AIBU to feel fed up with my husband on holiday?

[Itsa10fromLen]

My god I need to vent! On holiday, OH just cannot come around in the mornings. I know it’s supposed to be a holiday for everyone but how much sleep does one person need? Technically the kids aren’t up so he doesn’t need to be but it’s hard to find a man attractive that needs 10 hours sleep every night and that sets an alarm to sleep through! He also would be upset to miss breakfast (I wouldn’t) so I’m making sure he’s up (I know I should leave him but I can’t stand the grumbling if I didn’t)

And if he tells me he’s sweating and red hot one more time so help me god! Constantly telling us what food he’s had like we can’t see.

I don’t like him, being this close has made that more obvious 😭

If he asks me if I’m having a nice time is it cruel to say no?

Hopefully an underlying health condition 😂 I’m a rotter I know 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is it so hard to believe that some people are lazy?

Honestly this would drive me mad. Just been away for a week with friends. Me and DH were up early every day and got our kids out for mountain hikes. Friends didnt get up and out til hours later. That works for both our families but I couldn't be married to someone who lazed around for that long (unless health reasons)
You sound incompatible. And you dont seem to like him. I'd be looking to separate

We wouldn’t be friends then. I like my friends with a dark sense of humour. No Disney fairytales here I’m afraid. You keep your pleasantness and I’ll keep my realism, none of your colleagues / friends / family said to you ‘I’m going to chuffing kill him when I get in!’ What a charmed life you lead. Hold on to your hubby, if he’s so good you’ve never felt murderous towards him he must be a catch, I’ll take his details.

I’ll bet you’re one of those people who boasts that you ‘tell it like it is’, aren’t you?

No matter how hard you try you are just coming over as unpleasant here, whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation.

I don’t know how long ago you started hating your husband (please don’t say ‘hubby’, it’s cringeworthy) but every day you’ve stayed after that is a betrayal. Tell him how much you hate him, leave the relationship. Even if it’s not the optimal time for you. You like honesty so much, it’s time to start practicing it a bit more.

I'd just stop now OP. Each update makes you sound more and more unpleasant. Just divorce the guy and stop wanging on. You very obviously hate him, in addition to pretty much everyone who has commented. Although I am absolutely certain we'd love you to bits in real life (not).

Your poor kids.

Now who’s lazy!?! 😂😂😂

The only selfish one is you. Jesus let the man sleep. You sound absolutely awful calling your partner fat and lazy. Go on holiday by yourself

Some would think you lazy to still be asleep at 8am... Different people, different opinions.

Let him sleep till the kids wake up and you crack on with your morning in future.

No they wouldn’t at all, you’re reaching.

Complaining about the heat when it's 40 degrees is reasonable. I'm a heat lover and I certainly commented negatively during this year's heatwave.

Sleeping in til 9.30 on holiday is completely normal. If your kids are also still asleep then why is it even an issue? I wake before 7am naturally (not proud, often quite annoyed by this) and I just potter around or go for a run or read a book until other people wake up.

I can’t even believe you could be bothered to type that. Not changing a title that makes zero
difference to the post is not lazy and you know it. It could be my wife, husband, partner and it would still be the same issue.

No

You sound awful. I am sleeping in until 9am every morning. My kids are asleep. My husband gets up and his alarm goes off at 815. I think hes selfish for waking me up. But he gets up.

I work my arse off at home and so do my kids, enough stress at home holidays are generally about relaxing.

Why did you come away with someone you clearly dislike

I can't believe an adult wrote, "I'm actually very popular." 😂

It isn't lazy to sleep for 10 hours if you need that amount of sleep. If you're on holiday, why not sleep as long as you like, especially if you need to be up early for work most days? Is that the case for your husband?

But you've been quite upfront about not liking him. Are you planning on a divorce in the near future? I hope so, for his and the children's sake.

I would turn off the alarm as it clearly doesn't wake him up. Don't try waking him up for brekky. He is an adult. Do your own thing. Tell the kids to wake him when they get up and leave them to sort themselves out.

And when you get home. I'd be re-evaluating the marriage. Do you really wet to spend the rest of your life with someone you seem to despise? His sleeping 10 hours a night is really not the issue here. Although I love a good sleep in ….

What makes you think he was maintaining a lie for 20 years? Do you think that maybe he is just going though a normal process of ageing?
20 years ago I would have told you I was a party girl. Was it a lie? Not a bit. At 43 years old I am categorically not a party person. Not even close. Doesn't mean I would be lying to you at 23. People change, their needs change, their interests change, their energy levels, health and capacity change. If you can't accept this simple fact, you are really going to struggle in life.

It’s not though, because it’s far less hassle for you to do something about it than if you were married.

So you’ve gone somewhere where it’s too hot to do anything after dawn with someone you clearly despise but can only be bothered to complain about it rather than take any positive actions. Mind you, at home you spend the week seeing people you don’t want to see and just carry on who going about that as well.

You can’t be that old if you have young children (but I think you also have adult children). And I doubt you’re actually that popular given the way you post on here.

You can carry on being the modern day Sisyphus if you like of course…….. or you can woman up and sort your life out.

If it's 40 C, you should have gone out on your own before he woke up.
You are not joined at the hip.

OP you can call it a dark sense of humour - but I'm willing to bet in real life you're a bit of a bully...

You sound really awful 😭

So you weren't actually planning to get up at 8am?

You are jealous because his alarm woke you up and you couldn't get back to sleep.

If his alarm hadn't woken you up you would have still been asleep and been 'as lazy' as him and your kids.

Sounds like you can't do anything wrong - I can guarantee that a lot of people would not like you in RL.

Only difference it would make is I just read if you did leave him it’s “your house”.. obviously, if you were married it wouldn’t be the case, so if you’re not then makes things easier in that sense.

Turn the alarm off.
So selfish to put it on an wake you unnecessarily.