AIBU for refusing primary school homework apart from reading?

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My dc are 7,9 and 13. We’ve never done any homework at primary school. I strongly disagree with it all except reading.

The school aren’t happy but my dc all have ASD and ADHD diagnosed and they are too exhausted every weekday and at weekends we let them play and relax and take them out.

At secondary school we believe homework is necessary and ds1 happily does his but for primary we just don’t agree at all.

Does anyone else feel the same ?

I hate it as a parent and I hate it as a teacher. I’d say 80% of students do 0 homework until yr11

Can you agree to do less homework? I don’t love homework but it’s a good chance to get them to show you how they’re doing/ what they understand etc. Also secondary could be a bit more difficult if they’ve never had to sit down s as nd work at home

You can refuse to do it, but at my DCs school they miss their 'golden time' to do it if it's not done at home.

I wouldn’t want an excessive amount but a few little maths questions and spellings is fine imo. I used to do little made up projects with my kids for fun. If it’s too much for your kids then Yanbu to not do it. I think it’s classed as a reasonable adjustment.

Meh. I definitely couldn’t get worked up about it. I also think I’m a net contributor so will choose whatever school I want. I don’t think each school should get to decide.

We ended up doing very little of the homework set for various reasons. Both children read regularly, did do bits of timetables and spellings practice.
However more of it went on line, which we didn't want, partly because of the additional screen time but mainly because the programmes were so pathetic.
Both were dyslexic, so spelling became a nightmare. I knew they would get there in time and just sending random lists of spellings home instead of focused ones (ie we're learning about weather next week, so we'll learn appropriate words). It was pointless. They could do their timetables quite early on as well.
Primary school got worse and worse for them through bullying and boredom.
They are both bright and a change in school has made a huge difference - both happily get on with their homework!

ASD and ADHD excuse. You are teaching your children that not following instructions or doing what is expected of them is OK. Well its not and you are setting yourself and more importantly them for failure.

Literacy is the most important one.

Only in the UK would people push back on homework. Do as you wish but do it knowing you will be reducing the chances of your children keeping up with the curriculum and doing well.

My son is a secondary teacher and children come into first year with low literacy skills which impacts every single subject. You can see why!

A child that is neurodivergent will be exhausted just from having to be I school and adapting all day . They have the right to adaptations and flexibility so stick to what you know is best for them

We didn't do primary homework. They had a few school projects to do at home over the years that they were interested in so we did. They did a bunch of educational things off their own bat - one liked doing online maths and learnt Welsh, the other was really keen on writing fiction. And we did lots of educational things in our own time like science projects, travel, discussions, museum visits, music lessons, etc. But the homework was abysmal, busy work and just caused friction at home.

They started doing homework in year 7 with no issues (not that they like it much!) and are on track to go to decent Unis.

I would have laughed if the school said they considered it educational neglect and suggested they see what social services thought of that idea.

Depends on the homework - if its project stuff like build a model stone henge which means you doing the vast majority then fair enough to skip that but if it's a bit of practice of what they did that day in school to reinforce learning then YABU, that kind of homework is helpful. Establishing good study habits is also important and that's easier if you start young. But I understand it can be a challenge getting them to do it. DS has suspected adhd (just starting assessment now) and we agreed with the school that he will be supported to do homework in afterschool club this year, and that has helped a lot. Next year he'll be too old for afterschool club so they suggested he could do it in homework club if he still needs that extra support to do it (the work itself is no issue, its easy for him, its getting started that's the problem) though that's what he has to do when he forgets to do it so views it as a punishment at the moment (which it is as it means missing break or staying behind after school) but it'll be up to him whether that's better or worse than having to do it at home in the evening.

Given its on tablets I’d probably say that due to the ADHD you don’t want them on screens for any longer so can they send you physical worksheets. But it sounds like you wouldn’t be happy with that either?

Oh please.
School homework has always been varied for children at primary, in every school in the land there are some children with arrangements not to do it.
This has happened ever since primary school homework was first set - although for many decades there really was none except reading and spellings.

I understood literacy levels at age 11 are higher than they were decades ago (unless you have seen different stats to me).
There will of course be some who will not be able to read by year 7 for a range of reasons, your son should understand this, it is covered in teacher training.

I'm talking about multiple children. Do you teach?

I won’t force my DS to do homework. He’s 8 in Year 3, no SEND but he is a sensitive child and it just ends up with tears and shouting if we insist. Sometimes he does it and sometimes he doesn’t

I refused to do my homework throughout secondary school and spent many hours in detention because of it but this was despite my Mum’s efforts (I have ASD and would absolutely not do anything I didn’t want to as a child). I managed to pass all my GCSEs, A-Levels and degree despite this so I don’t think homework is the be all and end all and I’m not starting WW3 to get it done, especially in primary school

DS has AuDHD we do the homework. It's about establishing routines with him, if I teach him now it's optional I've not got a hope in hell when he gets to secondary and I don't want him in detention daily. We don't spend too long on it and spread it across the week.

Look at the literacy stats, of course some won't read by age 11, for all sorts of reasons.
Your son may be in a school with a higher number of children as the distribution varies, but he should understand the whys.

So you dont. Thanks.

I'm not required to confirm or deny my job. It's not a reasonable question and it's private.

That's fine.

My son is already above his age in reading and as I said they overdo it at school (IMO) there is a severe lack of creativity in primary schools due to the English push, my son hates all the writing so im not going to force him to do it at home, anyway hes a STEM boy.

You still need literacy for STEM.