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TroysMammy · Today 17:29

If it was a neighbour's child knocking without her brother then I would ask where he was. If I was told he was unwell I'd give her some extra sweets without her asking. Random kids I don't know it would be a no.

Stormyrose · Today 17:31

TroysMammy · Today 17:29

If it was a neighbour's child knocking without her brother then I would ask where he was. If I was told he was unwell I'd give her some extra sweets without her asking. Random kids I don't know it would be a no.

I’d say oh that’s a shame is your parents getting him sweets then and if she said no she says I’ve to ask you for them or give him mine, I’d not think well of rhe parent at all.

PurpleThistle7 · Today 17:32

Merrybandofpirates · Today 17:23

We live in a very Halloween big area - like people post about it as the “place to come” so it’s crawling with kids. Almost every one of them comes prepared with a joke. And these are kids being driven in from surrounding towns, so it’s not just the kids on our streets who are used to it.

I spent last Halloween with my kids visiting people in Oban so we went round with their kids and everyone was doing their turn. When I lived in Glasgow for uni, the kids in that block did their town. Spent a Halloween in the borders a few years ago, and kids all did their turn.
Because that’s what Halloween is. There will always be areas where it goes by the wayside, but on the whole, most kids keep it up. And the kids that aren’t able just have their parents or friends along with them and get their sweeties. No drama.

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Now I want to know where you are!

im in Edinburgh. I actually grew up in the states with a very different sort of Halloween experience. Think the new tradition we learned here is lovely. And I promise it’s not exclusionary. Kids expect this and will figure out how to make it work. It’s adorable

AllPlayedOut · Today 17:34

YellingAway · Today 17:27

I think the most shocking thing I’ve read on this thread is that kids aren’t expected to do a turn! Woe betide a guiser turning up on my doorstep without doing a turn! So completely normal and still expected in these parts.

I hate the “turn” thing. Not all children are confident enough or able to do so (due to special needs) and they still deserve sweets. Besides I don’t want to freeze my backside off listening to terrible jokes and tuneless tots screeching a song at me. Thankfully most don’t attempt it here.

BillieWiper · Today 17:35

Why should she have to look rude and greedy among for more than what's offered?

TerfOnATrain · Today 17:41

LochLoughton · Today 16:06

Why not buy a few big bags off Halloween Sweets yourself. When yourr daughter comes home, tip those into her cauldron as well.

Stir it up, then pour all sweetst onto the table and let them have fun sharing each type iinto two equal piles.

So you've increased the quantity and both will have variety.

We always did this anyway, just without the extra sweets. They really enjoyed counting and sorting them...with a bit of trading of stuff they didn't like. I even got the odd cast-off!

I even got the odd cast off

Me too, usually Parma Violets and Milky Ways sadly.

Walker1178 · Today 17:41

Sorry OP we’ve had a couple of children ask for extra and I’ve said no. We had 52 treats and am already down to the last 8 so it’s very much been 1 per child that’s at my door

ItsMeee00 · Today 17:42

No it’s ridiculous asking for extra sweets, tell your daughter to share or go to the shop and buy him some sweets.

HambleDoll · Today 17:42

I’d happily give more

Helpwithdivorce · Today 17:48

Merrybandofpirates · Today 16:49

So why did you post about how you’ve travelled extensively and never seen this… as if it was so odd for this to be happening yet you never saw it? You’re the one who brought up travelling extensively as if you know everything so if you’ve not seen it then it doesn’t happen and we were somehow odd for saying it.

It’s literally the origins of Halloween. If you don’t know about it, that doesn’t make it odd. Despite all your travels.

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Because it is odd if you’ve never seen or heard of it happening. Since it only seems to happen in one very small country it’s not exactly common place

LancashireButterPie · Today 17:48

Merrybandofpirates · Today 14:57

How can he get the sweets if he doesn’t do his part of the deal? You need to tell a joke, sing, dance, whatever. You don’t just get sweets for nothing.

God, you are all heart.

TheDreamyFinch · Today 17:51

TinyOcelot · Today 14:57

All right, seems like it was not a good idea! I wasn't sure but yeah I'll just get him something myself then.

I am really surprised about the comments on here. As someone with a pumpkin outside and a big bowl of sweets if a child came to my door and said do you mind if I have an extra mini bag of Haribo for my SICK BROTHER who couldn’t make it. I would look a bit of an evil twat if I said no. It’s Halloween ffs for children. They’re not at the door asking for all inclusive free holidays. Tell your girl to go for it and I hope your boy gets better soon 💙

Stormyrose · Today 17:56

TheDreamyFinch · Today 17:51

I am really surprised about the comments on here. As someone with a pumpkin outside and a big bowl of sweets if a child came to my door and said do you mind if I have an extra mini bag of Haribo for my SICK BROTHER who couldn’t make it. I would look a bit of an evil twat if I said no. It’s Halloween ffs for children. They’re not at the door asking for all inclusive free holidays. Tell your girl to go for it and I hope your boy gets better soon 💙

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Exactly, no one would say no, but is it their responsibility. Why should the sister have to ask. How embarassing for her, it’s akin to begging, the mum can just buy him some.

ive no idea why some people are so grabby over the idea of free stuff.

Rednailsandredlipstick4ever · Today 18:04

Merrybandofpirates · Today 17:23

We live in a very Halloween big area - like people post about it as the “place to come” so it’s crawling with kids. Almost every one of them comes prepared with a joke. And these are kids being driven in from surrounding towns, so it’s not just the kids on our streets who are used to it.

I spent last Halloween with my kids visiting people in Oban so we went round with their kids and everyone was doing their turn. When I lived in Glasgow for uni, the kids in that block did their town. Spent a Halloween in the borders a few years ago, and kids all did their turn.
Because that’s what Halloween is. There will always be areas where it goes by the wayside, but on the whole, most kids keep it up. And the kids that aren’t able just have their parents or friends along with them and get their sweeties. No drama.

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That's just not my experience. I grew up in Edinburgh ( live there now) but have lived in Perth, Dundee, Narin, Pitlochry. I also currently stay in a area of Edinburgh that people come to just for trick or treating .

Livpool · Today 18:28

I’ve had kids say that - it doesn’t bother me at all.

Lostthefairytale · Today 18:32

We just had someone ask to take an extra one for a sibling and I thought it was very sweet.

Longtimelurker1980 · Today 18:34

TinyOcelot · Today 14:51

DS has unfortunately woken up today feeling ill and he's been sick a few times. I am not letting him out trick or treating in his condition, obviously. It's rotten luck and he's of course disappointed.

His older sister will be going round the neighbourhood with her friends. Do you think it would be OK for her to ask for one for her ill brother as well, to have when he's feeling better? I'm not sure if it's rude or not or people might think she was taking the piss?

Or I could ask her to share what she gets as it's always an awful lot but that doesn't seem all that fair to her.

I know I could just buy him a load of sweets but part of the fun is getting such a wide selection from all the different houses and he's already going to miss the main fun of dressing up and going round in the dark seeing all the decorations. But I will just do this for him if it's the best option?

What do you reckon?

My kids are older but I used to let them eat a few on the night and then throw the rest away! It’s the most awful amount of sugar and crap and I wasn’t prepared to extend it into more days. Maybe just say he’s ill and missed out and it’s better for a dicky tum to have missed eating body weight in crap and additives?

mean mum but they are super healthy kids and have never had a day off sick (I was a very sickly child and ate utter crap) so I’m convinced it’s to do with their diet.

Merrybandofpirates · Today 18:34

Helpwithdivorce · Today 17:48

Because it is odd if you’ve never seen or heard of it happening. Since it only seems to happen in one very small country it’s not exactly common place

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But it’s the origins of the event. It’s history. To say you don’t know what it is and have never seen it to think it’s odd… about the origins of the event?

I’m not religious but I understand the origins of Christmas. I don’t do any of it - we have a secular Christmas. But I know the origins. I also know the origins of all sorts of festival that take place all over the world, even though I don’t celebrate them.

Lostthefairytale · Today 18:37

Longtimelurker1980 · Today 18:34

My kids are older but I used to let them eat a few on the night and then throw the rest away! It’s the most awful amount of sugar and crap and I wasn’t prepared to extend it into more days. Maybe just say he’s ill and missed out and it’s better for a dicky tum to have missed eating body weight in crap and additives?

mean mum but they are super healthy kids and have never had a day off sick (I was a very sickly child and ate utter crap) so I’m convinced it’s to do with their diet.

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How bloody miserable! If you aren't going to let them eat the sweets then don't let them get them in the first place. I spend money on sweets to give to kids on Halloween, not for parents to decide to throw away

sprigatito · Today 18:38

Lostthefairytale · Today 18:37

How bloody miserable! If you aren't going to let them eat the sweets then don't let them get them in the first place. I spend money on sweets to give to kids on Halloween, not for parents to decide to throw away

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Yeah, that’s really not on. Allowing your kids to collect loads of sweets from kind strangers, knowing that you’re going to throw them away…that’s awful tbh.