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AIBU to think if we need to politely ask men not to rape women (or men), then we don't want such people in the UK? PART 2

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CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:09

'Don't rape, sexually assault or make kissing noises' at people, asylum seekers warned in guidance about living in UK

UK arrivals have been told to treat women equally, not sexually assault partners or have sex with children in a new Home Office pamphlet. As well as the guidebook, a series of posters have also been designed by the government.'

https://news.sky.com/story/asylum-seekers-warned-not-to-make-kissing-sounds-at-people-in-new-guidance-about-living-in-uk-13574744

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GunnelVallquist · 30/08/2026 16:19

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:18

Confounding factors are not mitigating factors!

No sorry, that was my mistake for not reading properly.

EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:23

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 15:33

Ok if you agree with the links you posted, then we are in complete agreement. When you said there are ‘Records are searched for’ - they won’t exist in a conflict zone so asylum seekers are approved with no evidence and I said records do exist they are just harder to secure and the risk of destruction is higher and no asylum claim is approved without some evidence even if it ûs physical/medical.

Seems you have had a look and realised that in war zones some records do exist. Not every crime is reported. Not every record that should be written gets written, but records do exist.

Edited

When I said no records exist I meant of crimes. And they do not for the reasons outlined in the post.

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:24

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:19

The joke is that I did quite a lot of stats as part of my degree, so the little teaching links are quite funny.

If you did take stats courses at Uni, then what is your excuse for pretending that confounding factors do not matter and direct comparisons of raw data from two very different populations is statistically valid? What is your excuse for making completely unworkable suggestions to address common confounding factors?

Because, it may have been amusing for you to pretend statistics don’t need to be done correctly, but this is no laughing matter. We are talking about sexual assault and immigration. This affects the lives of everyone involved.

So why did you decide to play devils advocate as a joke when you say you actually do know how statistical analysis should be done?

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:27

EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:23

When I said no records exist I meant of crimes. And they do not for the reasons outlined in the post.

Ok, but the links you provided show that some records do exist of crimes in war zones. How else has the ICC issued arrest warrants for war crimes? The title even says ‘why every crime is not reported’ - some crimes do get reported.

EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:30

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:27

Ok, but the links you provided show that some records do exist of crimes in war zones. How else has the ICC issued arrest warrants for war crimes? The title even says ‘why every crime is not reported’ - some crimes do get reported.

Because it’s usually not major war criminals that get on boats, it’s just low level men whose crimes have not been recorded or noted in any way due to the reasons in that post.

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:36

EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:30

Because it’s usually not major war criminals that get on boats, it’s just low level men whose crimes have not been recorded or noted in any way due to the reasons in that post.

As opposed to their victims? Who flees a war zone when they are the warlord and his gangsters going around killing, looting, raping? They’re living high. They’re getting power. They’re grabbing land and resources. It’s the victims that flee.

You didn’t see any Nazis fleeing Germany when Hitler was in power did you? No, you saw Jewish victims fleeing as refugees.

It is illogical to think that most of the asylum seekers are actually criminals.

CoventryCity · 30/08/2026 16:37

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:35

"'Predatory' Eritrean migrant jailed for eight years after raping and strangling woman in Crewe"

https://www.gbnews.com/news/cheshire-news-eritrean-migrant-jailed-raping-woman-crewe

She was only 19 and he strangled her till she blacked out - 8 years is a joke.

And so it goes on

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EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:38

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:36

As opposed to their victims? Who flees a war zone when they are the warlord and his gangsters going around killing, looting, raping? They’re living high. They’re getting power. They’re grabbing land and resources. It’s the victims that flee.

You didn’t see any Nazis fleeing Germany when Hitler was in power did you? No, you saw Jewish victims fleeing as refugees.

It is illogical to think that most of the asylum seekers are actually criminals.

So is this you accepting that those crimes are not recorded? If you accept that I’ll answer on the rest.

GunnelVallquist · 30/08/2026 16:38

CoventryCity · 30/08/2026 16:37

And so it goes on

And it won’t stop.

I wish people would realise that.

It makes me so sad when I think what Europe is going to look like in the future.

And it’s not racist or xenophobic to say that.

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:39

Greece not the UK, but a pregnant woman was gang-raped by Pakistani nationals
https://www.ekathimerini.com/news/1163392/three-men-charged-in-athens-gang-rape/

38thparallel · 30/08/2026 16:41

Which migrants are these?

@NullaEffugium you know perfectly well.

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:41

EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:38

So is this you accepting that those crimes are not recorded? If you accept that I’ll answer on the rest.

I already said that in war zones not all crimes are recorded and the risk of record destruction is also high.

You are the one claiming that no records exist of any crimes in a war zone.

zero records.

That’s just not true. There will be some records of some crimes.

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:42

38thparallel · 30/08/2026 16:41

Which migrants are these?

@NullaEffugium you know perfectly well.

No I don’t. People seem to be conflating asylum seekers with illegal immigrants with legal immigrants on visas with the children of migrants. I’d like you to please clarify which migrants you are referring to please.

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:43

"In the wake of the invasion, the small Spanish community has seen a spike in sexual violence.
In just over a fortnight, the rate of sexual assaults was eight times higher than the norm for Ceuta."

“We've got young men, and some of them do not know not to assault and rape women and girls sexually.”

https://www.gbnews.com/news/world/migrant-crisis-ceuta-sexual-abuse-silence-joanna-williams

‘Telling silence’ over rise of sexual abuse in Ceuta following migrant invasion slammed by author Joanna Williams

Last month, more than 80,000 people stormed the exclave on the Mediterranean coast of Africa

https://www.gbnews.com/news/world/migrant-crisis-ceuta-sexual-abuse-silence-joanna-williams

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:44

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:24

If you did take stats courses at Uni, then what is your excuse for pretending that confounding factors do not matter and direct comparisons of raw data from two very different populations is statistically valid? What is your excuse for making completely unworkable suggestions to address common confounding factors?

Because, it may have been amusing for you to pretend statistics don’t need to be done correctly, but this is no laughing matter. We are talking about sexual assault and immigration. This affects the lives of everyone involved.

So why did you decide to play devils advocate as a joke when you say you actually do know how statistical analysis should be done?

Edited

Ha ha are you for real?

schitts creek ok GIF by CBC
NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:45

The various news events are compelling. They make it more critical that the data be collected on a nationwide basis and properly analysed by statisticians.

Violetdeparma · 30/08/2026 16:45

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:35

"'Predatory' Eritrean migrant jailed for eight years after raping and strangling woman in Crewe"

https://www.gbnews.com/news/cheshire-news-eritrean-migrant-jailed-raping-woman-crewe

She was only 19 and he strangled her till she blacked out - 8 years is a joke.

Yes because we have no room for him and he will be let out even sooner

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:46

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:44

Ha ha are you for real?

I am quite serious. I don’t think it is rude to ask why you are treating such a serious topic as a playground to play jokes on posters. This is not a laughing matter.

editing- I’m off for a bit, perhaps you need to go to a light hearted thread if you feel like playing the jokester and not get your jollies on a thread about rape.

EasternStandard · 30/08/2026 16:47

NullaEffugium · 30/08/2026 16:41

I already said that in war zones not all crimes are recorded and the risk of record destruction is also high.

You are the one claiming that no records exist of any crimes in a war zone.

zero records.

That’s just not true. There will be some records of some crimes.

I’m fine with you accepting this doesn’t happen in many cases -

‘Records are searched for’ because they don’t exist.

GunnelVallquist · 30/08/2026 16:48

So many cases, so many faceless women, so many lives ruined.

Women and girls and also some men (Stephen Ogilvie and the man in his sixties who was raped spring to mind).

All just statistics at the end of the day while this merry-go-round of importing undocumented males continues.

Slow handclap for all those who help facilitate this.

(and yes, I’m aware this is a whole industry; the NGOs, human rights lawyers, interpreters, charity workers etc)

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:51

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year%27s_Eve_sexual_assaults

Before the thread is full, just to remind everyone about the Cologne mass sexual assuaults that were the moment of realisation for many liberal/left wing women about the new reality.

2015–16 New Year's Eve sexual assaults - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year's_Eve_sexual_assaults

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:53

GunnelVallquist · 30/08/2026 16:48

So many cases, so many faceless women, so many lives ruined.

Women and girls and also some men (Stephen Ogilvie and the man in his sixties who was raped spring to mind).

All just statistics at the end of the day while this merry-go-round of importing undocumented males continues.

Slow handclap for all those who help facilitate this.

(and yes, I’m aware this is a whole industry; the NGOs, human rights lawyers, interpreters, charity workers etc)

The law firm partners, I suspect, do extremely well out of this.

Honestly we should all ensure that our pension investments include Serco - surefire growth, and we would at least see some tiny benefit from the whole thing.

GunnelVallquist · 30/08/2026 17:00

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:53

The law firm partners, I suspect, do extremely well out of this.

Honestly we should all ensure that our pension investments include Serco - surefire growth, and we would at least see some tiny benefit from the whole thing.

You make a good (and infuriating) point.

Honestly, if I were to say what I think of those people I’d get banned.

GunnelVallquist · 30/08/2026 17:01

NancyThompson · 30/08/2026 16:51

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year%27s_Eve_sexual_assaults

Before the thread is full, just to remind everyone about the Cologne mass sexual assuaults that were the moment of realisation for many liberal/left wing women about the new reality.

Yes, many people warned of the dangers years and years ago.

They were all shouted down and insulted.

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