To ask DD to ask for extra Halloween sweets?

[TinyOcelot]

DS has unfortunately woken up today feeling ill and he's been sick a few times. I am not letting him out trick or treating in his condition, obviously. It's rotten luck and he's of course disappointed.

His older sister will be going round the neighbourhood with her friends. Do you think it would be OK for her to ask for one for her ill brother as well, to have when he's feeling better? I'm not sure if it's rude or not or people might think she was taking the piss?

Or I could ask her to share what she gets as it's always an awful lot but that doesn't seem all that fair to her.

I know I could just buy him a load of sweets but part of the fun is getting such a wide selection from all the different houses and he's already going to miss the main fun of dressing up and going round in the dark seeing all the decorations. But I will just do this for him if it's the best option?

What do you reckon?

I would be interested to know where you live, for such things to happen, before a child is bestowed with sweets.

I have read further, and see that you are in Scotland. I have never seen any child have to do anything, where I live.

Work. Effort, whatever, she earned them she keeps them, the op is an adult if she wants her kid to have a selection of sweets she provides rhem, not her daughter or other parents,

I canr beleive how grabby and entitled some people are.

Fucking hell 🥱🥱🥱

Surely to goodness your daughter is decent enough to immediately want to share with her little brother who is ill without anyone having to say anything to her?
I'd hope she gets home and immediately splits half or takes out his favourites for him with no prompting.

Scotland. Because that’s what guising is. And has been for hundreds and hundreds of years.

It would be a good opportunity for your dd to be kind to her brother and share hers.

Of course you get sweets for nothing.

But DD can't ask for extra.

The OP was talking about trick or treating, not guising. Perhaps start your own thread

Why’s it a good opportunity for the daughter and not the op. Who can also lead by example and show kindness as she has the means to actually buy sweets .

You realise that Scottish mumsnetters get ripped apart if we say something like we were in Tesco at 8pm on a Sunday because that’s “impossible” and anything else we talk about on here that is different from being in England and we’re repeatedly called trolls and told we are making things up. English posters on here and incredibly hostile to anyone who posts about something that isn’t done in England. So I just treat posters the same way and act like the Scottish way is correct and your way is wrong.

I don't understand the quandary, just get a bag of sweets, for when the child is well, if you must.

I don't know where you are. I've never experienced anything other than the door bell and a hoard of kids in Asda costumes holding out a plastic bucket

It's sweets . Not the bread of life .

Sure they do. And a great reason for you to also act like a twat to others if they do

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Scotland. Because the whole world isn’t England. You might copy Americans, but we do it properly.

You'll ruin your dd's evening if you make her do this.

My eldest is going out with friends. My youngest fest isn’t going.

My eldest will share what he gets, not ask for two! I don’t give a shit whether that’s “fair” or not.

Yes, we always had to do something! Tell a joke, sing a funny song, a poem etc…

I’d give her a bucket with a piece of paper saying for het poorly brother sighed mum and tape it on.

if she’s willing to do that at 11 then I’d happily give her extra if she arrived at my door!

Scotland.

I have never heard of this, everywhere I have lived kids just knock and get given sweets. Maybe I need to be stricter! What part of the uk do you live in where this happens?

Oh god, dont ask her again. You'll get a lecture

Where do you live! I’ve never had any trick or treaters do this!

I'm reminded of the time 3 days before Halloween a mum and her small girl knocked on my door saying 'trick or treat'. When I looked at them in bafflement, she said the girl was with her dad on the day so they were doing it now. And then seemed affronted that I didn't have any sweets in. And she didn't even live on our road, the cheeky baggage.

You know that country to the north of the UK, where Halloween began a couple thousand years ago and for several hundred years, kids have gone guising where they dress up, knock doors, do their party piece, and get a treat? It’s called Scotland. It’s been happening for hundreds of years. It’s not a threat, it’s not knocking doors and getting sweets for nothing.