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AIBU?

in changing my ds on a bench in a shopping centre??

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nappyaddict · 26/07/2008 01:08

If i am please do tell me

Basically we were sat on a bench in a shopping centre eating our lunch. ds is very particular and won't have anything dirty on. He noticed butter on his clothes and started pulling at them and getting quite upset so i undressed him. I thought as he was undressed anyway i might aswell change his nappy before putting a new outfit on. The woman next to me is tutting. So i said have you got a problem? Of course she said no but it was obvious she did have a problem.

So was i wrong? Or was she wrong?

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Washersaurus · 31/07/2008 23:06

I agree TM - that was the point I was trying to make when I mentioned the neatly rolled up used plastic nappies and wipes in their neatly tied scented bags. Some people are truely detached from what is natural I believe.

ladymariner · 31/07/2008 23:59

I love kids, I work with kids, ye gods I even had one of my own.

I still wouldn't have wanted to sit next to someone on a park bench changing their baby's nappy.

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 00:01

Or a shopping centre.

And definately not in my newly decorated living-room!!!!

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:14

even on a mat where it wouldn't go anywhere near the carpet?

would you prefer they changed their baby on the grass instead? what if it was wet?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 00:19

I'd prefer them not to change their baby next to me. I didn't change ds next to someone I didn't know, so I wouldn't expect a stranger to do it to me. Thats just how i feel about it.

And I never changed ds in someone's living room, I always went to their bathroom, with my changing mat.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:27

so where should one in a park with wet grass and a stranger occupying the only bench change a child's nappy?

do both you and your friends change nappies in the bathroom? i don't know anyone that does this.

Washersaurus · 01/08/2008 00:33

Worse to leave your child in dirty nappies rather than possibly offending a stranger on a bench surely?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 00:35

If it was the only bench then it wouldn't be a problem but if it was me I would just smile at the stranger and say something along the lines of how i hope they wouldn't mind, blah blah.

In my own home my friends and I always changed nappies in ds' room, on his changing table. In a home without children I always went to the bathroom unless otherwise offered. Just felt it was the polite thing to do. Not everyone likes the smell of nappies!

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:42

In a home without children I always ask where they would like me to change a nappy. In a home with children I do as they do which is always in the living room so it seems we agree on that.

Would you have a problem with someone changing a nappy on an empty bench?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 00:46

No, as long as nothing was left behind, iyswim!!
I've changed ds whilst we've been out, but I always had his nappies etc in one of those changing bags with the mat that fastened round the outside, it was really handy!
(checks to see if ladym has a mat fixation!! )

Woollymummy · 01/08/2008 00:49

Ok, I would probably change my kids' nappies anywhere, and would prob get out the little mat and do it on the floor, thereby removing the yuk factor of possbile poo etc on bench, floor is prob super dooper cleaned by underpaid shopping centre staff. embarrassment/yuk factor of chaaging nappies: low for wee, medium for DS yello BF poo, high for DD poo of anykind. I would apologise if anyone tutted but would also probably seethe - no way I have time to trek around our city looking fora changing place when we are about to miss a bus. I have done successful standing up mega poo nappies just as the bus is pulling up tot the bus stop, and get many awesome comments from lovely old ladies in the queue who can't believe how good DD is. MUCH better to change anywhere fast rather than have poor DD endure poo on bottom for a long while. You wouldn't want to sit on your own shit for ages, so you should treat them with repect and get the nappy change done soon. It should probably be done on the floor/mat rather than a table or bench tho. Just my own opinion.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:52

You'd change your lo on a hard/concrete pavement?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 00:53

I never mastered the art of nappy-changing ds when he was stood up and i was pretty useless at it when he was on my knee, tbh! That's why I liked my mat on the changing table with plenty of space and things close to hand!!!

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:53

and can i just point out ds was standing on the floor. i was sat on the bench.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:54

so ladym - if i came to your house and changed ds' wet only nappy in your living room would you think i was rude?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 00:55

Of course I wouldn't change ds on a pavement! Why on earth would you say that?

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:56

sorry that was to woolly who said the floor was preferable to a bench.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:59

ladym - you said you wouldn't mind if it was an empty bench. is that just for the park or the shopping centre aswell?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:01

Tbh, yes I would. Sorry if that offends you and makes me sound like Hyacinth but thats just me. and before you say it, I'm no domestic goddess, my house usually swarms with kids, I cook/bake/make things etc etc with ds and his mates but I just think nappy changing shouldn't be done in the living room!

Ds is 12 now, can't believe I'm in a thread about nappy changing!!!

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:03

Both.

I objected in an earlier thread (which seems many moons ago now!) about a parent changing a nappy on a table in our school garden where the kids eat their packed lunches. That really did annoy the hell out of me.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:04

not offended at all - do you think people should assume they shouldn't do it in the living room and automatically ask where the bathroom is/say oh i need to change ds' nappy is it ok if i do it here or shall i do it somewhere else/ds' needs his nappy changing, where shall i do it?

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:04

was it the fact it was a table or was there people sat at the table at the time?

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ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:09

It was the fact that it was a table where children eat their lunch!!!!! How much worse can it be? Nobody was sat there at the time, but it was a table for children in aschool garden!

And I think someone should ask where they should change the nappy.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:12

is that cos if someone says is it ok if i do it here you would feel awkward about saying no actually can you do it in such and such a place?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:14

No, its because I don't want them doing it there?
Do you always ask so many questions or is it because there's only you and me on here at the moment?

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