Another selfish man thread

[Tummytroublesagain1]

Not after any pearls of wisdom but would be nice to vent

DH is mostly rubbish at DIY but admittedly is shit hot at putting together flat pack furniture

My dad is a joiner so I defer to him when I actually need holes drilling in the wall. I need a curtain pole putting up, so he’s very kindly offered to come this afternoon and put it up for US. The US is the important bit.

DH has just announced that he’s going to the gym - I’m like er no can you wait until later until after dad has been to do the curtain pole. Cue a mini tantrum from a 55 year old man about why can’t I help him instead.

I had to mansplain to him that actually it’s highly inappropriate to be out at the gym when my 76 year old dad comes over to do a job for us.

Send wine and chocolate

honestly it doesn’t warrant a leave the bastard but sometimes I do wonder………

Apart from maintaining outdated and rather awful stereotypes, what stops you from learning the skills required to put up a curtain pole?
A man’s level of worth or respect should not be based on his ability to do DIY any more than a woman’s should be based on their ability to cook or do the bloody ironing. If you want to stop relying on your aging father for these things then maybe learn the skills yourself.
You’ve made no other comment on your husband’s abilities in other things so presumably he plays an otherwise decent role in your and your children’s lives. Stop picking on him for being crap at a skill that he doesn’t have and shouldn’t be obligated, purely based upon his sex, to have.
My FIL is terrible at DIY, my MIL is brilliant. And we just had our kitchen and bathroom put in, and all the tiling done by an incredibly skilled woman who runs her own business.
Based on what you write, and the expectations you (and perhaps too your father ) have of what your partner should be able to do, I’m not at all surprised he’d rather not be on hand to be made to feel the shame of not being able to put up a curtain rail. But why don’t you feel a similar shame?