To ask DD to ask for extra Halloween sweets?

[TinyOcelot]

DS has unfortunately woken up today feeling ill and he's been sick a few times. I am not letting him out trick or treating in his condition, obviously. It's rotten luck and he's of course disappointed.

His older sister will be going round the neighbourhood with her friends. Do you think it would be OK for her to ask for one for her ill brother as well, to have when he's feeling better? I'm not sure if it's rude or not or people might think she was taking the piss?

Or I could ask her to share what she gets as it's always an awful lot but that doesn't seem all that fair to her.

I know I could just buy him a load of sweets but part of the fun is getting such a wide selection from all the different houses and he's already going to miss the main fun of dressing up and going round in the dark seeing all the decorations. But I will just do this for him if it's the best option?

What do you reckon?

Very unreasonable I’m afraid, pop to get him a pick n mix and hope he feels better soon x

That phrase has been used in Britain since about 200 years before the USA or “Americans” existed.

I thought this too.

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I would thinknshe was a cf!
If you want him to have sweets go out and buy him some!

She's 11 she don't wanna ask that how cringe for her don't even ask her to do that

Surely if he's feeling sick - he won't feel like eating sweets anyway? Plus your daughter won't want to admit to sickness in the family, in front of people.

I just said it sounded like that to me. I didn't give the etymology of the words.

Dd always comes home with so many sweets that even with the adults eating plenty of it, we end up throwing most of it away. We wait until the next Halloween to dispose of it and we still can’t get through all of it. This isn’t performative under-eating, our family loves sweets. The haul is just huge.

Yeah I would be totally happy to give an extra sweetie if someone asked politely! I have bought them to give away, after all!

Exactly.
Its a threat, not entertaining you for rewards

11 is pretty much the top of the age range for trick or treating. If she'd been a cute 5 year old it might have been ok; but people will just see "grabby teen".

Won't she be going round to at least some houses of people you know? You could warn them in advance, and they'd be more likely to provide extra for her brother.

Would you daughter not feel more awkward having to ask for extra sweets, instead of simply offering to share with her brother? I would expect my daughter to offer to share at least a few of hers with her brother - without me asking. She’s 11, not an unreasonable toddler. Does she not feel a bit bad for her brother missing out? Treat this as a learning opportunity to show compassion for each other.

Those saying that if the son doesn't go then he doesn't get are harsh.

My children were brought up to share and feel generous to an ill person.
Surely that's just normal not something I'm bragging about.

On that premise I would purchase additional sweets to be added to daughters collection then whole lot gets split.

Exactly this

I would buy him some sweets for when he's feeling better. I wouldn't force DD to ask for extra sweets or share her sweets.

No, it isn’t. Guising is a friendly exchange - a party piece (called a turn) in exchange for a treat. Done throughout communities to bring them together. Kids dressed as ghouls and ghosts so the spirits who were out during Samhain would mistake the children for one of their own and leave them alone.

It is not a threat to get a sweet. That’s American nonsense. Come to Scotland - the kids still need to do a turn.

It’s been happening in Scotland for 2000 years btw. The last several hundred years in the same form it is today - a turn in exchange for a treat. It is not a threat.

Don’t be so tight, getting other parents to provide or your own kid, buy him a selection of sweets if you wish him to have some, don’t make it your child’s or other parents responsibility.

No. Teach her to share

Is op in Scotland? Im not, it doesnt sound the same trick or treat.

Nah the op can be the one who shares, why should the daughter do all the work then have to hand the sweets over.

Oh my days, of course that’s not ok. YABU.

What on earth did I just read 😵‍💫🫣

No, if your son does not go trick or treating then he doesnt get the sweets.

It is unfortunate that he is ill, but it's life. If you're both really sensitive about it then you can buy him some to make up for it....

Homeless charity donations. Tis what I do with all my excess celebration tins or biscuits at Xmas to avoid diabetes

Hardly work going for a walk with a carrier bag