You're 8 now, old enough to do it yourself

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Do you agree?

Dd when she finished her bowl of pomegranate seeds on the sofa asked Dh to go and put it in the kitchen please. Each time this happens or she asks for a drink/snack, he says she should take it back herself etc. I tend to do it mostly for her, she's very independent, always has been, sorts her own school bag, homework, showers etc, but she's still only young and it's not too much that a parent brings her food and drinks, is it?!

Dh and I disagree a little on this

How much do you do for your 8 year old (or around that age)?

I am very mean because I don't allow my children to eat outside the kitchen as a general rule and they also have to put their dishes straight into the dishwasher all by themselves. Youngest is 9 now but he was definitely doing this well before 8.

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If your Waitrose enough to be eating pomegranate, surely you should teaching only to be eating at the dinning table not the sofa…but your DH is right, the person snacking clears up after themselves, 8 is quite old enough for that.

I think the problem is she is asking someone to take away her dirty plate rather than someone takes it because they want to or are going by.

Asking him if he was getting up can you please also take my plate fine.

Asking her dad to get up and take her dirty plate because she cnba she should be told to take it herself.

Yes she does loads, can make pancakes and omlettes-often for all of us, gets own snacks for school...and so on, sometimes I put her stuff away-that's it

This might be me being weird but while of course sometimes I can see my kids are tired and I will choose to baby them a bit, I wouldn't do it at their command tho. She sounds like a right princess

I wouldn’t worry about it then. Sounds like something being made out of nothing.

Pomegranate seeds? FFS. Does she eat them with a spoon? Chopsticks? Fingers?

Anyway eating on the sofa is a bad habit. She should be eating at the table.

And yes I'm also team husband, the little madam can take her own plate to the sink.

yes I think this is it. Someone offering to do it (only occasionally now according to OP) is very different to being asked to do it

is your DH not tired after work? I’m not sure I’d want to be encouraging the attitude in her that a day at school is so tiring you need people to do basic stuff for you

My 4 year old empties her plate into bin (rare there is anything left in it) and puts it in the sink 🤔 at 8 she should be doing it herself.

Reminds me of Catherine Tate's Gooseberry and Cinnamon yoghurt sketch....

Never been to Waitrose in my life, don't understand what's so weird or exotic about pomegranates to be honest. We don't buy them normally, but her friend had them and she asked for them.
We sit on the sofa in comfort to snack, I don't see anything odd about that either 😬

My DD8 has been taking her own and my dishes out to the kitchen since she was a toddler because it is one of the easist, regular contributions to the household that she could do. We went through a few mugs when she was very small though!!

Yes, this when I do it too
She def didn't demand, asked nicely and said please

Unless it’s a one off and someone was going to the kitchen she is more than capable of taking it herself and I’d be telling her so!

They're on special offer in our Lidl right now - 50c each, so I bought a couple for DS2 to try, and he liked them, so rather than have him ping them all over the kitchen I have a stack of little snack pots full of them in the fridge right now.

It's really not that weird for kids to see a bright pink, pretty fruit, and want to try it is it?

Assuming she can walk and talk and see and hear then she can do these jobs herself. She isnt being asked to build a brick wall 😆

Doesn't matter how nicely she asked, an 8 year old lounging on the sofa asking her dad to put her bowl away isn't something I would encourage

And that’s absolutely fine, if the parent offers. I will offer to take my kids’ bowls out too. It’s the asking that’s the issue. If mine asked me to take their bowl out when we were both sitting relaxing I’d be inclined to say ‘no, you can do it’.

This.
it isn’t like the doing nice things for each other post that you clung to op.
It’s the expectation, the sheer audacity to expect another person to get up and take your bowl for you.
‘nice things for each other’ is - ‘oh I’m going to the kitchen, can I take your bowl for you’
normal might be to request it as a joke.
absokutely outrageous to request it as if it’s normal.

if I was your dh, I don’t think I could bear your parenting.

Not only should she be taking her own bowl back to the kitchen , and putting it either in the dishwasher or sink, but I would also not be letting her eat while sitting on the sofa. Especially not pomegranate seeds, your sofa might be pomegranate proof but someone sitting on a seed would find out that they can pop and stain! If you

She is eight. So OP what age do YOU think would be appropriate for her to start realising that she has parents not slaves?

Fucking hell, my kids have been taking their dirty stuff back to the kitchen since preschool!
I do a lot for them, but I'm nor their skivvy.
I'm Team DH.

Exactly! We get them in Aldi, they’re not expensive.