To think people should respect my wishes on my wedding day

[Perfectinpink]

I am getting married at the end of August, everything is sorted, all going well (Miraculously). Except for one thing. On the wedding invitations, I asked people to come dressed in pink - or at least with pink touches. Pink is my favourite colour and my lovely fiance has agreed to wear a grey suit with gorgeous pink waistcoat and tie.
My dress is, obviously pink, bridesmaids are in pink, the flowers will be pink, the decorations are pink - that is the colour scheme.

Well, everyone rsvp'd but now it appears some of my friends and family are rebelling. My best friend has shown me her outfit and it is not pink. Or even purple, red, magenta, vermillion or puce! It is green. I have asked her if she couldn't get a jacket with pink in it and a hat but she refuses. It will look bloody horrible in the wedding photos.
She has got very shirty with me and has told me that apparently several other friends are ignoring the pink theme. And now my sister has said her dh is refusing to wear anything remotely pink (not even a tie with some pink in it)
It's my wedding, it's at a lovely expensive venue, I am paying for them to have a marvellous day, plenty of (pink) champagne and lovely food (all of it with a pink flavour!) and they are going to ruin everything if they persist in ignoring my request. I just want it to be perfect.
What should I do? I've even thought anbout making pink sashes for the rebels to wear but time is running out and I am running out of patience (and money).

[AnnVan]

YABU - you say you're paying for them to have a great day, how is it great if theyre being forced to wear something they're uncomfortable in. What about redheads? They notoriously can't wear pink. Sounds pretty childish, on the day you should be thinkning about the commitment you are making, not about what your guests are wearing. Also sounds a little bit obsessive to me

[AnnVan]

Well done - this will teach me to a) read a whole thread before replying and b) not be on MN at 2 am, insomnia or not. oh dear

Great wind up though!

[thumbwitch]

checking this thread to see whether or not weeonion has got those photos yet (yes I know I am sad and should have more of a life but hey! no one's perfect)

[vlc]

Lol at all the gingernuts outing themselves on this thread with righteous indignation.

[R2G]

WOW! You're a crazeeeeeee!

I pride myself on the fact that people still mention my wedding and people call me to help plan theirs. Everybody said it was the best wedding they had ever been to.

It was big (250 guests) expensive and had a touch of pink I'll admit! But I know why everyone thought it was the best as they have told me, it was because they felt so relaxed, it was fun, it was beautiful, moving and entertaining. They said they felt they had been treated and privileged to be invited.

Now I do remember having a fit about napkins not being the right shade of navy and having one harpist or two as you came through my dad's house to the marquee....but to tell everyone what to wear is madness.

I have been bridesmaid 5 times and don't enjoy it tha tmuch because you are wearing a colour and style that don't suit you and have to be in close proximity, if not on the receiving end, to the bridezilla.

I would say have a word with yourself and ENJOY every minute! My wedding album is amazing, but it is the smiles, the memories and the people captured on the pictures who have since passed away (oh and my figure pre-baby) that are special and worth the money.

Relax. They are not plotting against you. They just can't be arsed wearing pink and being herded around on what can be a long and tedious day if you're not careful!

[R2G]

Oh and I know it is a lot of money you are spending, but people will be spending a lot to get there, get an outfit and get you a lovely present so really, have a word with yourself!
(meant in the nicest possible way)

[cbmummy]

I don't think you should dictate what your guests wear. I know that at some funerals I have been to it has been requested not to wear black. I have accepted that and gone along with it as it paying respect to a persons final wish. But, others have not and it is up to them. I think it is a bit much for a wedding to be honest. People get in enough of a tiz trying to find an outfit for a wedding let alone having to match a colour scheme. Thats for the grooms and bridal parties - not guests really.

[Heifer]

Thank the lord you were joshing!

I was going to comment that surely 101 shades of pink would clash even more so than non pinks!

I think that whole pink theme would be very naffola, but would never turn an invite down to such an event. Just image the laughter it would cause for years to come, and the photos that coud be posted for others amusement!

[Lonnie]

I don't think you can chose what others will wear, however I do have a couple of questions

1 was it clear on the invite that you don't wish for them to be in pink outfits just a small something of pink? (as it could be a misunderstanding of people think you are indeed expecting a barbie type thing)

2 Likely nothing to do w me but if she is your best friend why is she not a bridesmaid? (and can't you simply by her a corsage as your best friend to wear with PINK flowers- my 2 best friends wore corsage's for my wedding - I didnt have grown up bridesmaids)

3 could you not simply get a huge amount of pink flowers and have all the ushers give them out at the entrance together with the order of service.. a botton hole for every single man and a small corsage for every woman.. (or a small ribbon corsage they are cheap) then you get your way everyone is wearing something pink you look incredibilly good and generous and anyone whom refuses to wear something that you are GIVING to them will look an a**e..

Lastly with every wedding there will be a sticky point and you can't always have it done the way you would like it to be. with this one it appears to be the pink issue so you need to be inventive, but at the end of it I PROMISE you it will not spoil your day as well as you walk down the Aisle towards your furture Husband to be all that will matter is the look in his eyes as he looks at you and then even your Mil in neon green wont matter... (and yes that is soppy but I stand by it)

Lonnie

[Lowfat]

YABU and YANBU

yes it's your day - but people like to feel comfortable.

Why not hand out pink hankies and flowers to anyone without a touch of pink on thier outfit when they arrive.

And if people still refuse make sure you have at least one 'only guests wearing pink' photo where you will get the look you desire.

Please dont less this arguement - which will seem very silly ina few years - spoil your day.

I am an only child and my dad died when i was little. And on my wedding day there were no pictures of me and my mum taken outside the church because I was too busy being the 'perfect bride' and she passed away soon after and I have no photos of just me and her on 'my' big day, which she was just as if not more so excited about as me

Try to keep thing in perspective for everyones sake

[JT]

are you having pink roast potatoes

yes its your day but your're being very prescriptive

actually, its not just YOUR day, its your blokes today and your respective parents

who's paying?

[thumbwitch]

does anyone actually read any of the other posts now before posting? obviously Heifer did...

[Kaedsmum]

It's not exactly hard to put somethin small and pink on your outfit is it? You could even take it off later on. A wedding is an important day to a woman and I agree with Pinkchick that your guests should at least try to humour you a little, it's only fair, only reasonable on their part, and it is obviously very important to you so why would they want to upset you?

nevermind. You can't control how some people act so I'd suggest you try to just go with the flow and not get too annoyed about it.

Feel for you though. I'm trying to organise my wedding and people are so awkward about every last thing. trying to please everyone is hard work.

[PinkPussyCat]

Lol at all those who haven't read past the OP!

[JT]

twitch, I didn't - couldn't be ars*d

[ihatebikerides]

Happens on all sorts of posts, people saying "haven't read whole thread but.... " and then proceed to repeat points others have made ad infinitum. Gets on my nerves, I'm afraid, but am PMT at the moment so am looking for a fight.