaJolly on Tue 26-Aug-08 23:15:04
I have just discovered that there is a poster called Fanjolina,I dunno if she preceded me or I preceded her I dunno how you check?.In my old guise I have been here since mid 2005.Do I change back if I have inadvertently used a similar name,what is the etiquette please,ladies (Oh and if I have been a plagiarist I apologise to Fanjolina the original one )

Shut uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup

why didn't you go for a meal with them anyway???

Gordon - I think it is time for you to 'hide' this thread and walk away.