Baby's first birthday to ask for no boxed gifts?

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Is this reasonable or no. For some context: I have bought all the toys I would like my baby to play with and don't want others gifting toys that I have no space to store. Is it appropriate to ask for no boxed gifts? Thanks

Put a tenner in a card - she’s being very cheeky!

What is that even supposed to mean. Gifts are ok if they don't come in a box. Or grabby rude we want cash or we don't want anything.

Depending on your age it seems that being rude and ungrateful is the norm these days. I wouldn't do this but I am 48 and have manners.

What if they don’t? What if it’s baby’s first ever book?

How can three copies of When We We Very Young be too many?

I would either give exactly the kind of gift she gave your children at the same age or a sweet gift handmade by your children and a gift voucher for babysitting during the day so your whole family can come and hang out with the baby.. put £50 on the voucher!!

The latter - I don’t have anyone in my life who’s rude enough to make this demand so I had to look it up.

I like this, a ‘£50’ music session perhaps with the baby and the OP’s DC.

”She is expecting everyone to give £50 or above”

Did she said actually say this? Because that is bonkers

This kind of fuckery is painful, and becoming more common. I have a stack of "fav books" mine, DS and DSs and inscribe and give these to the "no toys" brigade. If was giving ££ to a child, which I have in the past, it would be paid into a named account, not given as cash.

That’s lovely. The request and your response.

@Edenmum2
No she didnt say that. The op’s brother did. But he’s blaming his wife.

Please buy this and wrap it in tissue paper.

This is so vulgar and rude. Do want to point out it is not just your SIL but your brother too! Buy a book, wrap it and don’t get involved in this nonsense.

I would find that rude. If you have all the toys you want your child to have, I would tell people that gifts aren’t required.

"I'm looking forward to celebrating niece's birthday, but I can only give what I can afford at this point, which won't be £50+. I hope that whatever I give will be appreciated, though."

Give whatever the hell you like, if it comes in a box, take it out of the box before you give it. Alternatively don't give anything, or give a piggy bank so baby can put all her fifty quids in it, while Mummy decides what to buy for herself spend it on.

I can't be doing with the entitlement of firstly presuming a gift is being given, secondly demanding what the gift is and thirdly how much that gift/cash should be. The rudeness is unbelievable.

One year old's don't know it is their birthday, they don't have gift lists, they don't care what they get given or don't get given.

Most one year old,s like a big cardboard box to sit in , a saucepan to bang with a wooden spoon, and some messy food to smear all over themselves, job done.

I don’t get how your bro can be ‘inderctly’ telling you he wants everyone to give £50+ but lets pretend he has. I’d have replied in the group ‘Haha, no 1 year old needs £50 brother, i get not wanting gifts clogging up the place so I’ll skip the gift this year.’ X

Tell her to fuck off??

Who dictates what people gift their children?? Sod that!!

I’d just have bought something that didn’t come in a box which is about 99% of what I would have bought anyway (including toys). I had no idea this was a request for money (twee and crass!) and find it unbelievable someone would ask for £50+.

I would just say no gifts for a 1 year old. Quite grabby to expect anything much anyway. Absolutely no way I would be giving cash or vouchers.
In your situation I'd just give a book or some clothes.

I wouldn’t know what you meant. Just be clear. I wouldn’t care if you just wanted cash. I’d understand.

I think it's very cheeky to expect 50+ from people. My ddonly got something from one in law and nothing from the others. I would be happy with anything from them tbh. Just so she had presents to open. Even a little toy for a fiver.

YABVU. It’s not a wedding. Let people buy baby a gift or you say no gifts at all thanks.

Buy a Jack in the box.

Give it to them with the Jack already jumped out of the box. #notinabox

Personally, I don’t like receiving personalised gifts and never give them.

I would definitely not give cash or voucher to the value of £50. £20 is more appropriate as is £15 or £10, depending on your budget. There is no point giving £50 when you can’t afford it and it would mean you struggling or your children going without. Do not go down that road. Start as you mean to go on!