To think people should respect my wishes on my wedding day

[Perfectinpink]

I am getting married at the end of August, everything is sorted, all going well (Miraculously). Except for one thing. On the wedding invitations, I asked people to come dressed in pink - or at least with pink touches. Pink is my favourite colour and my lovely fiance has agreed to wear a grey suit with gorgeous pink waistcoat and tie.
My dress is, obviously pink, bridesmaids are in pink, the flowers will be pink, the decorations are pink - that is the colour scheme.

Well, everyone rsvp'd but now it appears some of my friends and family are rebelling. My best friend has shown me her outfit and it is not pink. Or even purple, red, magenta, vermillion or puce! It is green. I have asked her if she couldn't get a jacket with pink in it and a hat but she refuses. It will look bloody horrible in the wedding photos.
She has got very shirty with me and has told me that apparently several other friends are ignoring the pink theme. And now my sister has said her dh is refusing to wear anything remotely pink (not even a tie with some pink in it)
It's my wedding, it's at a lovely expensive venue, I am paying for them to have a marvellous day, plenty of (pink) champagne and lovely food (all of it with a pink flavour!) and they are going to ruin everything if they persist in ignoring my request. I just want it to be perfect.
What should I do? I've even thought anbout making pink sashes for the rebels to wear but time is running out and I am running out of patience (and money).

[morningpaper]

tee hee hee

I really HOPE this is a troll

How EMBARASSING if not

[Upwind]

There is no accounting for taste, I've heard of pink themed weddings before.

[Ivegotaheadache]

No, I can't afford it. But it was a really good friend of mine and so I did it. It was her day so that's what I did.
But if it was going to be a problem I would have at leasdt spoke to her and tried to explain that i wouldn't be able to come black tie as i couldn't afford it but I really wanted to go to her wedding ect.

This isn't what happened, it seems that OP's friends don't want to wear pink, as so haven't.
If they are good friends they should be aware of how she feels. It's not about what everyone else thinks.

So what if you don't like pink, it's not your wedding.
You can have whatever you like at your own wedding.

Now, I never said that I agreee that the wedding will be ruined if not everyone wears pink. Just that it's up to her what she wants at her wedding.

When I got married, I wasn't as rigid as that and I couldn't have cared less what people wore BUT if I did, I would have been gobsmacked if my friends or family said no your idea is crap I don't want to, after all your wedding is all about me.

[orangehead]

My dh got a copy of one of our wedding photos, he photoshopped it so he had darth vaders head and the kids were holding a light saber each the kids thought it was very funny

[BouncingTurtle]

PefectinPink - you are being entirely too precious, yes it is your (and your DF's!) day but a keep to a successful wedding is to make sure everyone has a good time.
When I organised my wedding, I told people I couldn't give a flying fuck what they came in as long as they were there. Dh and I put a lot of effort into making a day everyone could enjoy, even booking taxis and hotel accomodation for everyone.
And nearly 5 years on, people still talk about what a great time they had at my wedding [proud emoticon]
If people want to comply with your request then good for them, but the ones who don't be grateful they are willing to help celebrate your special day.
10 year time you will cringe at how you have behaved...

Oh and have a good day!

[Anglepoise]

I agree with orangehead, BouncingTurtle and Orm Irian. It's our one year wedding anniversary today We didn't even have a dress code - lots of guests came in casual gear (and lots dressed up) and lots of them have told us how much they enjoyed it because it was so relaxed.

The bride can make requests but saying that they want it to be "perfect" and getting upset when people don't co-operate is just making trouble for yourself.

I don't really understand how people wearing tiny touches of pink is going to make the photos look totally coordinated

[Blu]

ThomCat - good post.

[TheMagnificent7]

She's such a copycat

[rebelmum1]

[Upwind]

Easier for the guests and more fun to request a particular colour than having a black-tie-evening-wear dress code for a morning wedding.

no way should anybody get uptight about the guests' attire though

[suwoo]

God, she's giving pink wedding dresses a bad name. this is mine as you can see, it is only a delicate pink and the whole day was not pink themed. Anyway, our wedding was 3 years ago, so been there, done that .

[becaroo]

If I had received an invitation to this wedding I would have refused.

I loathe pink - it does NOT suit me - and you will find that most men are not happy wearing it either.

The day is about you and your other half getting married. Thats it. That 5 mins when you make your lifelong vows.....the rest is just garnish.

You are being very unreasonable. Yes, its your wedding, but your guests have the right to wear what they want and feel comfortable in their clothes.

I think your constant referencing to the cost and effort of your wedding say more about you than your liking for pink.

When I got married it would NEVER have occured to me to dictate "no pink" to all 150 of them! Some of my guests did wear pink....and looked great.

I hope you enjoy your day despite all the beautiful varied colours!

[weeonion]

when BIL & SIL got married a few years ago - we were all issued with strict dress codes and colour charts. the female guests were assigned a pastel shade each for their outfits. i was given lilac - now i like purple but not lilac. all male guests were told specifically which shop to hire full kilt regalia from. dp has his own kilt but as it wasnt "the" tartan they wanted - it wouldnt do. we enquired about this and was told no exceptions to the rules. rather than risk a family fall out -
i chose the outfit I wanted, could afford and was likely to wear again. i conceded to a lilac buttonhole. DP wore his family tartan.

on the day - we were both asked NOT to stand in the photos and the rest of the guests were arranged in a seemlessly flowing colour spectrum. we nipped across the road to the local pub and downed a few gins whilst looking over at the chaos as the shades of dresses were arranged in order.
the bride wanted it to be tasteful and memorable. never mind that she looked like a barbie / pussycat doll hybrid.

[Anglepoise]

OMG weeonion, tell me there are photos for perusal!

[weeonion]

anglepoise - there are indeed photos. we do not feature in a single one of them. i am sure they are not of the effect she wanted!

in her quest for her perfect day - she also tastefully said that she wanted every mann there to look at her and want to F**K her. even the vicar. nice!

[suwoo]

She's a classy bird isn't she weeonion

[ThingOne]

I think you're all missing the point. PiP is so bonkers and domineering she must only have a couple of friends. I'm sure she can afford to buy them both - or maybe all three - new pink frocks for the occasion.

[CaptainUnderpants]

What's more important to you - celebrating a very special day with friends and family whtever they are wearing or falling out with people over your request .

YANBU if you pay for their outfits but some people cannot afford an outfit for a one off occassion.

so YABU and need to grow up pretty quick before you get married - you will soon find out that you can't get your own way all the time in life espacilly in marriage.

I think the whole idea is gross - food with a pinl flavour ! or are not a WAG by any chance and sold the wedding rights to OK magazine ?

[Upwind]

wee onion

when people want every man to want to f**k them they usually make themselves look like prostitutes. In a wedding dress that would be quite an achievement!

Has the marriage lasted?

[MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo]

roffle

[FluffyMummy123]

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[weeonion]

upwind. they married in 2001. divorced in 2004.

her wedding dress was indeed quite an achievement. neckline cut to the navel. slit to the crotch. maribou feathers floating everywhere.

tasteful - it was not. expensive - it was!