AIBU to ask my sister to stop asking about the housekeeper?

[Backtothey2k]

I have a lovely housekeeper who comes every other day (not weekends). Yes, I know this might seem like a lot to some, but I don’t like cleaning. It is the last thing I want to do when I finish work. I like everything to be done so I can just get on with making dinner and spending time with my family.
Yet, every time my sister calls (we live in different parts of the country), she seems more interested in what my housekeeper has done today rather than me and her nephews. I just do not understand why she is so invested in it.
Would I be rude to ask her to stop asking about what the housekeeper has done? I just want to catch up with my sister, not talk about chores.

You are describing a house manager, not a housekeeper. Different jobs, different salaries.

I’m in the US and have worked as a nanny quite a bit over the past 20 years.

It’s the norm here for families with 2 high earning parents to have help, but an actual housekeeper would be quite unusual. I did know a couple of families who had this, but they were extremely rich, not just higher earning professionals.

For my typical families they’d have me for the kids, a cleaner every other week, a dog walker every day and a lawn service every week in the warm months.

Me (the nanny) only takes care of kid management. No cleaning other than messes we make together. But yes to kid laundry.

The cleaner does heavy cleaning such as floor washing and bathrooms and the kitchen. No ironing, laundry, groceries, changing beds etc.

And for whoever pointed out that these jobs can be great for working around your own kids, that’s exactly why I did it. And where I am, childcare would be around $25+ per hour. Cleaning is more, about $35+. So it’s worth the effort!

Now I just do part time with a 9 year old after school, so even though it’s not technically “my job” I always empty the dishwasher if it has been run, fold any laundry in baskets (but don’t put it away) and take the dog for a walk if he’s been cooped up in his crate. The 9 year old isn’t very needy and the parents appreciate any extra little thing that gets taken care of. They still have a cleaner and a gardener!

I agree with the OPs classification of housekeeper as a cleaner here wouldn’t do any of that extra stuff.

What gratification would OP get by anonymously letting us know she has a housekeeper?

Well thanks for the clarification - but my cleaner does most of those things.

Also 3 times a week??? How long for.?
I have a fortnightly 3 hour clean - and that's plenty. Do you live in a mansion?

This is hardly a world crisis is it OP. What a non-issue to start a thread about.

Exactly.

Housekeepers either live in or live out, they’re at your house all day every day other than days off.

I’ve had cleaners for 30 years and they do all the chores OP listed.

I guess both OP and her cleaner think housekeeper sounds fancier!

I mean, if I was irritated by someone asking what my chef and his sous chef do all day, I would DEFINITELY start a thread about it on MN. Yes!

For heaven's sake! I despair. What sort of a relationship do you have with your sister that you have to ask Internet strangers how to ask her to stop doing something you don't like her doing? Or could it just be, @Backtothey2k , that you secretly like just saying the phrase "I have a housekeeper" over and over and laughing at the ignoramuses who don't know the difference between a cleaner and a housekeeper?
(For what it's worth, I think you have a glorified cleaner who does "a little bit extra" but that's not what your OP was about.)

As if it needs to be. You’d have a point if she posted it on World News, but she didn’t. She posted it on AIBU, where 99% of threads are not about in world crises.

You aren’t required to read a thread if it’s not relevant or interesting to you.

OP MN hates the idea of anyone getting ideas above their station 🙄 so you’ve posted this in the wrong place!

One can be a part time. Same as a gardener or any other job can be full time or part time.

Not content with insulting OP, now you're also insulting her housekeeper!

What gain does OP or the housekeeper claiming to be one and not the other?

Because it's plenty for you, it should be plenty for everyone else?

What else does she do?

Im interested in what she does to need to come to your house every other day too. Could you list some of the thungs please? Do you leave the dishes and washing pile up on the days she doesnt come?

All the things that the OP listed in her previous posts.

You despair!! 🤣

If you deem it not serious enough to start a thread on, why bother commenting.

I didn't see those.

I have a friend who is a housekeeper and wondered if the duties were the same.

And what did she do last week OP? 😆 I'm with your sister, it's fascinating.

No-one’s insulting anyone. We’re just pointing out that this particular housekeeper is a cleaner.

I love the fact that you think your opinion is fact 🤣 Google is free if you don’t understand the difference between a housekeeper and a cleaner. Using the correct terminology has nothing to do with being fancy

When I was growing up we had a lady who came in 3 times a week and did cleaning, changing beds, washing and ironing. We called her the housekeeper (that’s how she referred to herself also). You’re not alone OP!

There’s a lot of overlap. A housekeeper is more focused on the care and presentation of a home whereas a house manager is more concerned with the overall operations. But old school housekeepers were basically house managers.

She's probably fascinated. I also want to know what she does every other day?!

Gotta love an OP who doubles down on error.

I have cleaners and I have a house manager. I don’t have a housekeeper and nor do you.

You have a housekeeper but don’t know the difference between a cleaner and housekeeper sure you do. Do you also not have capability of looking up facts.