To think people need to stop asking me did we win the lottery?!

[Loudnproud]

Last year we bought a new house. We moved in together so sold two properties and bought one. We did up the house (built in wardrobes, new flooring, bathrooms etc etc) I then bought a new car about 6 months in and my DP bought a new car about a month ago. We are good with money! We earn well! No debt apart from our mortgage. We have ample savings(not that people know this) but literally every week SOMEONE, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours are asking if we won the lottery! It’s getting annoying tbh. Last night trick r treating we had 4 people comment in the new cars!
Cant people just be doing well?!!Cant people just be good with their money? Rant over!!

Is 2 cars good with money?

Many many people can’t even get a mortgage. In the south east where I live it’s pretty loaded to get one these days.

Surprised that your colleagues are commenting on anything unless they’re coming over to your house

I find this so weird. I have literally never once had a colleague or neighbour or really even friends or family comment on our worldly goods or income. Surely some of your neighbours have also done home improvements and have newish cars? Who even snoops around your bedroom and knows you've redone your wardrobes? What a small, strange world some people occupy.

In the old days we’d call this a stealth boast.

They’ve renovated the house, bought 2 brand new cars and have ample savings so yes, they are loaded!

Old cars get unreliable and don’t meet emissions standards. Older people like the security of knowing they won’t be stuck with the car not starting.

I actually agree with you. Yes, obviously it’s a “lighthearted comment” and people don’t really think you’ve won the lottery, but it’s the intention behind the comment isn’t it. They want to know how much money you have, how you’re paying for things, are you rolling in credit agreements. And it is all none of their business.

Any mechanic would tell you that older cars are far more
reliable and well built than new crap.

There’s quite a sliding scale of cars that aren’t brand new though. We all like the security of knowing our car will start, we don’t all have the money to splash out on two of them.

Why have you decided OP is an ‘older person’?

You've demonstrably spent much more money than usual in recent months, and some people will notice that. It's just a throwaway comment that you could have a light brush off for like "Oh I wish! Sadly this has cost us our own money!"

I don't care about social etiquette around money so I like to ask "wow, what job do you need for this house?" which amuses me more if the woman doesn't work.

They need a new sub-forum “I am considerably wealthier than you, look how it causes me a minor inconvenience”

What an odd post. “ we have loads of money - aren’t we brilliant”.

THIS with fucking bells on

Well yes- their jobs rely on a regular stream of old cars needing repairs?

@Hellohelga Glad you are fully up to date about what all 'older people' need.
Personally I'm happy with the two reliable 08 and 10 plate cars on the drive - but I'm not stupid enough to think everyone of my age is the same as me.

I get it OP

It’s a common phrase sure, but it almost feels as if they are suggesting your ‘success’ must be accidental as they don’t perceive you as a successful type of person.

But honestly, it says more about them, as they can never imagine themselves being financially successful without a lottery win, whereas you can and you are. Financially successful people wouldn’t ask if you won the lottery - they’d ask which business venture you’re in.

No one actually cares. It’s just small talk. I echo PP in finding these posters who are surrounded by people who care massively about their home / cars / expenditure…..quite odd.

This

Take a look at the Benefits bashing threads.

People are clever enough to manipulate the system, deal with the complex forms and deceive the medical professionals but somehow they can't resist telling all their neighbours how they're committing fraud.

It may not be "odd" if the OP is constantly wanging on about the new house/cars/wardrobe etc, etc.

@Loudnproud are you sure they are not just saying it because they are bored of hearing about your purchases and want you to shut the fuck up?

This would really annoy me.

I would assume anyone who is in a decent job, with a partner with a decent job - should easily be able to get a brand new car on finance.

The fact that you both sold a house, means you are both pretty wealthy and so I would judge you if you couldn’t afford decent cars.

These people probably have a similar amount of money to you but just waste it.

These people probably have a similar amount of money to you but just waste it.

Or possibly are simply less ostentatious about it?

I had an old Fiesta that went over 200,000 miles and almost never failed to start.

The only reason I sold it was bits of the trimmings kept falling off and my daughter said it was getting embarrassing.

I'm really sad they've stopped making Fiestas!