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To think people should respect my wishes on my wedding day

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Perfectinpink · 28/07/2008 10:56

I am getting married at the end of August, everything is sorted, all going well (Miraculously). Except for one thing. On the wedding invitations, I asked people to come dressed in pink - or at least with pink touches. Pink is my favourite colour and my lovely fiance has agreed to wear a grey suit with gorgeous pink waistcoat and tie.
My dress is, obviously pink, bridesmaids are in pink, the flowers will be pink, the decorations are pink - that is the colour scheme.

Well, everyone rsvp'd but now it appears some of my friends and family are rebelling. My best friend has shown me her outfit and it is not pink. Or even purple, red, magenta, vermillion or puce! It is green. I have asked her if she couldn't get a jacket with pink in it and a hat but she refuses. It will look bloody horrible in the wedding photos.
She has got very shirty with me and has told me that apparently several other friends are ignoring the pink theme. And now my sister has said her dh is refusing to wear anything remotely pink (not even a tie with some pink in it)
It's my wedding, it's at a lovely expensive venue, I am paying for them to have a marvellous day, plenty of (pink) champagne and lovely food (all of it with a pink flavour!) and they are going to ruin everything if they persist in ignoring my request. I just want it to be perfect.
What should I do? I've even thought anbout making pink sashes for the rebels to wear but time is running out and I am running out of patience (and money).

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DaphneMoon · 28/07/2008 11:08

Why would the colours clash, we don't all in RL walk round in the same colours as each other. We don't say Oh don't take my photo I'm standing next to Auntie Glad and I'm not wearing the same colour. Photographs reflect real life and what was happening there and then. I have never looked at a wedding photograph and thought why are they all wearing different colours. The only thing I would check is that the Brides mother and bridegrooms mother are not wearing the same outfit or colour as they could be embarassed about that. I would have thought that several different types of pink would clash terribly! Or were you thinking of standing them in shade order on the photos!!

Katisha · 28/07/2008 11:09

Visions of wedding photos looking like colour chart from Dulux...

objectivity · 28/07/2008 11:09

rofl

EffiePerine · 28/07/2008 11:09

this has cheered me up

ladies and gentlemen, please be upstanding for the bride

hatrick · 28/07/2008 11:09

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Anglepoise · 28/07/2008 11:09

You're trolling, right?

Just leave the people who rebel out of your photos. That'll show them.

Twiglett · 28/07/2008 11:10

YES you are being unreasonable

and a tad mad too .. like a tinpot dictator .. it is not your role to decide on guests outfits at all

weddings are really boring for anyone but the wedding party to be honest .. you go because you feel obliged

rebelmum1 · 28/07/2008 11:10

You could go further and give them a pantone reference..

Bumdiddley · 28/07/2008 11:11

You are 'avin a bubble barf intcha??

rebelmum - rose tinted spectacles

Twiglett · 28/07/2008 11:11

and anyway you are the hostess of the party it is your role to ensure your guests are happy and not their role to ensure that your every little whim is satisfied

and pink is a stupid colour for a grown-up anyway ..

rebelmum1 · 28/07/2008 11:12

The photos might clash with your lounge, that would need to be pink too..

Twiglett · 28/07/2008 11:12

if it is so important to you you should give everyone a pink corsage

PinkPussyCat · 28/07/2008 11:12

You can't judge standards of photography on the colour of the subjects' clothing. It's nonsense.

A good photographer = good photographs

MeMySonAndI · 28/07/2008 11:12

You can even sort the tables by shade of pink. Just get a pantone book by the door and sort the guests as they arrive.

rebelmum1 · 28/07/2008 11:12

Is the vicar in pink?

Twinkie1 · 28/07/2008 11:13

YABU - Are you Jordan? Have you divorced Peter without us knowing and are getting married again?

Or maybe Jodie Marsh? Are you wearing a pink belt across your boobs?

Do you realise that your photos will look contrived and outdated in years to come?

mangolassi · 28/07/2008 11:13

Grin Grin Grin

rebelmum1 · 28/07/2008 11:13

Do you have a pink throne?

hatrick · 28/07/2008 11:13

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Twiglett · 28/07/2008 11:13

just seen the photography comment

omg LOL .. you are quite mad and know nothing about design do you?

thelittlestbadger · 28/07/2008 11:13

If you feel that strongly about it give people pink carnations to wear when they arrive - not sashes unless you are also running a beauty contest .

nailpolish · 28/07/2008 11:14

i woudnt wear a pink corsage if i clashed with my outift

AbbeyA · 28/07/2008 11:14

I'm afraid I would rebel! I might even get together with others and rebel!!
If I was the mother of bride or groom then I would colour coordinate but not otherwise.
I may not be intending to buy anything new and not have pink.
As it happens I wear pink, but if for example it was to be yellow I never ever wear it because I don't suit it.
I think the whole thing would look naff anyway! It would be funny if everyone came in violently clashing pinks!!
You can control a lot about your wedding-but not the outfits of the guests!

nailpolish · 28/07/2008 11:14

im surprised you have any friends to invite tbh

HuwEdwards · 28/07/2008 11:15

Bridezilla.

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