AIBU to feel upset my parents are selling their holiday home?

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So I do know I am being unreasonable... but my parents own a holiday home abroad, which we go to with our kids 3-4 times a year as we absolutely love it and it is a cost effective way to have a holiday as we only pay for the flights and cleaner. I've been going for 30 years so feels like a home from home.

My parents are finding it too much to manage and get there so were going to let me and my brother take over management. However, they have now changed their minds and are going to sell it. They openly say they don't need the money, but they want to dispose of it as they're not using it. It is worth a fair amount (more than my house) and the money is just going to sit in a bank account not doing anything for anybody - my parents won't require it for care even if that time comes as they have other means.

I realise this is completely their choice, but I am crushed. I have so many of my happiest memories there, espeically of my children. It enables so much quality family time for us, which as the children get older I know will become more challenging to get at home.

We also won't really be able to afford holidays now. We both work full time in demanding jobs with long hours and have always had the next trip there booked so always had that to look forward to.

Not really sure what I am saying, but I find it upsetting that something so important to me, my husband and kids will be gone for no benefit to anybody.

Sadly the Op's dad is very unwell and the OPs mum is struggling with everything - I imagine the future is weighing heavily - do you honestly think buying a holiday home for the OP is the priority?

But, actually, OP, you CAN afford to travel to other places. If you’re spending ‘a few’ thousand on flights each year to use the holiday home, you can absolutely spend that travelling elsewhere. Book well ahead in terms of flights (or consider alternatives like ferries) and research accommodation carefully, and you can find some lovely places.

This is mad, do you have any idea how insanely lucky you have been up to now? We have just spent a 'few thousand' on a small holiday that we have saved up for for over 3 years. I'm sure you will survive...

I can see why you’d be upset, OP.
if your parents don’t need the funds from the holiday home sale, and know that you and your brother’s family get a lot of joy from it, it feels really unfair to take it from you.

is there more to it than you know?

they will probably regret selling it when it means you don’t have the same spare funds to holiday/visit with them 😔

they will probably regret selling it when it means you don’t have the same spare funds to holiday/visit with them The Op's dad is very unwell, I think the Op's parents have bigger priorities! Managing a second home (even when siblings say they'll do it - will they? And if they fall out who picks up the rope?) I can completely see why they want to sell it.

Would they consider a holiday home elsewhere? somewhere your Dad could enjoy?

I understand. I was upset for years when my childhood home was sold, even though I’d been unhappy there. These things go deep.

Good point.

Yes, as the above poster says, what about them buying a holiday home in the UK that you can all enjoy and you can take your mum to when it's just her. There are so many lovely parts of the UK, Dorset, Cornwall, Scotland, Yorkshire etc etc. Then you could make some new memories with all of you there and your kids will have new and different experiences. It could still be a wonderful opportunity.

While you might feel disappointed, better to focus on the fact that you've been very fortunate to have use of it for as long as you have.

Yes, as the above poster says, what about them buying a holiday home in the UK

Her dad is very unwell and might have less than two years to live and you think her parents should get into the stressful business of buying a property which he won't benefit from?

Unbelievable.

my dad is very unwell and I would feel very lucky if we get another 2 years with him.

I missed this, and it absolutely explains why they're selling. Inheritance rules in another country can be complex, and it relieves mum of what would feel like a huge burden on top of everything else that follows the loss of a spouse

Can you and your brother not get a loan to cover the capital gains? That way you keep it massively cheap house and parents have no worries