To be a bit miffed at my friend’s idea of a ‘takeaway night’ tomorrow

[Teriyt]

My friend is kindly hosting a night for me and two others, a girly catch up.

When suggested we agreed on getting a takeaway and consensus from earlier this week was to get an Indian, and we earmarked the specific takeaway we’d order from.

My friend hosting has messaged to say she has picked up a ‘deal‘ from the supermarket this afternoon so she has got some ready meal curries and sides and said we can sort the money out on the night.

First world problem I know, but a supermarket ready meal doesn’t really hit the spot compared to a proper Indian takeaway so I feel a bit annoyed! She didn’t check with us before.

Fucking hell, who needs a starter before a Christmas dinner?! Is he obese? He sounds like an ungrateful tosser tbh.

@AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer

it IS hosting though. Just because there’s not constant supply of different foods all day and not every single thing is homemade doesn’t mean it’s not hosting! I mean what else would you call it? I dunno, maybe she’d rather go to the gym or go out out mates in the evening then bake homemade puddings?

Nope just think someone is a twat if they bitch about a shop bought dessert. Insanely delicious ones now available in the supermarket!

Tbh OP, this sounds like a money issue. It’s rather odd to buy ready meals and then charge people for them.

Or, like me, she knows her limits! And no way could a bake anything decent by way of a sweet treat!!

@AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer

a starter on top of a Christmas dinner and pudding is just pure gluttony - not everyone wants to feel stuffed and sick on Christmas Day.

We usually have a lot of chocolates so we're full anyway.
No starter, just the mains for lunch and Christmas pudding or trifle instead of the evening meal.

Depends how much you choose to put on your plate I guess! Plus if there was ever a day for over indulgence…!

I am still interested about what your brother brought / made for this Christmas hosted by his SIL that he bitched to you about

Why? What HE brought doesn’t change his opinion of HER hosting.

@AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer

a Christmas dinner has so many elements to it , if you just have a little of everything it’s gonna be a substantial plateful. No starter needed - it’s just extra work and extra expense

We never do starters for Christmas dinner, and nor do any of our extended family when we’ve gone elsewhere.

I'm very easy-going, as it’s the company that matters, never more so than ag Christmas! The only thing I would ever look askance at would be frozen roast potatoes. For me, they need to be home-made to taste good. Not that I'd ever complain about it!

Suit yourselves - everyone I know has a starter even if it’s just something like melon and Parma ham. Otherwise you’re waiting until quite late in the day to eat. Even my otherwise very low key in laws do a starter!

@AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer

Christmas dinner can be served at whatever time you want it though, there are no set rules!

I agree with you there. Christmas comes in all shapes and sizes for everyone.

We don’t do a fancy breakfast or a starter as we’re tucking into Christmas dinner at around 1:30pm. I have relatives that eat virtually nothing all day and have a three course meal at 4-5pm. I hate it but they also hate Christmas my way. Each to their own really

It's quite usual. Take a look at any restaurant Xmas menu

He's a man so obviously will be slagged off on here. If it was a woman saying about her brother in laws hosting the replies would be different

And we’ve never had a late Christmas dinner, never any later than 1:30-2pm. We switch the oven on before going to a Christmas Day service at our church then finish the preparations afterwards.

If nuts are important to you; a shop bought dessert is crucial to you; if the absence of a starter is “miserly”… then maybe damn well bring nuts / home made dessert / a starter

And god forbid if they didn’t!

She wouldnt have been paying for the takeaway upfront. It's usual to pay for them when you order on the day. Of which the friends were paying for themselves. And I believe it was also BYOB so what " booze" was she bringing in anyway from the supermarket?

Keep digging…

Yeah I really don’t know what this poster’s problem is. It is usual in families to take turns to host and if it is not your turn contribute something like a dessert (or yes - shock horror, a starter!). It is poor hosting to provide nothing but a very basic roast dinner and shop bought dessert for Christmas Day and if you think otherwise I feel sad about your Christmases too, where on earth is the celebration?

Must agree. I'm not much of a pudding maker, although I do bake. Fancy desserts are beyond my repertoire and I'm not arsed to include them in it.
Markies save me the bother. Sorted.

Still wouldn't thank you for an Asda tikka masala though.