To think people need to stop asking me did we win the lottery?!

[Loudnproud]

Last year we bought a new house. We moved in together so sold two properties and bought one. We did up the house (built in wardrobes, new flooring, bathrooms etc etc) I then bought a new car about 6 months in and my DP bought a new car about a month ago. We are good with money! We earn well! No debt apart from our mortgage. We have ample savings(not that people know this) but literally every week SOMEONE, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours are asking if we won the lottery! It’s getting annoying tbh. Last night trick r treating we had 4 people comment in the new cars!
Cant people just be doing well?!!Cant people just be good with their money? Rant over!!

It's small talk. Just say "yes a tenner and a lucky dip". Tinkly laugh.

You're not that good with money if you buy new cars.

It really is. It’s fishing for information.

Or you’re so good with money that buying new cars doesn’t make a dent.

It’s called trading in…and I would never spend on something if I can’t afford to do it twice. House being the only exception

Haha! I did mean to use it, but that doesn't mean I used it correctly 😂I know it means a big old block of stone, but I thought it was like a metaphor for a hive mind too? I know you could have a monolithic society or organisation but maybe you can't use it as a noun in that way?

People in the UK are jealous if anyone has money, even more so now that wages have stagnated, cost of living is high, and Instagram is full of expensive homes and stuff that breeds discontent with what is a normal house/belongings.

I have wasted loads of money over the years, could be living in a better way, but I don’t envy in a jealous way that others have more than me. As long as they aren’t being egotistical about it.

How many times has anyone said this?

All people, every single person in the UK?

You either live elsewhere or your second paragraph contradicts that

I can imagine people saying it actually, each time thinking they were being incredibly original and funny. Not because of any of the things individually, just because they happened in the same space of time.
People can be stupid and not know what’s inappropriate to say.
My school friends called me posh and a snob because my parents stretched their slim resources to the limit to buy a crappy 3 bed house and add a bedroom and bathroom - 4 daughters 🤣 And it was done on a shoestring, not in any way luxurious and we had no money left at all for anything.
But the friends who came to my house for my birthday stopped speaking to me after that because I was a snob.
So yeah, people can be really stupid about things like this.

Either this thread is a stealth brag for the OP to let us all know she is wealthy - during a cost of living crisis affecting millions - or she is scrabbling around for a reason to feel hard done by and a 'victim'.

People are so cruel.
Thoughts and prayers @Loudnproud

Maybe they just think your daft for spending so much on new shiny things... you seem to assuming that because you spend more, you must be doing better.

I can’t see why this would annoy you

Maybe OP should just say it’s not lottery winnings but she has a massive trust fund or DH is a drug dealer and the cash has to go somewhere

It is rude because how op pays for things is nobody's business

Envy. There is a lot of it about.

It's not rude because it's not an actual question. They're not expecting a break down of her finances in response. It is a joke.

I thought you said ‘Rant over’ after the first message?

This
Spot on 🍒🍒🍒

It's hard because when I was a poor child, I do remember feeling jealous of my rich friends.

It does seem really unfair - when i had no money to even get clothes and my friends were going on holidays three times a year, and living in mansions.

Life is unfair

If I ever said it to my rich friends that they were lucky, they would snap back 'well my parents worked hard!'

Poverty is not anything to do with who worked the hardest really. There is inter generational wealth. There is also the luck of whether a father stays around, if people get divorced, if the dad pays maintenance.

I can see why people get jealous

Yep. I'd be made up to be spending money like a man with no hands!! & think this is just a wind up thread.

OP, just enjoy your good fortune (or hard work, superiority with money, whatever you prefer to see it as) that means you're not struggling and can afford nice things. There's no need to seek extra validation by looking for the jealousy of others, and reading envy into every comment people make. Why can't you just say "No, we've sold two houses and been saving up for ages" instead of all this palaver?

Some people's experiences are so limited that they don't understand that others can be successful and must be lucky instead. Or lying - that's always a fun one to hear. It probably makes them feel better about their own situation so I wouldn't get too het up about it.

Get a grip