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To think people should respect my wishes on my wedding day

291 replies

Perfectinpink · 28/07/2008 10:56

I am getting married at the end of August, everything is sorted, all going well (Miraculously). Except for one thing. On the wedding invitations, I asked people to come dressed in pink - or at least with pink touches. Pink is my favourite colour and my lovely fiance has agreed to wear a grey suit with gorgeous pink waistcoat and tie.
My dress is, obviously pink, bridesmaids are in pink, the flowers will be pink, the decorations are pink - that is the colour scheme.

Well, everyone rsvp'd but now it appears some of my friends and family are rebelling. My best friend has shown me her outfit and it is not pink. Or even purple, red, magenta, vermillion or puce! It is green. I have asked her if she couldn't get a jacket with pink in it and a hat but she refuses. It will look bloody horrible in the wedding photos.
She has got very shirty with me and has told me that apparently several other friends are ignoring the pink theme. And now my sister has said her dh is refusing to wear anything remotely pink (not even a tie with some pink in it)
It's my wedding, it's at a lovely expensive venue, I am paying for them to have a marvellous day, plenty of (pink) champagne and lovely food (all of it with a pink flavour!) and they are going to ruin everything if they persist in ignoring my request. I just want it to be perfect.
What should I do? I've even thought anbout making pink sashes for the rebels to wear but time is running out and I am running out of patience (and money).

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TheMagnificent7 · 28/07/2008 20:08

Vitriol, cheeky moo. I've had 3 weddings, including an Elvis one in Vegas (young Elvis, obviously). It was the money thing. Everyone knows that you subtley tell everyone how much they are costing, not blrt it out.

I feel a Mission Impossible mask pulling off coming...

weeonion · 28/07/2008 20:33

fab! well done PIP! i loved rereading this tonight!
will still post pics of BIL /SIL wedding when they come through!

filthymindedvixen · 28/07/2008 20:33

ohhh! that's why someone referred to PIP as Stephanie earlier...(can you tell I have boys?)

filthymindedvixen · 28/07/2008 20:33

yyweeonion, we need to see those pix...

pamelat · 28/07/2008 20:49

Not read past page 3 of the thread (sorry)

Whilst I think its perhaps a little controlling to ask guests to wear any one colour, I do believe that its your day, maybe the only day that you get to do things that way you want them.

If friends and family know how much it means to you they should make an effort to go along with it?

Personally, I would provide something in pink for those guests that choose to rebel. It would maybe lighten the mood if there was perhaps a pink item as a forfeit for those who rebel.

Weddings are an individual theme. Its what works for you and your husband.

I dont think that you can expect people to fork out on a pink outfit if they wouldnt normally wear that colour though.

I know I am taking the middle ground.

Its just that I got married 16 months back and i know what its like to be bridezilla for a month or so

The most important thing is to not let it ruin your day

What does hubby to be think?

pamelat · 28/07/2008 20:51

ah ok - just read the rest of it ...

I will learn one day

PinkPussyCat · 28/07/2008 21:05
StealthPolarBear · 28/07/2008 21:25

Your dress makes you look fat
If you are looking for some more pink food may I suggest party rings?
weeonion - photos, please!!

Habbibu · 28/07/2008 21:25

Oh, a proper wind up! Huzzah! v. well done. Now own up - who are you?

StealthPolarBear · 28/07/2008 21:26

hmmm.....

liath · 28/07/2008 21:27

Reminds me of my sister's MIL who recently had a pink-themed wedding anniversary party, leading to much hilarity on our side of the family.

Hang on a minute......my sister's a MNer.......

Perfectinpink??????

AbbeyA · 28/07/2008 22:04

Well done! I was inclined to believe you!

Hulababy · 28/07/2008 22:08

LOL! Good thread

filthymindedvixen · 29/07/2008 08:25
Smile
motherinferior · 29/07/2008 09:54

I particularly adore the way you flushed out the 'oh yes of course I will wear a gorilla suit, it is YOUR DAY' sympathisers. Oooh I love you.

motherinferior · 29/07/2008 09:54

I particularly adore the way you flushed out the 'oh yes of course I will wear a gorilla suit, it is YOUR DAY' sympathisers. Oooh I love you.

filthymindedvixen · 29/07/2008 10:04

no offence intended but i was totally amused/appalled to hear someone's SIL actually had a pink themed wedding

MmeLindt · 29/07/2008 10:30

LOL at this thread, and I am waiting to see weeonions photos

DaphneMoon · 29/07/2008 13:01

Well done you had me fooled!

TigerFeet · 29/07/2008 13:14

I was lurking most of yesterday and managed to miss this - how??

Now WHO ARE YOU?

filthymindedvixen · 29/07/2008 13:37
Smile
weeonion · 29/07/2008 21:23

still waiting for said pics to be emailed through!

AbbeyA · 29/07/2008 21:51

Great!

MollyCherry · 30/07/2008 01:44

Thank your lucky stars you know what your hubby-to-be is wearing and that it co-ordinates with you and the bridesmaids. I had a very pale, shell pink theme, but my husband refused to tell me on the grounds that he wouldn't know what I was wearing til the day (he did a v. good job though!) www.friendsreunited.co.uk/signedin/photos.aspx

nappyaddict · 30/07/2008 01:50

YABU not everyone suits or likes pink. although i don't think it would be too difficult to wear some pink jewellery.