AIBU to ask my sister to stop asking about the housekeeper?

[Backtothey2k]

I have a lovely housekeeper who comes every other day (not weekends). Yes, I know this might seem like a lot to some, but I don’t like cleaning. It is the last thing I want to do when I finish work. I like everything to be done so I can just get on with making dinner and spending time with my family.
Yet, every time my sister calls (we live in different parts of the country), she seems more interested in what my housekeeper has done today rather than me and her nephews. I just do not understand why she is so invested in it.
Would I be rude to ask her to stop asking about what the housekeeper has done? I just want to catch up with my sister, not talk about chores.

You might want to read my post again 😁

Lol are you the sister?

I think you need to understand the difference between opinion and fact 🤣 oh my mistake ( see how easy it is to admit when wrong ) so you don’t even have a housekeeper. Makes sense

Surely she is whatever she wants to be considered? She doesn’t consider herself to be a cleaner because she does more than just clean.
It’s funny because I’ve read so many threads on here where people have said ‘can I ask my cleaner to change the beds?’ Or ‘can I ask my cleaner to tidy toys?’ And the general consensus is ‘NO ABSOLTELY NOT, SHE’S THERE TO CLEAN AND NOTHING ELSE’

People can call themselves what they like. House keeper sounds fancier than cleaner.

12 posts from you OP, on your only thread, turned a provocative opener into
a combative rigmarole, now waiting for Godwin’s Law to kick in so we can all
have our sardines on toast and watch tele in peace

In my experience a cleaner does all those things, and a housekeeper would additionally orginse wardrobes, cupboards, pantries, restock household supplies and make lists of what’s required including regular groceries (and sometimes also organise the ordering of them), receive deliveries and keep an eye on any work being done in the house and garden. I’d also expect a housekeeper to run light errands. So I’m amazed you’re calling normal cleaning activities housekeeping :)

I’d agree with that. She can call herself what she likes. I’d call my cleaner a housekeeper if she asked me. Not to other people tho as they’d think I was a twonk.

I love my fortnightly cleaner. A housekeeper would be fantastic 😍

When I was a cleaner I did whatever my employer asked me to. Sometimes it was 'just' cleaning, sometimes it was ironing and bed changing, sometimes it was sorting out the food cupboards.

The only thing I didn't do was food ordering and cooking, so I assume that would be what a housekeeper would do.

So why did you have an issue then . Nothing about being fancier most cleaners don’t do what housekeepers do . Because it’s a different job role . It’s like asking a window cleaner to come in and clean your over because is has a glass door

I don't know about these days but historically the Housekeeper was the most senior of female staff in a big house, hotel or similar establishment. They were responsible for all other female staff, held keys to various rooms and cupboards, kept records of expenditure and ordered supplies (including food) in consultation with the owner of the property. In essence their main responsibility was administration and supervision and they rarely, if ever, did any domestic work themselves. Obviously times have changed!

What's worse, is a poster who thinks they know OP's life from a snapshot.

The irony!! 🤣

Ah, I wouldn’t think you were a twonk 💐. I wouldn’t care enough to even notice whah you called her.

Exactly this - and I assume you wouldn’t run errands (such as dry cleaning, and bits the kids need), pick up the kids from school, sort packed lunches for the household and admin?

Thats why as a rule they have longer hours that a general cleaner.

I run a couple of businesses, one of which involves different types of staff which is partly why I know the difference.

Imagine having a cleaner who is happy to do all the jobs listed by some PP, jackpot!

Hope they pay them well.

Not difficult to realise that some cleaners might do extra, which doesn't make them housekeepers, just as some housekeepers do less but are still not housekeepers.

It's fascinating watching people get so angry over someone having a Housekeeper 😂.

Out of curiosity - when you mean the OP doesn’t have a housekeeper what do you mean? That the OP is lying or your don’t think a housekeeper is a thing? Because again a house manager (where I live at least) is different than a housekeeper which is then different than a cleaner.

I don’t think anyone cares, but it’s highly entertaining

She thinks a cleaner does more than just clean . And doesn’t seem to comprehend what a housekeeper does . Even tho apparently it’s her job

Your second description is actually a maid.

Housekeeper takes care of everything in the house like shopping, cooking, basically a housewife but as a job.

My mum was a housekeeper and did the cooking. Mind you, that was wartime and post-war Edinburgh. (She started working for a retired couple when she was 14.)

And why do you assume my housekeeper doesn’t do these things plus more. I didn’t list everything and it varies greatly . I was giving a brief description as it has nothing to do with my OP . And I wasn’t asking people if I had a housekeeper or cleaner 🤣. Even tho that’s what this post has turned into.

"Dear DSis, stop asking about my housekeeper. I've now told AIBU that I have a housekeeper, so I can have hundreds of other people asking me as well.

Yes, exactly this. Mrs Hughes in Downton Abbey. That woman in Rebecca?
You can also have one as the only staff member, but then she does all the cooking and housework e.g. Mrs Doyle in Father Ted.

Hotels also have housekeepers/housekeeping management and I think a lot of that is to do with managing stock.

I don't think giving a cleaner a couple of other tasks makes them a housekeeper.