Giving up work

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Hi all, I am asking here due to there being a lot of followers to this sub,

my partner receives benefits for his mental health, it’s the higher rate so I could qualify to be his caregiver, his rate and circumstances aren’t likely to change.

after calculating my income, I’d be the same off financially,

would it be wise to give up working full time to do this? I’m constantly drained from work and battle to keep on top of my household responsibilities.

So, my question is; if you could get out of the rat race, would you?

Does he actually need a carer? From how you've worded it, it sounds more like you just don't want to work?

No way would I give up a job for a man. You would end up with mental health issues yourself sitting at home with him. Have you been together long? I couldnt go with someone eho had significant mental health issues. Keep your job.

She has not said anything about the care he gets from services or other family members.

True. It does read like she thinks she would have an easier free life.

Oh please, I’m not the only one that’s noticed she quite literally has worded it as … she doesn’t want to work, rather than he needs a carer lol stop trying to argue with me to justify this strangers behaviour.

That is how I read that too.

I am not. I agree that she wants to claim CA so she does not have to work. I have said that in multiple comments. That is not what CA is for.
I am just not agreeing that because he does not have a carer now means he does not need one.

Ok, let me rephrase then.. she doesn’t need to be his carer, she needs to go to work lol

You want to be a full time carer as a lifestyle choice? If you’re going to have loads of free time to fulfil your life ambitions it doesn’t sound like he needs a carer.

How can £86.45 Carers Allowance be equal to earnings from a full time job? Plus if you earn under £204 per week you can work andclaim Carers Allowance.

Absolutely.

It seems he's quite able to go many places... except a workplace.

Seriously I'd wait until after the government review of PIP in October or November. If he has MH problems only he could be downgraded on his PIP. If he's well enough to volunteer then obviously he could work in some capacity.

And they seem to think going to church and doing ad hoc ‘charity’ work justifies it. Unbelievable.

That is really not fair. Going to church, or doing a bit of volunteering does not means someone can hold down a job.
It is almost like you think anyone too disabled to work should not be allowed to leave their home at all.

Good point. All benefits will most certainly be reduced by any government. It would be foolish for OP to rely on them in her 30s.

Also, if his PIP and LCWRA is reviewed annually that means they’re expecting his circumstances or award to change. If they really believed he was going to be entitled to it forever it would be reviewed every 3-5 years, and LCWRA wouldn’t be reviewed at all. Also, doctors (GPs and mental healthcare) are going to soon be rolling out the “support back to work scheme” for those who have been signed off due to mental health issues. I think you should definitely give up your job and be his carer, and see how it all plays out for you. Please do update us in 6 months time and let us know.

Also, if his PIP and LCWRA is reviewed annually that means they’re expecting his circumstances or award to change. If they really believed he was going to be entitled to it forever it would be reviewed every 3-5 years, and LCWRA wouldn’t be reviewed at all. Also, doctors (GPs and mental healthcare) are going to soon be rolling out the “support back to work scheme” for those who have been signed off due to mental health issues. I think you should definitely give up your job and be his carer, and see how it all plays out for you. Please do update us in 6 months time and let us know.

Absolutely would not. Personally I would not want to make myself financially vulnerable and reliant on someone/something i.e. the benefits system in this case. Especially with reforms to benefits being a hot topic.

Yeah that's right. Because he's clearly capable of going where he likes, just not a workplace, I think all disabled people should be locked up.

Hyperbolic attitudes like that do a real disservice to the disabled community.

Sincerely, mother of 3. 1 disabled.

If I could get out of the rat race I would, but only with security and savings tbh. What if they cut you off suddenly as he you had to wait a few weeks to get it back?

Or indeed Reform.
If Nigel and his pals get in, I feel benefits will be cut.
Look at part time options OP and see if there are any opportunities for your DH to get involved in supportive community projects. Our town has a few "men in sheds" type projects.

You are the one that thinks because he can go to church and do a bit of volunteering means he is swinging the lead.
He can not attend either things and he would not be threatened with a loss of money.

Sincerely, me. Disabled.

If you want to ignore PIP fraud being at it's highest level and the majority being MH claims, feel free.

No. I need my identity and self respect, and could never be reliant on someone else’s benefits

Yes, what support is he getting from services/agencies?
My town has a Men's Shed thing too. Also walks for men struggling with MH/isolation.
If he is not already, a social prescriber at his GP could look into what is about for him.