Another mum picked up her teen after party and refused others a lift despite agreement to do so.

[Lardybumbum]

The background story is my 16 year old daughter, her 15 yo boyfriend and two of their class mates were invited to a party a few rural towns away. I agreed to give them a lift there if one of their mums agreed to run them back. One mum said she would do that and her kid confirmed again when I dropped them all off.

The town is only 15 mins away but there’s no public transport after 6pm on weekends (and at that no direct public transport between our towns having to go into a city and back out again) and being Halloween there were no taxis /ubers who were all working in the city.

Well the boys mum left my daughter, her boyfriend and one friend and only took her son home. All four were standing outside the house at 11.45pm waiting for her and she literally drove off with just him in the car saying the others couldn’t come. I get a tearful phone call from a very panicked daughter so I get out of bed and go get them. I have to take medication at night that I’m wary of driving on (although it isn’t illegal) but I’m not leaving my kid in the middle of nowhere. The other parents had all been drinking so couldn’t.

Aibu to think that was an arsehole move on behalf of the other mother to allow her kid to accept the ride and agree to the deal she would pick up them to just leave them and take her kid home? Her kid messaged my daughter today there wasn’t any mitigating reason for her leaving them she just didn’t want to.

She lives two streets away and I’m tempted to go and say something. If I’d been drinking there would have been no one to get them and they’d have been stranded (there’s no way to walk between towns either).

It sounds like there's definitely something you don't know here. She heard of or witnessed some behaviour that made her not want to let them in her car. Something your child probably doesn't want to tell you about.

In fairness if the kids had done something awful to my kid, and it would have to be bad, I would leave them behind.

I’d have to say something! That’s appalling!

Even if there had been another reason, e.g kids being drunk or rude, no decent parent would leave them there. If she was unwilling to drive them home she should have waited while they contacted you and then for you to arrive.
i would absolutely pull her up on this!

Yes, if be over there to ask what happened.

Even if the kids are really drunk, that's more of a reason to make sure they go home safely. A lot of these parties there's often no adults there so making sure kids are safe is essential!

Dick move! They should have given a lift!

I’d have called the mum right away and asked why.

If the kids had been awful to the mum, her reaction is reasonable. They are 16 and 15, not toddlers.
But I would honestly suspect the mum was drunk driving and not prepared to drive drunk other parents kids. And she couldn't phone and explain this to other parents.

@Lardybumbum are you coming back? I see you last posted in June.

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Did you directly messge the mum to organise it or was it all done through teens?
My other thought was there was a fall out.

I'm afraid I'd be publicly ripping her a new one. I've never ever done so but this takes the biscuit. Appalling behaviour. Go for it. What a selfish cow. 2 streets away? ! I'm fuming on your behalf.

Pretty awful. I wouldn't speak to her about it though, I'd just think she was a dick. Hadnt texted any parents in years when DD1 was 16.

Wow, what a total arsehole. Feel bad for her kid, it will definitely affect her social position.

Did something happen between the 3 left there and her son? Seem a bizarre thing to decide to do, leave 3 teens that time late at night for absolutely NO reason!

I would definitely text and ask what happened, if there had been an agreement

She hasn't kept to her agreement so I would want to know why!

I think this is a likely explanation sadly.

Exactly what I was thinking! I have over the years picked up my children and their friends in different states of drunkenness! I never refused any lifts because I would have felt massively responsible if they had not got home safely.

I’m non confrontational but I would be appalled at this. Unless there has been some major miscommunication I would find this unforgivable and need to say something.

Not only is a shit move, why would any mum leave other teenagers at possible risk like that? I couldn't have lived with myself is something had happened to any of them.

Another suggestion: she was pissed off with always doing the late shift. Certain of my daughter’s friends’ parents always bag the early run.

She shouldn't have agreed to do it then?

Wtf?! They're less likely to get home safely if you're drunk!

I would probably have messaged her this afternoon and ask if there had been a problem last night.

Yeah, she’s still an arsehole if this is the case. The time to raise that grievance was when the arrangements were made. Leaving three teenagers stranded in the middle of the night is a hell of a way to make a point.