Is DH being unfair after I put DD back in nappies due to stomach bug?

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DD is 3 years 7 months and potty trained a few weeks ago (a bit late I know but she was just a bit slow to get it!). Today she’s been ill with a stomach bug that I think she’s picked up from nursery. She still wears nappies at night, and after an accident in her night nappy this morning before we got ready for the day I decided it would be best if we put her back in them just to cover any accidents.

Fast forward to this evening and I’m glad we did because she didn’t make it to the toilet at all today. DH has just had a go at me saying that that was my fault and I’m undoing all our hard work training her. AIBU to to think he’s being completely unnecessary, and a couple of days aren’t going to set her back at all?

Why do you get to decide what’s an acceptable milestone? Who made you so special? My dd was trained ‘late’ by your standards (she was over 3) because after a few failed attempts earlier on, I would rather have waited until she was old enough to comprehend it better. She cracked it within a few days with no upset and very few accidents. I’d much prefer that approach and it doesn’t make me lazy. As long as kids are potty trained before school it’s nobody else’s business and i’m so sick of people being vile to each other on here just to make themselves appear superior.

It’s fine. She’s unwell. Life is hard enough (for you not him) without having to clean up runny poo. Last time DS had a tummy bug, it exploded all over the bathroom. Nappy time after that. Do what you feel is right, OP.

You took the easy route out and not what’s best for your DD.
How is she even going to consider going to the loo at high when she’s in taped napier’s? Yabvu

How is pooing herself when she's unwell better for the child? We're talking about a child who's unwell, not general toileting. It's temporary. I also used a sanitary towel the one time in my adult life I've been that unwell with diarrhoea, because leaking diarrhoea everywhere involuntarily isn't pleasant whatever your age.

Amazing how many people have decided that kids having repeated bouts of diarrhoea in their knickers instead of in a nappy is some kind of gold standard of care.

I am sorry OP but with your attitude it is no wonder she was late potty training.
Yes PT often involves accidents and mess.

No she wears taped nappies at night as well.

Or just cut a bit of the nappy off and put it in the knickers.

She’s already potty trained so given we’ve been successful already I think I’m well aware. But thank you for your input x

As do many many children her age.

Yes because that’s going to stop poo leaking everywhere isn’t it. Do you even have kids?

I don’t think it’s a big deal. Her being older means she has more understanding if you tell her she’s only in nappies while she’s got a poorly tummy. I really don’t think it’s likely to cause a regression, she’s not a tiny toddler.

Also to all those saying she’s “almost reception age” and will still be in nappies in reception, what a ridiculous overreaction! If she’s 3 and 7 months now she’s got almost a year until she’s in reception and she is already potty trained, she’s just had one day in a nappy because she’s got diarrhoea.

ps night nappy should come off first thing so she can go to the toilet for a wee

So she’s not even in pull ups overnight? Still taped nappies?

No they wear pull ups and are taken out of them first thing in the morning.

Oh yes because the op should be absolutely thrilled at the prospect of her home being covered in infectious diarrhoea - that would be a much better attitude.
Who cares if she potty trained late. Subjecting you and a child who isn’t ready to weeks of accidents and upset just so you can brag about how early they were potty trained doesn’t make you a better parent. As long as they are ready before school then it’s nobody else’s business.
So many judgemental, horrible comments.

Well I think it is much nicer for the children if they are out of nappies. A 3 or 4 year old that does large smelly poos in a nappy is not pleasant to be around. There is no bragging about being potty trained early. On the contrary, it seems that a lot of parents like to brag about being potty trained late.

Absolute rubbish. Nothing to brag about either way. Most of us are just trying to raise our kids in the best way we see fit. I tried potty training at 2 and 2.5 with both my kids. On both occasions it was met with fear, upset, tantrums and a lot of mess. So I waited and when they were both just over 3 they trained within a few days. It was much easier for me and them. It was a no brainer for me but i’m sure lots of people would call me lazy and say I should have persevered in the first instance. I couldn’t really care less but i do think it’s unpleasant to see so many people wanting to stick the boot in with others.

Op is in a difficult situation with a small child who is unwell. I wouldn’t want to be cleaning up diarrhea either. I would encourage the toilet where possible but ultimately this isn’t going to be a long term problem. It’s a temporary solution to a shitty situation (no pun intended).

Yes as I’ve just found they work better and we have less leaks. She doesn’t wake up anyway so it makes no difference if she’s in a normal nappy or a pull up it’s the the same thing at that point

First thing in the morning I understand and accept I should do better. The nappies vs pull ups makes no difference. Also how do you have such extensive knowledge of which products everyone’s children are wearing at night?

i know right?!

OP you’re a mother now!! You should relish cleaning shit off the carpets and sofa all day long, and do it with a big smile on your face 😀 and you can always just buy a new sofa and replace the carpet after! Anything else is just laziness! Dont know why you even bothered having kids!!

This thread sure is a revelation of why the government is rolling out a scheme to support potty training. OP should have been part of the pilot really.

I appreciate OP has had a fairly significant pile-on so don't necessarily want to add to that but it was a very odd decision to make - if she is toilet trained, she's toilet trained. It won't be perfect for a while but you keep moving forward, tummy bug or not.

I also cannot believe that you are even anticipating she could be wearing nappies at 5 or 6. Medical or additional needs aside, that's beyond nuts.

Dont be so ridiculous, her child is potty trained. At least be factually correct if you’re going to be nasty.

Not sure who is being ridiculous really. Lazy parenting is what this is...

Why would her home be covered in infectious diarrhoea?! Her DD may have an accident, she'll clean it up and take appropriate hygiene measures herself, she presumably can limit where DD is, in terms of mitigating the impact of accidents.

People lose their minds on here about catching bugs from their DC. Of course, it happens, but you can do your best to observe best hygiene practices and hopefully that'll be enough. It's a tummy bug not ebola.