To ask DD to ask for extra Halloween sweets?

[TinyOcelot]

DS has unfortunately woken up today feeling ill and he's been sick a few times. I am not letting him out trick or treating in his condition, obviously. It's rotten luck and he's of course disappointed.

His older sister will be going round the neighbourhood with her friends. Do you think it would be OK for her to ask for one for her ill brother as well, to have when he's feeling better? I'm not sure if it's rude or not or people might think she was taking the piss?

Or I could ask her to share what she gets as it's always an awful lot but that doesn't seem all that fair to her.

I know I could just buy him a load of sweets but part of the fun is getting such a wide selection from all the different houses and he's already going to miss the main fun of dressing up and going round in the dark seeing all the decorations. But I will just do this for him if it's the best option?

What do you reckon?

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Or dd could just be a nice person and share with her poorly brother……..🤷‍♀️. Just saying but is this a case of her having to scoff every single sweets treat she gets and was never encouraged to share?

Yeah. How dare other places not do things exactly the same as in your country, eh?

What are you ranting on about? Presumably people still do it correctly in Scotland? Why do you care what people do in England?

aw I feel for your kid but this seems illogical op! She will be standing on a doostep having to explain to every adult - why not just get some extra sweets to put in the bucket she gets and she can tell him she got them. seems quite a palava when he won't actually be there!

Merrybandofpirates, has anyone on this thread actually been rude to you as a Scottish person? Because you've said you don't like English people behaving this way to you, and yet you're doing it to others. If people on here are the offensive ones and you're deliberately getting revenge then ok, fair enough. But you seem to have admitted that you're just being snippy because they're English, and you have come across some English people who were unkind so you've decided to treat us all the same.

You're coming across as extremely childish and also xenophobic.

So ridiculous

as a parent the only person who is responsible in fixing this is you / the other parent.

Open your own wallet and buy him something, idk why you’re acting like your daughter needs to fix this or random people who are kind enough to facilitate trick or treating at their homes to begin with.

How dare other places not do things the same as my country? Tell that to all the English on mumsnet who spent someone’s lighthearted thread about something silly that happened in Tesco at 8pm on a Sunday ripping her apart because it was “impossible to be in Tesco at 8pm on a Sunday.” She was just trying to share a silly story, and was called names, called a saddo for making things up, reported as a troll. It was utterly ridiculous frothing because a shop was open at 8pm which doesn’t happen in England and you lot couldn’t wrapped your minds around somewhere in the UK doing it differently.

So, you treat Scottish people like that for things being different but can’t stand being told that maybe this time, you’re the one doing it differently? Seeing as we’ve been doing it for a very very long time, and then you lot starting copying the American way when you saw it in movies.

I would get a bag of each of their favs and give them both to him. He can trade her for things she might like to swap.

What? Where in the world are you that you have to perform to get sweets? You just say trick or treat and are given a treat?

There are dozens of threads about Halloween every year and Scottish people will be chatting about what jokes their kids are doing, only to have “where are you because no one in the UK does that” posted over and over again.

I’ve said her son shouldn’t get sweets if he isn’t out doing his turn, because that’s how it is here, and the response is “no one in the UK does that.” Nope. Just no one in England. But you lot reply to all posts as if you’re way is correct. I’m just doing the same.

Grow up. I don't have a clue what youre on about. I didn't see any thread about Tesco. I don't treat Scottish people differently to anyone else

You have a massive chip on your shoulder about some random event. Its nothing to do with me or with trick or treating. Get a grip

Let your DD enjoy her trick or treating, and buy the boy some sweets.

For what it’s worth I’m in edinburgh and everyone over the age of 3/4 does a joke or song or something. You don’t get free sweeties!

I would 100% have expected my children to share. They always did without asking and would swap things one was less keen on with each other. Children get far more than they could eat in one go anyway - can’t see the issue.

Cynical old me would be wondering if the other sibling was going around saying the same thing!

Most children who are out trick/treating tonight will get far too many sweets. Your DD can easily share her haul and you can supplement if needed.

My supply of sweets to hand out isn’t endless. IF someone asks me for some for a sibling or whoever, then I just give less as such - a few sweets for one would be given to cover both. You get all sorts at the door, young kids out on Halloween night for the first time full of excitement, others asking for sweets for every family member, large groups, older children who try and grab the whole supply, etc, I would only give for an absent sibling if I knew the child. You’re the parent, you manage your child’s expectations.

If he’s been sick this morning don’t be giving him sweets tonight! Let DD keep what she gets, get DS something when he’s better.

If she is going to close neighbours who knows she has a brother, she can mention it as they will wonder where he is

Ours only really went on the streets next to ours, so pretty much everyone knew them anyway

This sounds like typical spoilt younger sibling. Sometimes life is disappointing. Buy him some sweets if you want to, but it's not his older sister's job to bail him out.

When my kids had COVID at Halloween we bought sweets and played at trick or treating around the house - DH and I hid behind different room doors and answered when they knocked doing different voices or wearing random hats etc. it was very silly but made them laugh and they still remember it years later. Could you do something like that with ds to cheer him up and give him sweets in a more fun way. DD could get involved when she gets back too.

I had put a note on street WhatsApp to say we wouldn't be participating as usual due to isolating and was very touched when one family sort of reverse trick or treated us and dropped of a few of their sweets for the kids on their way home.. perhaps your dad could be encouraged just to give him a couple of hers in the spirit of sharing, but not to.split them equally.

Buy him some for when he’s better fgs! They’ll all be reduced tomorrow

Hold back some of the sweets you bought to put out and give him some of those. I'd also asking older Child to donate some of her loot.

Don't do that to your daughter.

Buy some sweets and when he is better have him dress up in his outfit and give them to him.

Why not buy a few big bags off Halloween Sweets yourself. When yourr daughter comes home, tip those into her cauldron as well.

Stir it up, then pour all sweetst onto the table and let them have fun sharing each type iinto two equal piles.

So you've increased the quantity and both will have variety.

We always did this anyway, just without the extra sweets. They really enjoyed counting and sorting them...with a bit of trading of stuff they didn't like. I even got the odd cast-off!

I feel bad for him but the sweets are a reward for (at a minimum) dressing up and knocking on doors, which he can’t do. I would think it cheeky to ask for more for extra people who aren’t there, even though it’s not his fault he’s ill. I would buy some, ask DD to share or get her to buy extra if she’s old enough to go to the shops

Don't put that on your kid. How embarrassing for her.