Giving up work

[Oksurething]

Hi all, I am asking here due to there being a lot of followers to this sub,

my partner receives benefits for his mental health, it’s the higher rate so I could qualify to be his caregiver, his rate and circumstances aren’t likely to change.

after calculating my income, I’d be the same off financially,

would it be wise to give up working full time to do this? I’m constantly drained from work and battle to keep on top of my household responsibilities.

So, my question is; if you could get out of the rat race, would you?

I have said several times on this thread that I think OP is wanting to use her DP's disability to claim and not work. That is not what CA is for.

And these are the type of people we are expected to support with our taxes. Can't get a better paid job because the commute is too tiring, can't work because 25 days of leave is not enough, would much rather spend time with her boyfriend, potter around the church and live off benefits.

To get carers allowance you have to fill in a form exactly saying what you do and why. It’s a bit insulting the way you ask the question. I am a carer for my son who can’t live independently. So what o dare to take a holiday social services have to step in with Pa support that goes to panel. I want to go out in the evenings but DH has a series of work black tie does so I’m having to stretch my Pa to cover. You have to evidence what your partner can’t do and establish that you are doing it for them - which you don’t seem to be doing so the whole thing seems outrageous. When I am having to unblock my sons toilet, buy his clothes ( he’s aged 22) sort out his tablets, get him ready to go out the door, chop cheese so he can make a sandwich, get him to check the days of the week so he can take his tablets, prompt him to blow his nose, sort out his Pa timetable/ mentor timetable etc I will think of you and flipping cry.

And equally, the disability claim seems laughable.

I can volunteer, I can go anywhere I like, I take an active part at church. My partner can quit her job and call herself my carer, we like the idea of lolling about together all day, every day. We'll find stuff to do.

A day's work, you say? Impossible. Can't you see how ill I am.

Frankly, OP, who's not interested in the moral compass of this, is exactly who should pull this kind of thing. Because the people who think it's ok to do this to society are going to find they are the first to get caught in the benefits cull that's coming one way or another. And if you're happy to do it to your fellow man without any care, then you deserve the consequences.

You are assuming a lot of things that OP has not mentioned at all.

Again, going to church does not mean someone can work. There are day centres for people with LD and dementia. Does their attendance mean they can also hold down a job?

No no, she's said all of that.

Going to church and volunteering does not means someone can hold down a job.

The OP hasn't returned to the thread.

Honestly, I can't believe what I'm reading. This must be a wind-up.