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AIBU?

in changing my ds on a bench in a shopping centre??

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nappyaddict · 26/07/2008 01:08

If i am please do tell me

Basically we were sat on a bench in a shopping centre eating our lunch. ds is very particular and won't have anything dirty on. He noticed butter on his clothes and started pulling at them and getting quite upset so i undressed him. I thought as he was undressed anyway i might aswell change his nappy before putting a new outfit on. The woman next to me is tutting. So i said have you got a problem? Of course she said no but it was obvious she did have a problem.

So was i wrong? Or was she wrong?

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wornoutwaitress · 02/08/2008 10:20

did he actually do it? good on him if he did!

SlartyBartFast · 01/08/2008 22:54

no -one would notice he reckoned

[groin]

SlartyBartFast · 01/08/2008 22:54

i had to laugh, at the weekend, left the beach - sat on a bench to eat icecream, dh suggested he change out of his swimming trunks into his shorts - on the bench!

TinkerBellesMum · 01/08/2008 22:50

LOL a 3 bed terrace! I live in a small flat. I don't have room in my bathroom to do anything but walk in and I don't have a room for using as a changing room! So yes, to me a three bed terrace with room to change in the bathroom or a bedroom sounds huge!

Woollymummy · 01/08/2008 22:11

Hm, i probably sounded right callous before....what I meany was if I was in our local shopping centre (not actually v local, but our nearest) the floor is spotless and the benches are not cool to get stuff on, so I would think the floor is fine. Outside or inside I would use a mat always, to protect the floor and the bottom. If there is a bit of grass I would use that, if no grass then I change DD standing up, she is v good at staying still throughout, and DS who is tiny fits on my coat. Today DD managed to hold on from 11 am to 3.30 and we didn't have any access to a potty, so her nappy was dry until we managed to get on the bus and then when I checked she was soaking, so I did a quick standing up change on the bus, the old lady behind me actualy verbally egged me on and was obviously impressed that I hadn't made her sit on the nappy which was soaking wet. Comfort is always my highest priority, which is why I wouldn't wait until a "suitable" changing area presented itself, nor would I protentially mess up a public bench. Always carry your mat.

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 19:17

When ds was small I lived in a 3bed terrace house, Tinkerbellesmum, it was hardly palatial!! Your point is......?

minkychunky · 01/08/2008 15:17

Seeing a cacky bum hole being wiped puts me right orf me sausage roll you know.

FluffyMummy123 · 01/08/2008 15:16

Message withdrawn

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 15:14

right so do we agree that nappy changing etiquette is if a bench is empty it is ok, if the floor is wet then it is ok to use a bench that is not empty as long as there isn't another one.

now just need people to decide on the empty restaurant and bus

Kaedsmum · 01/08/2008 12:36

Oh I would definately have changed my son on the bench. Babies and toddlers are an exception and should be treated as such. It's not as though an adult wees in a nappy and needs changing- they can just go to a toilet. With limited facilities, why should a baby have to sit in their own piss? It's only a wee wee nappy FGS. Anyone who tuts should get over it.

TinkerBellesMum · 01/08/2008 12:07

wornoutwaitress I wish I had the space to change Tink in the bathroom or on a changing table in "her room"!

Woollymummy you'd get your mat out rather than having your LO stand up when s/he would then be lying on a surface with everything on show?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:26

Night all.

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:21

Sorry, worn, it's late and I'm tired, don't mean to sound iffy!!

There's no difference, just ask your friend what she prefers. Its probably just me being a bit sensitive but its how I feel.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:20

ok but what if you went in and then found out they were out of order?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:19

I wouldn't have gone in there if there wasn't any facilities. Already said I was useless at changing on knee/standing and hell would have frozen before I laid ds on a toilet floor.

Is that enough for now??

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:17

ladym - so what is the difference of asking "where shall i change ds' nappy" and you telling me that you would like me to di in the bathroom to "is it ok if i change ds' nappy here" and you saying actually could you do it in the bathroom. sorry about the questions just trying to plan should i make a new friend and not know where they routinely change nappies. not had this yet cos i've always seen where they do it before i've needed to change ds.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:15

oooh i have another question. say you were in a restaurant/cafe with no changing facilities and you were the only people in there. would it be ok to do what someones NCT group did and change a wee only nappy there or should you go to the toilet and do it on the floor?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:14

No, its because I don't want them doing it there?
Do you always ask so many questions or is it because there's only you and me on here at the moment?

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:12

is that cos if someone says is it ok if i do it here you would feel awkward about saying no actually can you do it in such and such a place?

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:09

It was the fact that it was a table where children eat their lunch!!!!! How much worse can it be? Nobody was sat there at the time, but it was a table for children in aschool garden!

And I think someone should ask where they should change the nappy.

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:04

was it the fact it was a table or was there people sat at the table at the time?

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 01:04

not offended at all - do you think people should assume they shouldn't do it in the living room and automatically ask where the bathroom is/say oh i need to change ds' nappy is it ok if i do it here or shall i do it somewhere else/ds' needs his nappy changing, where shall i do it?

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ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:03

Both.

I objected in an earlier thread (which seems many moons ago now!) about a parent changing a nappy on a table in our school garden where the kids eat their packed lunches. That really did annoy the hell out of me.

ladymariner · 01/08/2008 01:01

Tbh, yes I would. Sorry if that offends you and makes me sound like Hyacinth but thats just me. and before you say it, I'm no domestic goddess, my house usually swarms with kids, I cook/bake/make things etc etc with ds and his mates but I just think nappy changing shouldn't be done in the living room!

Ds is 12 now, can't believe I'm in a thread about nappy changing!!!

wornoutwaitress · 01/08/2008 00:59

ladym - you said you wouldn't mind if it was an empty bench. is that just for the park or the shopping centre aswell?

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