AIBU to feel fed up with my husband on holiday?

[Itsa10fromLen]

My god I need to vent! On holiday, OH just cannot come around in the mornings. I know it’s supposed to be a holiday for everyone but how much sleep does one person need? Technically the kids aren’t up so he doesn’t need to be but it’s hard to find a man attractive that needs 10 hours sleep every night and that sets an alarm to sleep through! He also would be upset to miss breakfast (I wouldn’t) so I’m making sure he’s up (I know I should leave him but I can’t stand the grumbling if I didn’t)

And if he tells me he’s sweating and red hot one more time so help me god! Constantly telling us what food he’s had like we can’t see.

I don’t like him, being this close has made that more obvious 😭

If he asks me if I’m having a nice time is it cruel to say no?

Yes but that one is a you problem.

He is also an adult and gets to decide how much sleep he has.

If he doesn’t wake up for breakfast then that’s not a you problem and i wouldn’t allow him to make it so. I’d take a book and go and eat alone if the kids were also still asleep.

I think the biggest issue is you don’t like him. So you’ve decided to judge perfectly acceptable decisions to justify that.

10 hrs - well you know

id be annoyed if he stayed up till 2 and then didn’t get up till 12 because I like to get going by lunch but we would communicate

So the kids are allowed to sleep in but he's not.

If you don’t like him you might as well divorce him.

Some people sleep longer than others, I am that 9/10hrs sleep a night,(when I am not working) you may think it is lazy, no problem with that.

If he misses breakfast, that is on him. He has two choices if self catering he can cook himself something and tidy up the areas after eating.

If food is supplied by hotel, he will either have to wait till lunch or get something from the snack bar.

From reading the op there are more deep rooted situations to be looked at

Sounds like a you problem. I guess your kids are "lazy" as well as they are also not awake...
People need different amounts of sleep. 10h a day won't be unusual for me. And I am categorically not lazy - I have full time job, running a small business on top of it and also have a diverse set of interests and hobbies. I am out and about all day and if my partner told me I was lazy just because I need more sleep than average (which was the case for me my entire life) I don't think I'd like him very much either.

it’s hard to find a man attractive that needs 10 hours sleep every night

That is one of the strangest things I’ve ever read.

LTB (just for the day) and go and do something fun

"I don’t like him, being this close has made that more obvious 😭"

Probably shouldn't have married him then...

If you don’t like him, you won’t like any of his behaviours either , at home or on holiday. I assume the close proximity of the holiday is making it a lot more obvious. Time to reassess your relationship.

I don't think his behaviours are awful, I think you just don't like him anymore. Holidays are very intense when you decide your companion is too annoying - stop focusing on the behaviours that are irritating you and decide what you want to do with your life going forward.

Fuck me reading comprehension skills need a little work. He is literally setting an alarm and sleeping through it. He would be upset to miss breakfast. He is sleeping 10+ hours. I don’t care if he’s on holiday, it’s lazy to sleep that long every night even on holiday. I don’t care if that offends you. If you’ve found someone that thinks you aren’t lazy for sleeping that long on holiday every night, hang onto them because it’s crazy.

Maybe he's staying in bed just to avoid you? I would.

It’s not. He’s fat and lazy. Anyone sleeping 10+ hours on holiday (whilst setting an alarm that wakes their non fat / non lazy partner up) is selfish.

Why aren’t you ranting about your children then who were also asleep?
Its actually your pov that’s crazy, you’re absolutely in the minority for being so over the top enraged about someone sleeping for 10 hours on holiday.

Now he's fat too?

You're a fucking peach, aren't you?

As you like to be busy and have internet access, you could use the time he is sleeping in the morning to find your divorce lawyer, compile a list of all joint and separate financial accounts and policy numbers, apply for a mortgage if you will be buying him out of your home or finding alternative homes for you both. Wouldn't that be more productive and satisfying than grumbling on MN?

Sounds likely.

I’m actually very popular, you just don’t like what I said to you so you can only resort to insulting me. I know what I am and I am happy with it.

YABVU. Sleep is incredibly important; if he’s sleeping then his body needs it. It isn’t laziness.

You don’t need to get him up for breakfast. If he’s upset then so be it, he’s upset.

But blimey, the kids aren’t even awake yet. Do you realise how horrible you sound?

i recommend not going on holiday with someone you don’t like

Yeah, well I wish he would fall off a cliff sooooooo…

This^
Does he have a really demanding job and now he catching up on sleep?
But I don't really think the sleep is the issue. Another wife might feel compassion that he's so tired. Or would be able to use her words, kindly, to say that she's frustrated that the mornings are being wasted. But if the kids aren't up, is that even true?

100%

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