Ok so this very bizarre.
so I made a post on here about how my mums friend (not even close friend, someone she has coffee with couple times a year) called and angrily told me off and shamed me about a private family decision. And began telling me what to do.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/amibeingunreasonable/5563138-mums-friend-called-me-to-lecture-me-shame-me-and-tell-me-off-and-telling-me-what-to-do
(it was about deciding to use some of our savings for private nhs treatment as waiting list was too long. Another was about my sister buying a home and us using some of our big savings for deposit gift, she said that’s idiotic because we can get a council home instead, (why she thinks she would even be eligible for council home I have no idea)
i ended up blocking her.
I now find out she called my brother and began interfering in another family situation. This is even more bizarre!
So my brother became disabled.
she angrily demanded he make my mum his carer so she can retire 2 years earlier and doesn’t have to work and can stay home?
And to apply for council house so my mom can go live with him in this council home and doesn’t have to privately rent??
using same very angry language lecturing him like a child such as “have you no shame” your poor overworked mother suffering because of you” “you are being a burden to your mom” “you like living like this don’t you” “don’t get offended” “no offence”
”you know sometimes healthy people live shorter lives than sick people” “your mom is going to end up dying because you refuse to help her!!!!!”
my brother shocked and startled, (she was very, very angry with angry face pointing finger at him) blurted out he can’t as he has very large savings and he works to get her to leave him alone, to which she replied, I TOLD YOU ALREADY GET RID OF THEM! Quit your job!! TO SAVE YOUR MOTHER!
Now, other than being shocked I’m also extremely weirded out and confused. Because this makes no sense!
why does this woman think my brother qualifies for a council house for simply being disabled? you need to have a need
for carers You must care for the individual for a minimum of 35 hours weekly which she doesn’t do? Not even close to that amount. And even if she did my mom never told him she wants this?
i spoke to my mum and she said other than complaining that she is very tired from working, and that she has been struggling with some health issues and has a 2 years to go till state pension she never said anything else to to this woman.
This woman she said few times advised since her son is disabled, he should apply for disability (she never told her if he gets it or not ) so he “can make mum his carer” so my mum can retire early?
and if he is disabled he can apply for council house so my mum can come live with him and doesn’t have to pay expensive private rent?
My mum told her they have no plans to do this and it’s not how it works at all but she wouldn’t listen and keep suggesting this.
i guess she decided to take matters into her own hands?