To think people should respect my wishes on my wedding day

[Perfectinpink]

I am getting married at the end of August, everything is sorted, all going well (Miraculously). Except for one thing. On the wedding invitations, I asked people to come dressed in pink - or at least with pink touches. Pink is my favourite colour and my lovely fiance has agreed to wear a grey suit with gorgeous pink waistcoat and tie.
My dress is, obviously pink, bridesmaids are in pink, the flowers will be pink, the decorations are pink - that is the colour scheme.

Well, everyone rsvp'd but now it appears some of my friends and family are rebelling. My best friend has shown me her outfit and it is not pink. Or even purple, red, magenta, vermillion or puce! It is green. I have asked her if she couldn't get a jacket with pink in it and a hat but she refuses. It will look bloody horrible in the wedding photos.
She has got very shirty with me and has told me that apparently several other friends are ignoring the pink theme. And now my sister has said her dh is refusing to wear anything remotely pink (not even a tie with some pink in it)
It's my wedding, it's at a lovely expensive venue, I am paying for them to have a marvellous day, plenty of (pink) champagne and lovely food (all of it with a pink flavour!) and they are going to ruin everything if they persist in ignoring my request. I just want it to be perfect.
What should I do? I've even thought anbout making pink sashes for the rebels to wear but time is running out and I am running out of patience (and money).

[rebelmum1]

The photographer could put a pink filter on the camera and you wouldn't have to go to all this expense and upset.

[notwavingjustironing]

This is so so a wind up..... "I'm going out now will be back later" or "let me sit back and laugh my head off while you all debate my pointless and imaginary dilemma"....

[Twinkie1]

Actually just though about it and glad we not invited - DS would refuse point blank to wear anything pink, DH would look a rosy cheeked knob - he has red cheeks and pink or red brings them out awfully, I have bright red hair and don't wear pink if I can help it but we could send along DD who would gladly wear a Stephanie wig from Sporticus and all over pink even pink eyeshadow and lipstick - she would love it!

[DaphneMoon]

hatrick, how right you are. EVERYONES wedding pictures look ridiculous after about 10 years anyway. Hairstyles date, dresses date, outfits date. My Sisters wedding photographs from the 1970's are hilarious!

[Twiglett]

although to be fair carnations sound like right up OP's street

[orangehead]

Why not have no guests, get cardbord life size photos of them in the perfect pose and pink outfits fot your perfect photos. After all you dont need their personalities there as it is only yours thats important.

[Twiglett]

notwaving .. don't worry .. NOBODY is taking it seriously, we're just playing along

[Turniphead1]

perfectinpink - I went to a wedding about 4 years ago of my two friends (early 30s, very sensible professionals etc!) and they requested the same in their invitations. I thought it was slightly odd - but was happy to go along with it. Even a pink pag or necklace was fine. I did however get a special mention in the speeches for the biggest pink effort [proud emoticon] (just happened to find a dusky pink Fenn Wright and Manson outfit...).

Most people complied in some way (some cousins dyed thier hair pink!!) and some didn't bother. I don't think you can get arsey about it. It is a tricky request for some people (it can be hard enough to find something to wear for a wedding without it being a set colour - and you can only add a pink accessory if it doesn't clash). Its more onerous than blacktie as a dress code.

So - YANBU to ask people to wear an item of pink. Great, if they comply. But YABU (and risk coming across as childish, bridezilla-esque and ungracious) if you kick up or get sulky if people don't comply.
Try and remember - these are your friends/family - it's more important that they are there to celebrate your marriage than what they wear.

And do take on board the consensus on the thread. Otherwise there is no point asking.

Have a fanastic day!!

[DaphneMoon]

Twinkie, not being a red head I had not thought of that. You are right red heads don;t look good in pink (no insult intended here) so I would be pissed off if I was a red head and made to wear pink. Has the OP thought of that or is her head still stuck up her arse!

[Shitehawk]

You either want your guests there to share your day or you don't. They're not dolls you can dress up and arrange as you please; they are your friends, and you should be inviting them there because you love them, not because they'll look pretty in the pictures.

Do you not think the whole think will look too much like a 6 year old's birthday party rather than a wedding though?

Or the flamingo pen at the zoo?

[notwavingjustironing]

Phew.

[Turniphead1]

Don't think she is a troll! As I say, my friend's requested this. getting married does do VERY VERY strange things to the brain...

[LadyThompson]

Trolling is even more pitiful than getting everyone to wear pink. Get a life, Pink-o.

[rebelmum1]

I think people object more to being told what to do rather than pink, by the end of it they'll like pink more than you.

[Jackstini]

YABU - you cannot expect people to shell out for an outfit to fit in with your theme that they may never wear again!
OTOH I think some of your friends are being a bit shirty too, people can make a small gesture - the lady with a green suit can wear pink earrings or something. Also they can be honest with you about how much pink they are going to wear.
Make it easy and have lots of pink buttonholes/corsages for the ushers to give out too just in case people forget.
Finally, try and calm down so you can enjoy the fact you are marrying the love of your life - get your priorities straight!

[Gateau]

You're either sad because you're putting too much into your wedding or sad because you have too much time on your hands to think up this troll - and then post it.

[LIZS]

Think the my wedding day rather sums it up - you have come across as overly demanding and having lost sight of the fact that there is more than just you in a marriage. Fine to provide pink button holes etc but to attempt to dictate dress code beyond your immediate family and the bridal party, in the interest if coordinated photos, is ridiculous . And you sent out invitations 7 months ahead, are guests having to travel far ?

[Twinkie1]

Daphers - I am not a natural readhead but would make sure hair was extra red if some nutter started dictating what I should wear - I would make sure I bought them a pink crystal present too - one you get in crap shopping malls where they can engrave your face and it looks spooky - I would have to go all out to buy the naffest pinkest piece of tat possible!

[edam]

V good effort if this is a wind up.

If not, then you need to get over yourself. Sheesh. You'll look back at this in a few months and cringe at the memory! Your family and friends are too important for you to fall out over this.

Or give everyone pink carnations as buttonholes if it matters that much. Wedding photos always show people in a variety of outfits because human beings don't generally wear a uniform outside work and school. Your photographer will be more than able to cope!

[katiechops]

How ridiculous!

Your wedding should be about celebrating your love with family and friends, not colour schemes. Why give yourself stupid things like this to worry about? Relax and enjoy your day. That's what you'll really want to see when you look back on your wedding photos in years to come - a happy, smiling couple having a great time with their guests.

[TheMadHouse]

Mad mad troll - a pink one at that

[Kewcumber]

My red headed mother would turn the invitation down rather than wear anything pink and wouldn't buy anything new in pick just for one wedding.

Deliberately wearing something not pick is a bit pointed wihtout even making the effor to get a cheap pink scarf from an Oxfam shop to keep you happy.

FWIW I think a cheap pink scarf with a green outfit will look completely hideous but technically would comply with your dictat.

Don't be precious just don;t have the non-pinkers in the photo if you insist.

(You do realise that it isn't going to be "perfect" don;t you? You can't control all of your guests, the vicar, the venue, the weather, the catering, the transport system etc etc somthing will not be perfect and you will still have a lovely time.)