IL message re: new house

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How would you feel if you’d just bought your first house with your husband and the Congratulations you bought a house card that you received from his parents said on the front “His house, her rules.”

AIBU: No problem with the card
AINBU: Twats

Whatever happened to cards that just say "Congratulations on your new home"?

Well, they're still around. Obviously.

I'd be despairing of them. I don't think anyone I know would give such a card.

Where is the card from OP, I can’t find it anywhere?

Not sure sorry, it’s in my recycling bin now, which is on the pavement outside DH’s new house.
Why, did you want to buy it for someone you know? I’d advise against it, unless the people you’re buying for have got questionable ideas of humour.

It’s not funny. It’s insulting.

I’d have a framed print made to hang on the wall saying “ our house our rules” and see if they notice it🤣

Yes but if you think that, when giving a card, its generally considered manners to pick a card that the recipients would find funny.
Nice not so subtle dig that the OP has no sense of humor because she didnt find a sexist shot at her funny 🙄

so where does 'his house' fit in to making her happy? Its negating her equal contribution.

Agree, plus clearly the ILs don’t respect OP, do they?

It’s more the reference to is being ‘his house’ that’s offensive, surely?

And one partner shouldn't be in charge either.

But I would ask posters who think this card is showing an empowered woman (whereas I see it more as saying it is a nagging woman to fit the rest of the narrative of the card) why is the 'his house' bit fine?

Not from his point of view

DH would find it offensive if his parents talked about his house rather than our house

Well he might not be offended by it, but surely he’d be a bit confused, as it’s not his house? It’s their house, jointly owned, of which the OP technically owns a slightly larger share than her husband.
But him being offended (or not) about the reference to her being in charge has absolutely no relevance to whether she is reasonable to be offended at the he reference to it being his house, obviously.

So they can both be offended by different or the same thing.

They likelihood of the parents wanting to cause an issue or offend anyone is remote

It's a bad joke. Poorly received.

Really not worth starting of in a new home with ill feeling and creating division IMO of course

Just a bad old sexist joke

Id roll my eyes